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Should college fall in love?
1, stay away from greasy and bureaucratic people.

In college, there must be such a person around you: dressing up all day is a suit and tie, carrying a briefcase, and full of bureaucratic "Hello, Chairman Li and Minister Zhang". Without any skills, I will only lick my teacher, lower my grade, and be full of snobbery and superiority when dealing with people. When you meet such a person, I advise you to stay away from him. I don't advise you to make friends with him, let alone fall in love with him. University-is the second development and construction period of your world outlook. What kind of people you make friends with and fall in love with will often greatly affect your future life and social thinking mode. When you fall in love with such a person, he won't teach you what maturity is. On the contrary, it will make you mercenary and annoying in the eyes of people around you. When you fall in love in college, you can find those capable members of the opposite sex to make yourself excellent. But don't look for people who are "incompetent and only posturing". It is a fact that the people near Zhu Zhechi and Mexico are black. Note: such people often hang out with unhealthy students' unions.

2. It is best not to choose a long-distance relationship.

I just suggest that you don't choose a long-distance relationship, but if you feel that "mutual love is really strong and you have enough patience and ways to deal with problems", then this long-distance relationship will also bring you growth. But the reason why I don't suggest it is because of the high risk of long-distance love, low sense of love, short company time, and vicious behaviors such as derailment and deception. After all, the university is a stage where you can enjoy the beauty of love quietly, regardless of material things. If you fall in love through the screen, you must learn to experience loneliness alone in college. You should learn to restrain your inner jealousy, and at the same time keep a distance from the opposite sex around you and be loyal to love. Nine times out of ten, long-distance relationships are sad. If both parties are not higher than their peers in emotional intelligence and intelligence, then most of this relationship will be exhausted.

Don't fall in love with people who are depressed and negative.

I found an interesting phenomenon when I investigated the love concept in college: what kind of partner you chose in college actually profoundly affected your four-year trend. If you choose a partner who is addicted to games, clubbing all day and telling you that "it doesn't matter if you fail the course", you will become mediocre for most of the four years in college and learn nothing. However, if you choose a partner who is self-disciplined and positive, can enrich college time, but is not boring, then the meaning of your love is not limited to "finding someone to accompany you", but growing into a "better person" through mutual encouragement. To be realistic, there are many people who can accompany you to play games in college, but there are really few people who can accompany you to urge you to pass CET-4 and CET-6 and get straight A's. Don't find someone who will only play with you and waste time and study. You will eventually realize that "the beating of society is to pay off the debts you once owed." And those who accompany you to become excellent slowly are the ones you really should consider and choose. Similarly, you can find a person who is not particularly good, but you must not find a person who is particularly poor and lacks self-discipline, otherwise such love will be exhausted and you will have nothing after breaking up.

4. Don't look for a "sexual experience officer"

No matter how good the university is, there is actually a "sexual experience officer". This has nothing to do with a person's education. This kind of person just met you, and casually moved you. At the same time, when communicating with you, three sentences can not be separated from the so-called "sexual liberation", which has been instilling in you that "college love without sex is incomplete." To tell the truth, such a person is "greedy for your body, he is cheap." The purpose of his love is not to experience the beauty of love, but to satisfy his inner desires and impulses. I don't object to sex in college, but if you don't see a person's personality and sense of responsibility clearly, I advise you not to have sex easily, which is especially important for girls. Such a sexual experience officer will gradually let you down your guard and bad feelings through the paralysis and induction of language, and instill in you the wrong concept that "all love activities are only natural if you establish your partner status." As long as you are a little defensive or resistant, you will be forced to compromise on the grounds that "you don't love him enough". Once you agree to his inducement, this kind of love rat will step up its occupation and make further demands. Similarly, you will find that when you refuse such people several times, they will stop pursuing you, but will shift their goals to others. They won't waste time on a person, because the real purpose is not to fall in love, but to find a way to "how to Bai Piao".

5. Don't fall in love with "central air conditioning"

You can find someone who has a good relationship with the opposite sex. He is popular with most people. There must be something valuable about him. But don't fall in love with someone who knows his brother and sister everywhere. You will find that being with such people will be beautiful at first, but once such people are tired, they will never be vague again. Don't believe such nonsense as "ta and I are just good friends, and I always regard ta as my brother/sister". To put it bluntly, people who say hello all day are not friends, but "spare tires". Tired of using new tires, they will naturally be replaced by substitutes. This kind of person's falling in love will make you feel insecure, sensitive and suspicious, and even be deeply hurt once, so you have been afraid to touch love in college. Therefore, people who encounter "central air conditioning" should avoid it if they can, and try not to make friends if they are not interested, otherwise you don't know if the other party has developed you into a potential spare tire.

6. Refuse to live a sloppy life.

In your college years, you will meet a group of sloppy horse-haired men and women. Understand: Your college love must be a common growth in an equal relationship, not raising an immature young son or daughter. Don't think that people who can't even take care of themselves are cute. When you fall in love with such a mother treasure, you will know how horrible it is. "My mother said that my boyfriend in college must find someone who can take care of me." "My mother said that I can't find someone who is too far away from home to fall in love." "My mother said that falling in love with someone like you is not suitable for me at all." Such a mother subconsciously has a very low sense of responsibility for her partner, usually without considering her own subjective feelings, and often asks her partner for self-centeredness. At the same time, when you are in love, you will be very concerned about your mother's opinion and lack your own subjective choice and judgment. You don't need to help a person who is not weaned grow up, and it's hard for you to change his mother-centered thinking. In the end, it will only be fatigue on your side, but such a mother treasure will always disagree.