Work achievements are made, not spoken. Whenever and wherever, you should prove your ability with excellent work performance. Just showing off your mouth may fool you for a while, but in the end you will be spurned by your boss or colleagues!

Second, patience and self-restraint.

Many failures in life are due to our lack of patience. The success of some things in one's life often depends on whether you can persist in your efforts.

In addition, treat people with certain self-restraint, be tolerant, and never be too sharp. Things happen, you have to endure, you have to forgive others, forgive others.

Third, generous and friendly address.

When you get along with people, no matter who you are, you should address each other appropriately, even if you are joking with other people's names, you should be measured and enough is enough. You can't just say that you are happy or hurt others' self-esteem!

Fourth, how to be cautious when communicating with people for the first time, and how to arouse each other's interest when talking.

Whenever and wherever we associate with people, especially strangers, we must observe and ponder each other's intentions. What is worth interacting with should be gradual. If communication is difficult or impossible, analyze the reasons. Once you find the answer, you must get out of it in time, and you must not get emotional and fall into the quagmire of careless friends!

If the other person is trustworthy, you can discover his hobbies in time, stir up the same topic, and let the other person feel that you are like him. Instead, you should step back in time and stop talking. As the saying goes: "Every bosom friend is short of a glass of wine, but most lovers talk!" That's the truth.

Fifth, pay attention to your own voice.

At any time, you should adjust the decibel of your tone of voice according to the person you are talking to on different occasions, especially in public places. You should try to control the volume, and you must not be as loud as Hong Zhong, no one is watching! . Of course, under special circumstances, sometimes you have to speak loudly, which is another matter.

Six, when talking with people, pay attention to the use of facial expressions, avoid dancing posture.

When we talk to people at ordinary times, we should not only pay attention to mastering the art of language, but also use facial expressions naturally and moderately. According to the conversation object and conversation content, properly controlling the changes of facial expressions can create a conversation atmosphere and increase the charm of language! However, we must not ignore each other's feelings, indulge ourselves in dancing and make each other feel disgusted.

Seven, concise, appropriate words.

When talking to people at ordinary times, try to be simple and clear, and don't drag your feet, so that people don't know what to say for a long time. In the process of conversation, we should also use words accurately, and we should not be unable to express our meaning and cause unnecessary trouble.

Many troubles in our lives are caused by inappropriate words.

Eight, say what you like, but avoid lies.

When talking with people, you should try your best to attract them, otherwise it is difficult to start a topic. Sometimes, due to the needs of work or life, we have to talk to others or ask for something from others. In order to achieve your goal, you should find out each other's hobbies tactfully, take the initiative to stir up the topic, lure them in step by step, see if the time is ripe, and then turn the conversation to show your real purpose. At this point, the other party is reluctant to part with it, and it is difficult to turn it away because of the feelings.

However, it is worth reminding that you should be honest and not hypocritical. You can't make up lies to achieve your personal goals. In the end, harm others and harm yourself!

Nine, constantly increase their knowledge. If you can't learn from others, it's a failure in your life.

Confucius said, "A threesome must have a teacher!" In other words, among the three people I met by chance on the road, one must be my teacher in some way. This famous saying is full of philosophy. If we carefully taste it, we will find that it has infinite charm of life.

Ten, strive to enrich their knowledge.

There is no end to learning. As the saying goes, it is never too old to learn. If we want to walk in the society and get in touch with people and things in all aspects, we must master certain knowledge, knowledge is power, otherwise you have no confidence in your words and deeds, and you will not be able to hand in a satisfactory answer sheet for your life!

11. Ask modestly and be modest.

No one is perfect. A person always has weaknesses and knowledge that he doesn't understand. Therefore, you should consult others with an open mind, and you should not pretend what you don't understand, for fear that you will be their teacher in other aspects.

We should also be modest, don't talk too much when things go wrong, and leave room for manoeuvre for ourselves. We must know that the weather is unpredictable and the strong will always be strong!

Twelve, the art of dialogue with people

You deal with all kinds of people in your daily life, and it is inevitable to talk to them. Here are four situations for your reference only:

1, because of work or other relations, I need to talk to someone. The other person is a chatterbox. He is eloquent and eloquent; Or the other person is a talkative woman who doesn't care about your feelings. At this time, in order to achieve your goal, you should be patient enough, pretend to be interested if you are not interested, and behave naturally and kindly, so that the other person will feel that you like listening to him or her. Never show the slightest impatience, otherwise, you will definitely return empty-handed!

If you are a talkative person, you must remember the following passage: No matter where you live and talk to people, you should observe what you say. If the other person likes listening to you, you can speak freely and enjoy yourself; If the other person is not interested in listening to you, enough is enough. Otherwise, your endless spying will make the other person disgusted!

3. If you ask someone for business or personal reasons, you may be eager to start a conversation in order to close the distance between them. But you must remember that if the other person is a talkative person and interested in your topic, you can further expand the topic; If the other person doesn't like to talk, and you don't answer after repeated efforts, you should have self-knowledge and stop at once. Otherwise, you will not only ask for trouble, but also spoil the broth!

4, you are a modest gentleman, and you are very low-key. However, you should also note that there is a limit to everything. If you are too modest and say too many polite words, your colleagues and friends will alienate you over time, because being too modest and polite will appear hypocritical!

Thirteen, stubborn and argumentative, I woke up alone.

There is always such a person in life who is stubborn and competitive, always competitive in everything, regardless of the feelings of people around him; Sometimes, in order to be competitive for a while, he even hurts the harmony between friends or colleagues. In his mind, only he has mastered the truth, and what others say is fallacy!

This is an example that we should take as a warning.

Fourteen, the art of speaking when correcting others' mistakes

First of all, you should have a friendly attitude, then carefully ask the other person why he made a mistake, help him analyze the cause and effect, be gentle in the questioning process, and give the other person a sense of intimacy. After that, you should further enlighten him and let him feel the seriousness of his mistake from the heart. Never look directly at each other with the prisoner's eyes, let alone reprimand each other in a questioning tone.

Remember: the tone of questioning at any time is a double-edged sword, which hurts the harmony between husband and wife, brotherhood, friendship among friends and feelings of colleagues!

15. Restrain your vanity

Everyone has vanity. In life, you have to go through complicated things and meet all kinds of people, especially those who walk the rivers and lakes in officialdom and shopping malls. It's hard to be vain!

But we should bear in mind that vanity should be measured and cannot cross the bottom line of objective existence. Don't let vanity blind your eyes, your heart, you can't ruin your reputation for pursuing vanity!

Sixteen, how to treat your work performance correctly?

When you do a good deed or finish a job that is beneficial to everyone, you should keep a low profile and never cry roast meat for fear that others will not know. You know, everyone has a say in your life, your work achievements, and the little things in your life. What you deserve is yours after all!

Seventeen. The art of encouragement

In daily life, practice has proved that the most effective encouragement is praise. If you want to expect subordinates, colleagues or friends to make better achievements, you might as well use praise to stimulate their upward desire and competitive psychology. Only with your kind praise can they play a greater role in their work. On the contrary, if you use harsh tone and harsh and impersonal hard indicators to force them to achieve your goal, the result will be counterproductive!

Eighteen, how to correctly distinguish right from wrong

As the saying goes: no one says who is behind, and no one said that person before. To say right and wrong is right and wrong! When we associate with people, we should feel everyone with your heart. Heart to heart, heart to heart. This is good for you. That man was a man before, and then a ghost. Don't just look at the surface, use your head and measure it with a ruler of your heart. Sometimes, in order to please you, people often report others in front of you. At this time, you should be clear-headed, don't be confused by his (her) superficial enthusiasm, and think carefully about his (her) words. Otherwise, if you don't distinguish right from wrong, it will bring unnecessary trouble to your life.

Nineteen, how to get along with the boss?

It is very important to keep a proper distance when getting along with your boss. You should not only be emotionally involved, but also grasp a certain bottom line.

As a boss, if you have no distance from your subordinates, you won't be a boss.

In order to win the boss's favor, you should let him appreciate your talent and work for him. However, don't be too sharp in your contact with your boss. You should always make your boss feel that your work performance is the result of his leadership. No matter how great your achievements are, you should safeguard the prestige and power of your boss everywhere, and avoid being arrogant and usurping the role of master!

Sometimes it is found that the boss has made mistakes in his work decision. You can't play dumb, you can't tell the truth, and you can't point out the boss's mistakes in front of everyone! Because you are deaf and dumb, there are two possibilities for the boss to think of you afterwards: 1, you are lack of responsibility, 2, you are a person with no opinion; Telling the truth will make your boss lose face, be in an awkward position and resent you; Everyone points it out, which makes the boss lose face. I can't wait to fire you at once!

The correct way is to praise the uniqueness of the boss's decision first, then talk about the benefits this decision will bring to the enterprise, and finally point out the mistakes, euphemistically saying that it would be more perfect if it were revised here. Then, if the boss doesn't object, you can say your correct opinion while the iron is hot. In general, your boss will adopt your opinion. Not only did you help the boss correct his mistakes, but you also showed your talents properly!

Therefore, you should especially remember that the correct way to treat your boss's advantages and disadvantages is to praise him publicly and criticize him privately.

In addition, praise the boss should be measured, not too much, otherwise it will put the boss in an embarrassing situation!

Also, if you have good suggestions and methods at work, you should talk to your boss privately in time so that your good suggestions and methods can be told by your boss. Don't show off your unique opinions in front of the boss and everyone! Of course, if the boss lets everyone express their opinions at the meeting, you can give full play to your talents, but you should also control the temperature to prevent showing off.

Twenty, how to live in harmony with friends

A hedge between keeps friendship green. Open your heart to friends and be honest with each other. Friends should trust each other and don't be suspicious for no reason. Friends should keep in touch moderately, neither too enthusiastic nor too distant. You can't criticize your friend for his mistakes. You should be good at inducing him and inspiring him to realize the harm of his mistakes.

When dealing with the relationship between friends, we should not control or rely on friends.

In terms of personal privacy, don't extend your tentacles too deep, and also prevent your friends' tentacles from invading your territory.

If a friend is in trouble or needs help in life, you should be duty-bound and support him wholeheartedly. In short, you and your friends should be honest with each other and share weal and woe. If you are true friends, you will cross the ocean of life hand in hand.

Fair-weather friends and hypocritical friends are another matter.

Twenty-one, how to live in harmony with colleagues

Colleagues and friends are different, you should always keep a certain distance from them! Everything is moderate, impartial and enough is enough.

You must not invade your colleagues' private space, but also stick to your own privacy position. Don't talk to their personal friends, don't talk about everything! Don't talk to colleagues about people and things in the unit without scruple. Maybe your opinion will reach the victim or the boss that day. As the saying goes: talk to everyone, but don't leave everything in my heart! That's the truth.

In your daily work, every colleague may be your opponent. In business ability, you should do your duty and give full play to your talents, but in expression, you should take care of your colleagues' feelings and don't hurt their self-esteem; In terms of personal interests, as long as it doesn't exceed your bottom line, you can make a little sacrifice and let your colleagues share some of the benefits you get.

When you get along with your colleagues, you should have a say in the people close to you. However, in dealing with relationships, you should not only take care of your colleagues invisibly, but also control the temperature appropriately so as not to offend those colleagues who have a bad relationship with you; That is to say, colleagues who are opposed to you at work, as long as they don't harm your personality and your job, you should tolerate him or her for three points. Sometimes the contradiction is big, you should take the initiative to reconcile the relationship and make him (her) embarrassed to be your enemy again. Of course, for those colleagues who are always plotting behind your back and want to get rid of them quickly, you should also have corresponding strategies, tit for tat, and deal with a man as he deals with you!