whether it is a lively and outgoing child or a shy and timid child. Everyone hopes to have good friends to accompany them, to play with them, to fight with them, to share happiness and troubles. However, when children get along with their friends, they always have a bad time. After playing for a while, they will cause conflicts, and even cry and make a scene. If they don't play together, they will look forward to being together. If they are really together, they can't get along well. The world of children is really confusing.

But it's no wonder. After all, every child is a novice on the road to making friends. They can only stumble forward. Sometimes they just need a small contradiction. The boat of friendship turns over. How can they get along with friends? Children really need to learn a lot before they can gradually become proficient from a novice, so how to learn?

Let's go to the picture book "Ways to Make Friends" and see what are the secrets of making friends. This picture book was created by Japanese writer Takai Xihe. Because the author saw many bullying incidents, he thought of creating some meaningful picture books for children to help them realize that good friends will benefit you for life, and friends are lifelong wealth. He is full of concern for children's growth, and has created many picture books with inspiring themes. The Method of Making Friends is one of them. For preschool children, interpersonal communication is a very important task in their development, and it is also a big problem.

This picture book "Ways to Make Friends" is too specific and practical. The author of this picture book is like an understanding teacher, patiently and solicitously teaching children the secrets of making friends. The author takes into account many details of children making friends, and the content is very close to the real scenes that children encounter in their daily lives. The method of teaching children is particularly operational. What is more valuable is that the author not only guides children on the level of making friends, but also implies some values and deep thinking about interpersonal relationships in the skills and methods.

Let's find out what specific methods of making friends are available first. The picture book uses a game schema to show these methods, such as how to initiate communication actively. There are two ways, you can say hello directly, or you can attract each other indirectly by singing. In the process of communication, the more important method is to communicate actively and communicate with each other. For example, if you make a mistake, you should be brave enough to say sorry to your friends; If you accept help, you should sincerely express your gratitude; But what circumstances need to apologize and what circumstances need to express gratitude? Children may still be very ignorant, so the picture book uses wheel-shaped icons to clearly explain to children what situations need to say sorry to each other and what situations need to say thank you to each other. When reading, we can also explain to children how to apologize and express gratitude correctly in combination with examples in their lives. If this happens in our life, we can encourage our children to apply what they have learned in the book.

Next, let's look at the values conveyed by the author. On the title page of the book, Xiaohe asked the children a question. What do you think is the most important thing when making friends? In picture books, the author constantly inspires children to think about this problem. For example, the author introduces various children, some of whom have advantages, while others have some disadvantages, such as lying, showing off, arrogance and so on. Why does the author mention children with shortcomings? We don't want children to associate with children with shortcomings. In fact, the author's attitude of treating both shortcomings and advantages equally is to tell children that they can't generalize, that minor faults can't represent a person's whole, and that they can't be excluded or alienated because of their shortcomings. Tolerance and acceptance between people is not only an important rule of interpersonal communication, but also represents a person's mind and realm.

In addition, the story also mentions that you can try to attract others' attention by singing. But when we sing, we may successfully attract each other, or we may not attract others' attention. In the same way, when we apologize to others, we may get forgiveness from the other party, or we may refuse and not accept it. If the behavior initiated by the child doesn't get the expected result, then he needs to start all over again and try another method, so that the child will understand that although we have made the right behavior in the interaction, we can't force each other to respond according to our expectations. Even if the other person's response is not what we expected, we should learn to respect each other's feelings in communication. Only with a respectful attitude can we have friendly behavior.

In addition, the author tells children through several specific game situations that they should understand and take into account their friends' feelings, help others enthusiastically and work together with Qi Xin. For example, it is very important to ask Xiaowu to play with cars, share umbrellas with Xiaomei and play baseball with friends. Young children's psychological development is still immature, and it is difficult for them to read other people's inner thoughts, which requires them to learn to understand other people's psychology in real interpersonal situations, even interpersonal conflicts, and learn to be considerate and concerned.

In addition to the above attitudes towards people, the author also mentioned his attitude towards himself, and everyone will treat others as he treats himself. Therefore, the author will start with himself, guide children to know and like themselves, and form a correct attitude towards themselves. So how can children know and like themselves better? The picture book starts from nine aspects, and each aspect has carefully designed many choices suitable for children, from which children can choose the things and things they like, so that they can better understand themselves.

After getting to know yourself, the author still reminds me to like myself. If a child can like himself, he will become a confident and happy child. This trait itself is the trait of a popular child, and his attitude towards himself will make him not lose himself in the interaction with others. For example, he won't doubt himself because others refuse him, feel that he is not good enough, and become timid and timid, or blindly cater to others. A positive self will make him think more positively about the appropriateness of his behavior in the face of rejection from others, so as to adjust his communication style. A healthy and complete self can develop healthy and positive interpersonal interaction.

finally, let's analyze the author's guidance methods for children. The book adopts a gamification method, which makes children feel very involved and interesting. Children can not only understand how these methods should be used in operation, but also stimulate and mobilize some memories and experiences of children in actual activities, and give out some positive emotions and feelings from their hearts. Game activities will make children's learning happen naturally, so I think this is a very intimate book for making friends, which is not only practical but also very interesting.