Interpersonal relationship is a relationship of unity of opposites. People are interdependent and attractive, but they are also separated and mutually exclusive. When interdependence is dominant, it shows interpersonal attraction, and when separation is dominant, it shows interpersonal rejection. Interpersonal exclusion is harmful to interpersonal relationships, and sometimes even has a great negative impact on interpersonal communication. How to do well in interpersonal communication? First of all, we should eliminate all kinds of bad factors that hinder the establishment of good interpersonal relationships. The negative factors that affect interpersonal communication mainly include: (1) distance to get along with, and the first is spatial distance. In the same office, the same occasion and the same activity circle, it is easy to establish good interpersonal relationships, that is, friendship relationships, because of frequent encounters, contacts, exchanges and mutual assistance. The establishment of good interpersonal relationship lies in the mutual acceptance caused by mutual attraction. We find each other's thoughts, attitudes, interests, ways of dealing with people and so on. We have our own likes and interests, so we communicate constantly. In the process of continuous communication, we can get to know each other better and become bosom friends. (2) A person's personality and ability affect the establishment of interpersonal relationships. People envy excellent and capable people. People who are sincere, frank, helpful, modest, cautious, strict with themselves and tolerant of others are attractive to people; A person with strong ability can easily arouse the admiration of others and voluntarily establish good interpersonal relationships with him. Generally speaking, people tend to like people who are smart and have small shortcomings, which is called "whipping effect" in psychology. It means that a wise man accidentally makes a little mistake, which not only does not affect his advantages, but makes people feel that he will make mistakes just like ordinary people, and has an ordinary side, which makes people feel good and safe. (3) An important condition for establishing close interpersonal relationship through communication is mutual attraction. If one party is full of enthusiasm and admiration for the other, and the other party shows indifference and contempt, it is impossible to establish a good interpersonal relationship. The mutual attraction between the two sides is caused by their similarity and complementarity. Besides similarity and complementarity, appearance is also a factor. A person with dignified appearance and elegant speech will always leave a good first impression, which in itself is an attraction, making people willing to continue to associate with him and have a good imagination and explanation of his words and deeds. This will help both sides to establish good interpersonal relationships. (4) Interpersonal perception refers to the cognition of the relationship between people. It includes a person's understanding of his relationship with others and his understanding of the relationship with others. The object of interpersonal perception is interpersonal relationship. Good interpersonal perception and impression will promote the establishment, maintenance and development of good interpersonal relationships; On the contrary, the bad impression of interpersonal perception will hinder the establishment and maintenance of good interpersonal relationships. Secondly, we should pay attention to the art in interpersonal communication. (1) Look for * * * similarities and seek common ground in interpersonal communication. The establishment and improvement of interpersonal relationship must be based on the interests and needs of both parties. In the process of interpersonal communication, we should clearly realize that the vibration of each other's needs is the adhesive that attracts both sides. Of course, * * * is always a relative concept, and everyone's experience, mission and mood are different, so we can't hold a perfect fantasy. Be a general, don't haggle over every ounce, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. (2) Know yourself and yourself. Sun Tzu said, "Know yourself and your enemy, and you will win every battle." In the process of communication, we should fully estimate our position in each other's relationship, understand each other's purpose, requirements, advantages and disadvantages, estimate to what extent we can influence or even change each other's attitude, and design a communication plan according to each other's situation, so that we can be sure when we act. However, the plan is difficult to predict changes. Modern society is changeable, and leaders should adapt to this rhythm in the field of communication. In addition, in the face of emergencies, we should stabilize our emotions, quickly straighten out various interest relationships, adjust the original plan, and dilute the tense atmosphere. You can use the method of diverting your sight, or push the boat with the current, seize the opportunity, make friends and communicate with all parties. When one's own side is at a disadvantage, it's not rude to stay calm and lose heart. Be more considerate of losers and don't be snobbish. (3) Understand the mentality, grasp the emotions and pay attention to communication. People often play the lute to a cow, satirizing the absurd practice of not distinguishing the object, being out of date and acting blindly. In the field of communication, we should put an end to such foolish actions. Communication is an emotional communication and a psychological phenomenon of human beings. Complex interpersonal relationships often make people feel sad and happy when making friends. The distress caused by one communication will affect the mood of another communication and cause emotional expression.