Text/Qi Qile

My friend Xiaoxian confided in me that her recent life has been very bad. Her chances of promotion disappeared overnight, and her husband’s career also disappeared. She had hit a ceiling, the nanny at home was about to resign, and there was a lull in taking care of the baby. So many bad things came one after another that she was overwhelmed.

However, the fairy in our eyes is indeed like this: she owns three properties in Shenzhen, her husband loves her very much, her children are cute and lively, she has a house, a car, a baby and a family, and she is alive at the age of thirty. Become a winner in life.

The beauty in the eyes of others cannot cover up the flaws in life, nor can it erase the bumps and bruises in life.

I remembered that little S recently cried bitterly late at night. When she burst into tears, she said something: "Every step of marriage is difficult. I hope you can survive until the end." The word "support" expresses the infinite pain in my heart. In fact, not only is marriage difficult in life, but every step taken is also difficult. There is no word "easy" in the adult world. A life riddled with holes is not only applicable to ordinary people, but even the dazzling stars on the stage may be hindered by the difficulties of life.

I also think of "Ode to Joy 2". Although it has ended, the story of the five beauties in the play still continues to be played out in real life. Five girls with different temperaments, different backgrounds, and different life experiences are actually the epitome and reflection of countless people in real life.

Ordinary people like us, everyone has his own joys, sorrows and joys, and everyone is experiencing a life full of holes. Whether it is Andy, who is wealthy and good-looking, or the rich second-generation princess Qu Xiaoxiao, not to mention the ordinary little earthworms and Guan Guan, or Fan Shengmei, who is shackled by her native family, they are all living in reality. In life, we have experienced the baptism of love, family affection and friendship, and we have learned to experience the tears flowing into our mouths but insisting on turning into sweet taste in the many holes in life.

Andy, whom everyone admires, seems to outsiders to be rich and beautiful, and lacks nothing. However, she is the most fearful and insecure deep in her heart. There is always a bomb that can explode at any time deep in her soul. She doesn't know when she will suddenly have a mental illness, which will make the meaning of life disappear. , let everything you own turn to ashes in an instant. She used a cold appearance to cover up her helplessness, and looked at her life from a distance. Although she has a huge net worth, she has a heart that rejects others. Even ordinary people who are in a normal relationship and have children do not dare to covet her. While others were envious of her wealth and good looks, she was envious of the ordinary lives of ordinary people.

Qu Xiaoxiao, the second generation of rich people, everyone thinks that she has lived in a honeypot since she was a child, never having enough money to spend, and living a transparent and bold life. However, she never thought that Qu Xiaoxiao’s father’s severe patriarchal preference for girls made Qu Xiaoxiao always have two views on things. She worked hard to express herself, and flew abroad to discuss business during holidays, creating hundreds of millions of dollars for the branch. The purpose of profit is just to attract the attention of the father who values ??boys over girls, and just to make parents who are devoted to making money take a second look at themselves.

Yes, pressure and pain are full of every corner of life. We cannot change our lives, but we can change our attitude towards life. In fact, everyone's life has been full of holes and thorns, which are related to money, desire, pressure and happiness.

Behind everyone’s happiness is riddled with helplessness. However, life always gives us more solutions than troubles.

How to live a life full of problems into a life like poetry? It sounds like a fantasy, but in fact there are traces to follow.

I remember reading this story before: Reiko’s husband was sent abroad for a year. She followed her husband to an underdeveloped country where she was unfamiliar with, surrounded by deserts and swamps. They are indigenous residents. Not only do they not understand the language, but they also have very different living habits. Her husband was busy at the construction site every day. Reiko was bored and bored at home alone. All kinds of frustration and loss hit her overwhelmingly.

However, after the tears, life still has to go on. As wise as Reiko, she quickly made peace with herself after a period of depression.

She took the initiative to go out and make friends with local people and learn the local customs and culture. At this time, she was surprised to find that the local people were very accepting and friendly to her. She began to learn the local language and their exquisite pottery craftsmanship.

A year later, when Reiko's husband's assignment expired, she reluctantly said goodbye to the locals with the language and pottery skills she had learned. This year, Reiko's picture of life has become richer.

When you expel bad emotions and change your life with actions, your days will be like dewdrops under the rainbow, shining with crystal clear and colorful light, and your life will begin to show rich colors like glaze. Warm and colorful, life is like the rising sun, interpreting beautiful landscapes.

Yes, when faced with the same half-full bottle of water, some people will always only see the half-empty bottle, while some people will only see the half-full bottle.

Faced with the same thing, pessimistic people see a gloomy, negative and hopeless side; while optimistic people see a sunny and hopeful side.

An ancient saying goes: A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise.

Everything has two sides. Think of the good side when encountering problems, make more positive psychological suggestions, and take action. The fog in your heart will be peeled away layer by layer, and the sailing ship of life will sail towards the destination. A brighter direction.

The famous Nobel economist Paul Samuelson first proposed the happiness index formula as: happiness = happiness/desire.

It can be seen from the formula that the more happiness and less desire, the higher the happiness index.

In this era of materialistic desires, the increasing expansion of desires forces us to work harder to pursue happiness. Increasing the weight of happiness is a required course in life.

Exercise can make people happy.

In "Ode to Joy 2", when Andy was depressed, Xiaobao always pulled her to practice boxing. When her forehead was covered with sweat and she was exhausted, she felt depressed and unhappy. It went away with the wind and was replaced by happiness and relaxation.

Many studies have proven that exercise can increase calcium in the blood and stimulate the secretion and absorption of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine can make people feel excited and beautiful. Exercise also promotes the synthesis of endorphins. Laughter and stretching will produce endorphins. Endorphins have similar effects on the body as high dopamine levels. Exercise can burst out happiness, accumulate enough happiness weight, and be full of positive energy for loving life.

Reading can make people happy.

I encountered a lot of things in my life some time ago. I felt negative and boring, and almost drowned in the swamp of life.

However, the moment I stepped into the library, my heart instantly calmed down. I felt the various aspects of the world in the fragrance of books. After reading "The Temple of Earth", I realized Shi Tiesheng's life full of vitality and excellence in despair. After reading "April in the World", I realized the halo behind Lin Huiyin's goddess of the Republic of China. The unknown ups and downs.

An ancient saying goes: The book has its own golden house, and the book has its own beauty like jade. Then, I want to say that there is a good mood in the book.

Capturing the little blessings in life can make you happy.

The small blessings in life are the twinkling elves on the road of life. They bring our lives into colorful spaces and let their warm wings embellish the trajectory of our growth step by step.

For example, a green light on the way to work in the morning can make us feel bright for the day; for example, an article was published unintentionally and was praised and benefited by many strangers, which makes us very surprised and excited; for example, it rained for a few days Finally, a ray of long-lost warm sunshine can make us stop and linger; for example, a small unintentional move by a baby can shock and infect the thread of happiness deep in our hearts.

The small blessings in life are factors of happiness that are easily available to us and easily overlooked. They need to be captured and appreciated with our heart.

Hemingway said: Life always leaves us bruised and bruised, but in the end, those injured places will definitely become our strongest places.

In modern society, pressure is everywhere. Some people think that pain is the main theme of life. However, if you turn pain into a step for growth, the sins you suffer now will turn into blessings you will enjoy in the future.

Liu Xiaoqing was imprisoned because of tax issues. While in prison, she did not blame others or suffer in pain. From the first day she entered the prison, she jogged more than 8,000 steps a day because the house was small and she could only count steps. She also insisted on taking a cold bath every day, even if it was snowing and windy, until the day she came out.

After she was released from prison, she first went for a physical check-up, and the result was that she was healthier than before!"

After she was released from prison, she started to take on roles from insignificant supporting roles, paid off debts to earn living expenses, and persisted in reading and studying. Now Liu Xiaoqing's face There are no traces of time, and she is still living a wonderful life like a girl when she is over fifty. She is married to love and has a prosperous career. That painful experience has made her life a legend and made her life more inspiring and persevering.

Adversity gives a positive person unlimited energy savings, and pain gives an optimistic person countless counterattack opportunities.

Life always strikes us unprepared inadvertently. and challenges, every gorgeous turn is a milestone towards a poetic life. We can't change the flaws in life, but we can change our attitude towards life and the path we take.

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