01: When making friends, you don’t look at the right person.

I read this sentence: “In the early stage of getting along, look at appearance, in the long term, look at temperament, and in life, look at character. "To maintain a long-term relationship, the last thing to look at is English or people. If you have given sincerity to the people around you, but when you encounter difficulties and need help and companionship, and you can't find someone willing to give you warmth, you need to recognize yourself. Especially after the age of 50, you will encounter more and more difficulties and trials in life, and you especially need the energy and comfort from good friends.

But you can't find a single friend, mostly because you don't know the right person when you get along with them. Your good friend did not become indifferent later, but showed his personality from the beginning, but you did not recognize it. Lu Xun once said: "Friendship is two hearts treating each other sincerely, rather than one heart beating another heart." People will always meet some people. If you clearly treat them as good friends, good things will happen. Thinking about him, but he always laughs at you and treats you like a fool.

One day, Uncle Chen couldn’t hold on any longer, and his two younger sisters were both married and far apart. He had no choice but to call his good friends, hoping that they could help take care of him, but no one was willing. At this moment, Uncle Chen fully realized that he had no friends at all, and he was extremely heartbroken. In fact, as long as Uncle Chen knew how to distinguish people when interacting with these people, he would not suffer so many losses. Those people who didn't treat you as a friend even when you were going well, what else can we hope to do for you today when you are in desperate situation?

02: It does not improve personal abilities. You have value and friendship will last longer

If you want to get a good friend, then I have to think about what advantages you have. Be a good friend to others. After the age of 50, when you realize that you don’t have a single close friend, it’s mostly because you don’t know how to improve your personal abilities. No matter how good the relationship is with friends, if the relationship is to be maintained, it must be more or less based on interests first. When there is a big difference in identity and capital between each other, no matter how good the relationship was in the past, the relationship will eventually become shallow.

After reaching a certain age, these people who still have many good friends with whom they can talk will not only rely on their past memories, but they will also bravely assert their own values. Especially when I see the people around me walking faster, I will work hard to catch up. Don’t be so naive as to think that you can still be the laggard because we spent four years sleeping together in college and our relationship is as deep as the rest of the family. Everyone has self-esteem. If your best friend is much better than you and has more money than you, you will feel sorry for yourself and don't bother the other person anymore.

In addition, he will also look for a social circle that is more suitable for him, and the two people will lose contact. Managing friendship can never be done casually. Don't be very disappointed in human nature. Whatever you want, you need to work hard to get it, not only love, but also friendship. When making friends, remember to identify people and avoid those with bad character as soon as possible. You should give your best time and energy to friends who are worthy of making deep friends.