? My daughter made her first good friend in kindergarten, a little girl named Yao Yao. Since they became good friends, they played in the kindergarten for an hour or two every day after school, and they didn't go home until all the children in the kindergarten left. Yao Yao became her daughter's only good friend in kindergarten. The single-minded daughter even rejected the friendship of other children. When other children want to join them, her daughter will refuse others: "We won't play with you." This situation lasted for two or three days, and the daughter and Yao Yao had their first skirmish.
? There is a small tricycle in the kindergarten. A child can sit in the front and a child can sit in the back. My daughter seldom rides a bike, so she can never master the skills. Every time she comes to ride a bike, it always stays still, and Yao Yao rides very well, so Yao Yao becomes a rider, and her daughter is always the little passenger. This afternoon, they played cycling together again, and her daughter naturally sat in the back. After Yao Yao rode twice, maybe she was too tired. She came down, pulled her daughter down and rode away by herself. I let my daughter stand with a blank face. Later, my daughter chased after me desperately, while chasing and shouting, wait for me, wait for me! When she finally caught up, Yao Yao suddenly said, "I won't play with you." Then I gave my daughter a push and rode away. Daughter was rejected by her best friend! And for no reason, she can't accept it at all. She was so sad that she burst into tears Crying about not playing with me.
? I sympathize with my daughter, trying to appease her, telling her that making friends can't be forced, and Yao Yao may just want to play for a while. The sad daughter can't accept this at all. She kept breaking down and crying, looking at Yao Yao while crying and saying, "I just want to play with her." I couldn't comfort her, so I held her in my arms and told her, "Mom understands how you feel. If you are rejected, you will be very sad and angry. Everyone is like this. " When I said this, maybe my feelings were understood and my daughter cried even more.
? I just held her and made her cry. When my daughter's emotions were released, it suddenly occurred to me that Yao Yao was tired of riding a bike with her daughter, but she didn't know what to say, so she made this move. I patiently explained to my daughter. After the explanation, I asked her if she still wanted to play with Yao Yao. She insisted on it. Then I took my hand to Yao Yao and said to Yao Yao, "Let's play with my kitten!" "Yao Yao looked at her and nodded happily. The two children went to play happily together again.
? Little trouble between children, though simple. However, if we ignore these trivial matters and deal with problems without our own emotions, but accept children's emotions and actively guide them, children will gradually learn to deal with their emotions and find ways to solve problems.
? I don't know what happened yesterday when my father took my daughter to kindergarten. After taking a bath at night, my daughter remembered the situation in kindergarten in the afternoon and began to cry again. She cried and said that Yao Yao didn't play with me. When I heard her say this, I hugged her and told her, "The child won't play with you or refuse you, not because she hates you or because you are not good. You are very cute, and many people like and love you. Maybe Yao Yao just wants to play by herself for a while, or she wants to play with other children. When she doesn't play with you, you can play with other friends or by yourself. " When I said this, she didn't cry like the first time. She soon calmed down, then hugged me and spoiled happily.
? Children have strong adaptability and learning ability. When there is a situation that she can't handle, the parents' behavior determines whether the child learns to deal with it or is at a loss.
? This incident also made me understand more deeply that when we fully accept the child, help him understand the feelings of others, teach him to solve problems, and let him slowly adjust his emotions and stop falling into the panic of rejection, this little person will also bring us surprises for growth.