Why do some people see things with negative emotions? Why don’t they say yes? Here, there are the following reasons. The first is that this person is a negative person, with negative emotions and negative personality. This kind of person may have grown up in a repressed family, developed a rebellious character since childhood, and loves to say no! Loves to speak out against others. When you are with someone, others agree with you, but he insists on saying "no". The second is that you have been unfairly treated and hurt on the road of life! He lacks trust in his own surroundings and social circles, so he thinks that nothing is right. In his world, everyone and everything are upside down. If a person sees the world crookedly, the world is not right, but he is the only one who is right.

In fact, this kind of person with negative emotions is very dangerous. He lacks trust in society and the people around him, is unwilling to implement the leader's words, and lacks love for others, which will bring troubles to his life. More troubles and disadvantages will come. Moreover, when the negative emotions are strong, he is likely to make mistakes in a specific environment or on things. Moreover, people around him are not willing to make friends with him, and he can easily be regarded as a garbage person. Therefore, for people who often have negative emotions, they should see a psychologist to gradually reverse their emotions, heal the pain deep in their hearts, let go of their mood, make themselves happy and enthusiastic, and get together with their families as soon as possible. Colleagues, social integration, make yourself a passionate person in society, a positive person, embracing life and society with full emotions.

As the saying goes, the bigger the forest is, the more birds there are. The environment in which human beings live is like a big forest. The people in it are all kinds of creatures, of all kinds and types.

Therefore, it is not surprising that some people always look at things and problems with negative emotions. They only look at the dark side and talk about the bad side of everything.

On the one hand, in the big forest we live in, those "birds" with negative emotions exist normally, and everyone has the freedom to express their opinions. Naturally, what the negative "birds" express is undoubtedly what they think is bad.

On the other hand, most things in the world have two sides, both good and bad. Whether it is good or bad often depends on the angle from which you look at the problem. Different angles will of course lead to different conclusions. Generally speaking, optimists tend to see the good side, while pessimists tend to see the bad side.

To sum up, people with negative emotions are normal people in society. Of course they view things negatively; and many things are both good and bad in themselves, and they are said to be bad. On the one hand, it is naturally normal.

Therefore, there is really no need to make a fuss about the fact that some people nowadays always look at things with negative emotions and always talk about the negative side as mentioned by the questioner, just let them talk about it. People often say that tolerance means greatness. We should be able to tolerate the good things and the bad things. This is normal.

As the saying goes, one branch blooming alone is not spring, but a hundred flowers blooming together fill the garden. How nice that is.

However, what we are talking about here are normal people, normal mentality, and normal things. It doesn’t matter whether you say it well or not.

And if there are ulterior motives, out-of-the-box thinking, or even a conspiracy mentality, the originally good things will be said to be bad or bad things, in a dark and shameful way. If you have a mentality that makes you want to take everyone into the gutter and harm everyone, then it must be a different matter.

For such people, we must mercilessly expose them, exclude them, isolate them, and even beat them up. Treat them like rats crossing the street, creating a situation where everyone shouts for beatings, so that Their living space is slowly shrinking, thereby restoring tranquility, truth and peace to the environment in which we all live together.

To be precise, it is not that we look at problems with negative emotions, but that there are inherently negative things in society. People who only talk about negative issues only objectively reflect the world (the negative part, not all), and are just as one-sided as people who only talk about positive issues.

There are actually very few people who can look at the world comprehensively and objectively. Any approach that requires others to give up negative views from a positive perspective or asks others to give up positive views from a negative perspective is unreasonable and even moral kidnapping. Moreover, a common phenomenon in society is that people who usually talk positively and sing high-profile words will scold them more fiercely than anyone else once their interests are harmed!

Personally, I think whether you have negative emotions is related to your family growth environment, personal circumstances, education level, and horizons and interests. If a person has been accustomed to harsh criticism since childhood, or has always encountered setbacks and discrimination, then he will be more inclined to view things with negative emotions. These are the first two factors, which mainly affect people's emotions and emotions, and lead to two extremes in a negative sense: extreme pessimism and negativity, unable to recover; or hatred of all revenge against society.

The latter two factors determine a person's ability to see the world. Because only education can give people the ability to think positively and rationally about everything around them, and explore the secrets behind appearances. A person without much education does not have this ability, and it is difficult to understand why others do what they do.

Of course, even if you have education and insight, if your vision is limited for various reasons, or you are naturally not interested in the surrounding things, then it will be difficult to form a sound personality and integrity under this premise. point of view. Such people either have prejudices due to their narrow vision, or they limit themselves due to lack of interest and are stuck in their ways. They easily use the label of "negative energy" to reject everything they don't know or don't want to know.

In short, among these four factors, the first two factors determine whether a person is optimistic; the latter two factors determine whether a person is stupid. Pessimistic emotions may be negative energy; but stupidity is definitely negative energy, although it is always labeled as "negative energy" everywhere.

In fact, energy itself does not matter whether it is positive or negative. Normally, energy that is in line with one's own interests is called positive energy; energy that is not in line with one's interests is called negative energy. But there are exceptions. For example, although certain energy is in someone's interest, he mistakenly believes that it is not in his own interest, so he calls it negative energy. This is the result of insufficient education and vision.

There is a teacher who organizes a symposium for parents and students to address some of the bad opinions that current students and parents have about teachers.

The teacher put 10 math problems on the blackboard, and he answered them one by one. The first 9 questions were all correct, but the last one was wrong.

As a result, the parents and classmates below were talking a lot, saying that the teacher was not very good, had no skills, etc.

The teacher smiled and said: Why didn’t you see that all the first 9 questions I answered were correct, and none of you agreed. And if the last question is wrong, will it negate the previous results?

Think about it, everyone! ! !

People who enjoy negative emotions all have one common characteristic, selfishness. They only see one side of the problem, which is their own side. They do not recognize the side that involves others. No matter who the other party is, they will not talk about the good side. They only emphasize the side that is not good for them, and they usually complain. Full of resentment and resentment, they will fight to the death if anyone tries to reason with them, exposing their selfish nature.

Environment determines everything. "At the beginning of man's life, his nature is good." How to guide society, how to educate human beings. The ideas instilled in people from childhood play a decisive role.

The environment around you since childhood, the people you come into contact with, and the words you hear can all leave a deep imprint on people's minds.

This can only show that there are too many negative things in society. Engineers of the human soul clamor all day long to choose this profession and choose poverty. There is too little positive energy shown in front of students. Students hear too many negative things from an early age.

When society exists corruption, unfair distribution, and industry oppression. In a society where people are dominated by material things, when others cannot meet their material needs, they will have thoughts and emotions of wishing for God to leave it to man. Your mind will be filled with negative things that are not good or wrong. They even do things that go beyond the moral bottom line, such as touching porcelain when an old man touches porcelain. What's more, some may break the law and commit crimes.

Therefore, the purification of society must be strengthened. We need to strengthen management and rectification of negative things. Spread more positive energy. Don’t publicize this angle or that star less, and pursue high consumption.

Make society a pure land. Let people's ideological awareness continue to improve, and positive energy exists everywhere. The social environment can be better. Only when people are enlightened can they become more noble.

One point of view in psychology is that emotions have nothing to do with what happened itself, but are related to our views on the matter. For example: Little A saw his colleagues whispering, and he thought they were talking bad about him behind his back, so he was in a bad mood all afternoon. But when he got off work, his colleague told him that he planned to celebrate Little A’s birthday on the weekend, and the whispers at noon were all about how to celebrate it. At this time, Little A's mood improved instantly. The same thing is seeing colleagues whispering about this matter. It was Xiao A's change of perspective on this matter that caused his mood to change.

Knowing that emotions come from our views on events, we can naturally think that negative emotions also come from our negative views on things. The negative view of things actually comes from the deep-rooted negative ideas deep in our hearts.

For example: when we think of the word grassland, foodies may think of sheep-mutton-barbecue; environmentalists may think of environmental pollution-wild animals-endangered; and travel enthusiasts may think of Think of the scenery - yurt - blue sky and white clouds. These different associations are due to their different underlying concepts.

In today’s work, study and life, there is too much pressure that easily causes people to have negative thoughts. Coupled with the problems of the family of origin that have been mentioned more and more frequently in the past two years: many people may have been ingrained with many negative concepts since childhood, and these negative deep-seated concepts will distort what they see and hear. , processed into the same frequency as this negative concept, and then they will look at everything with negative emotions. Just like foodies will process the word grassland into mutton, environmentalists will process the word into environmental protection, and travel enthusiasts will process the word into blue sky and white clouds, people with negative ideas in their hearts will look at everything. With negative thoughts, it will naturally bring out various negative emotions.

The question asked: Why not say the good side? What's the bright side? It's an opportunity, it's a hope. But why don’t these people say something good? On the one hand, it is because of the deep negative concepts mentioned above that they have a "limited vision" and cannot "see" these good sides at all; on the other hand, maybe they have tried to change many times before, But they all end in failure. This habitual failure eventually makes people give up trying and never pay attention to the good side.

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Because it hits the nail on the head

The eyes of the masses are sharp, and they are the foundation of a building If it's crooked, no matter how beautifully it's repaired, it may collapse at any time.

When you suspect something is wrong, something is definitely wrong. Especially when you feel that the problem is unclear, it is often a big problem.

This kind of problem is beyond your cognition, but its manifestations are contrary to your education, life experience, and conscience, so you feel uncomfortable. This kind of problem is a big problem.

Of course, we do not rule out all kinds of trolls, because trolls oppose because of their opposition and do not have any rationality. When encountering trolls, you should stay away and don’t stand with fools.

Living conditions are much better now than before the reform and opening up. Many older people say that life now is just like the Chinese New Year in the past. Logically speaking, people should be satisfied with their current lives. Maybe as China moves towards the world, some people want a better living environment. It is normal to have some opinions on some one-sided issues that exist in society. There are also some people with ulterior motives who turn a blind eye to the good aspects and specifically look for policies that the government has not yet perfected to attack and discredit. These people are not patriotic but will never find the North after two good days.