Text | Ren Pingsheng

Honey,

Just before going to bed last night,

You told me about your campus life Big or small worries,

some are related to studying and some are related to making friends.

Listening to your talk,

Mom feels happy and nervous at the same time.

Mom knows that you will grow up slowly,

and in the days to come,

you will enter a broader world,

Take on more arduous schoolwork,

and also deal with more complex interpersonal relationships.

In the future, in school,

you will have to face many problems independently,

and you will also have a world of your own.

Here, there are some things that mom has to tell you.

When you get to school, if you can sit in the front row, you must sit in the front row

Being closer to the blackboard and the teacher,

means being closer to knowledge.

Sitting in the front row,

you must concentrate on following the teacher’s thinking.

Only in this way can you catch the questions thrown by the teacher at any time.

This helps to focus children's attention and study seriously.

In our lives,

It is normal to allow ourselves to relax and rest in our comfort zone.

But in study and work,

We must consciously break this "comfort".

During class, you are used to sitting at the end every time, even if you think this does not affect your learning.

But do you find that you miss or give up the opportunity to interact with the teacher again and again? Chance?

A professor in the United States,

once observed and recorded the seating choices of a group of students in the classroom.

He found that:

Some students always like to sit in the front row, while others care about choosing seats in the back.

Ten years later, the professor announced the results of his research:

Those students who were in the front row at that time,

had a much higher rate of career success. to other students.

There is a "front row effect" in psychology.

The general meaning is that,

People sitting in the front row,

are more able to step out of the comfort zone and move to the "front row",

Has a more proactive learning attitude,

This also means that he is more willing to participate and communicate,

has a stronger interest in new things, and maintains a keener sense.

Baby, mom is not saying you have to sit in the front row,

I just want to say,

If you sit in the front row,

This at least shows that you have a positive learning attitude,

and it is easier to get fun from learning.

You can make more friends, but friends are more about being good than having too many friends

In China, people often call everyone they know friends.

In foreign countries, they only call people with whom they have a good relationship friends.

The general relationship can only be described as "understanding".

Baby, mom wants to tell you,

When making friends, you must be selective.

First of all, if you feel wronged by being with the other person,

then this kind of friend can be given up.

Secondly, friends who always tell your secrets are not worth keeping.

Friends are not obliged to keep secrets for us,

But a friend who cannot keep his mouth shut and cannot keep secrets is not worth dating.

Third, don't make friends who always say "I won't play with you anymore" and threaten you with this sentence when you are unhappy.

Baby, mom wants to tell you that friendship is a two-way street.

Others have the right not to play with you, and you also have the right to refuse other people's requests.

Never wrong yourself.

It’s okay to end the relationship that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Not everyone can be a good friend

You have to know,

What you need in life is not a lot of "good friends",

But one or two real good friends

In addition to love, there are also methods to influence someone's success

Baby, you once asked me,

Sometimes you will feel that your learning and work efficiency is very low.

Why can't you make long-term, sustained and stable efforts?

Baby, mommy wants to tell you,

I know you work hard,

But in fact, the method is also very important,

All of this It is also a trait that those outstanding people truly possess.

You don’t have to be proud of staying up late and getting up early.

Instead, pay attention to what you can really learn.

In addition, blind learning is actually not advisable.

Regarding learning methods,

You can find a small pack of sticky notes,

write down the learning tasks to be completed today on it every morning,

One sticky note per task.

Tear off a sticky note when you finish something.

Stick to it for seven days,

This small detail will not only make your studies more enjoyable,

In the future you will become a person with clear ideas, meticulous work and plenty of time. people.

When you feel tired of studying,

you can choose videos to study.

Although text is suitable for deep learning,

but Videos composed of images and language are the most intuitive and instinctive way to learn.

Use videos to learn.

This can make you more knowledgeable. Intuitively understand the general knowledge framework or goals,

quickly enter the learning state.

Don’t underestimate anyone who can endure loneliness

In Sichuan,

there is a kind of bamboo called "Ghost Bamboo",

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In the first 5 years of growth of this kind of bamboo,

no new bamboo can be seen growing.

What you see,

can only It is a wasteland,

But by the 6th year, the bamboo will grow into a very large area,

growing to 30 meters in one year.

Why did it grow like crazy in the sixth year?

Actually, this is because,

In the first 5 years of growth,

although this kind of bamboo did not grow,

but they did There is one thing that has happened,

That is to take root silently underground,

And this process of taking root,

is actually invisible to outsiders at all.

So you must not ignore those who are working hard silently,

nor underestimate anyone who takes learning seriously.

One day,

you will find that these people who work alone,

have achieved results that amaze others,

It is actually because of them In the long run.

Don’t underestimate those who can continue to learn.

Results may not represent everything about a person.

But one can endure loneliness and tolerance. .

But it is a person's top strength.

Be kind to your classmates, but you must have a bottom line

Honey, you must have heard the story of "The Farmer and the Snake".

Mom is very happy to see you being enthusiastic and kind to others.

Mom is very happy.

But mom also wants you to be kind,

but you must also retain your edge.

My mother once saw a post from a female college student on the Internet.

This girl is not very good at rejecting people.

During the four years of college,

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She brought breakfast to her roommates countless times.

Only once,

she refused her roommate’s request,

As a result, she was isolated by her roommate.

Several other roommates created new roommate groups,

but they did not pull her in.

Baby, what mom wants to say is,

When kindness is always given unconditionally.

Others tend to regard this kindness as cheap.

And it needs to be selective, and it needs to be sharp,

in order to gain more respect.

When others are not grateful and ask for help endlessly,

please put away your kindness in time.

It cannot be said that they are providing unconditional help out of compulsion to save face.

Dear daughter,

Campus life is an interesting thing,

but it also encounters more complicated things.

Mom will not interfere with your affairs,

But if you are confused and need help,

please tell me.

Dear daughter,

May your campus life be happy and fulfilling,

May there be light in your eyes,

Live your life The desired look.

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