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Humanity and sophistication are our daily life The conventional behavioral rules accumulated in life belong to the category of social knowledge. Most of this knowledge comes from social interactions with different groups of people, as well as social conflicts and social development. With professional knowledge and skills, worldly sophistication can help us personally ease tensions with other people, and make it easier for others to feel pleasant and constructive in their interactions with us.

1. Even if we are not talking to big people, we should talk to them with an attitude of seeking advice rather than an arrogant attitude, because people cannot be judged by their appearance, and many practical mentors and friends often come from humble life and work.

2. When taking the initiative to order food at a meal, it is not suitable to ask the host or guest of honor to order food, because that is not what distinguished people usually do, but please pay attention to asking their preferences instead of just asking them. Order what you like to eat. But this requires studying the menu and accumulating experience in ordering. When serving the table, you must respect the host's arrangement and do not rush to the table first.

3. Always find aspects of friends, partners and colleagues (even children) that deserve recognition. Note that even your boss needs to be recognized by you, but praise for the superior should be done in private as much as possible. For ordinary friends and colleagues, public praise should be given.

4. When you are praised by others for your appearance, work, and character, do not take it for granted or deny it falsely. The appropriate way is to express gratitude, especially to friends for their affirmation and support. .

5. Learn to use notes, including IOUs, receipts, leave requests, and application letters. If you actively use these notes, others will feel that you are normative, and if you know how to ask others to do the same If you do, you’ll be better able to deal with them more confidently in the future. Being able to write notes will impress others.

6. Even if you are not a service staff, taking the initiative to pour water when your friends or colleagues have guests come over will make them look good and make the guests feel that your friends and colleagues are very prestigious. . This will make your friends and colleagues especially grateful for your gesture.

7. Although you feel that you are a novice or a person with a relatively low status, you must be brave enough to ask questions without shame, and you must also take the initiative to ask others for their needs, instead of waiting for the leader or senior colleagues to show their respect to you. Affiliative, because it often takes special effort for them to behave this way.

8. Remember to enthusiastically help answer and record phone calls, accept letters, and deliver information when others are not at their seats. Remind your colleagues and classmates of some important schedules you know.

9. Entering other people’s rooms after consulting others, browsing other people’s bookshelves or indoor items, using other people’s computers only with other people’s consent, sitting in other people’s private seats, But I usually don’t look through other people’s notebooks.

10. Invitations are required to attend other people’s activities. If you cannot attend, you should notify the host in advance. If you are late, you should notify the host at the appropriate time. You should explain when you arrive. If you bring uninvited friends, you should notify the host in advance. Owner.

11. It is not suitable to ask for gifts from others. When you receive a gift from others, you should express your gratitude regardless of whether you like it or not, because the gift giver will care about your reaction. It is not suitable to transfer a gift from one place to another. It would be very rude, especially if the symbols and traces of the original giver are retained.

12. In situations where there are multiple attendees, take the initiative to introduce your friends to others, or take the initiative to go between friends you know. Friends whose feelings of strangeness are relieved will be especially grateful to you.

13. Always smile when there are friends of different statuses, and considerately greet those friends who are introverted, unnoticed, and may have a sense of inferiority. Treat the weak in social situations. Help will be especially appreciated by others. For those with lower social status, especially when they have living conditions and living habits that you cannot adapt to, you should restrain the discomfort and negative expressions you want to show, and try to take the initiative to say hello first.

14. Don’t eat alone when there are good things to eat. Take the initiative to tell them the good news you know. Thinking of others when there are good things will make others feel that you treat them as a good friend.

15. If someone has done something wrong, do not criticize in an emotional way. Pay special attention to the matter-of-fact discussion and avoid evaluating other people’s personality, personality and family upbringing. It is more constructive to offer solutions when criticizing. When criticizing, you should not forget to recognize the strengths of others. If you can be more humorous when criticizing, the negative effects will often be less. Being able to laugh at yourself with humor when being criticized or encountered embarrassment can also improve the constructive nature of communication.

16. A hero does not suffer immediate losses. But in many other times, if you are still arguing about an issue, don't continue to add fuel to the fire. Calm down, collect more data and think more clearly before talking.

17. When you are not fully sure, answer other people's invitations with the tone of "fight for" and "try your best". If you promise, you must fulfill it to the maximum extent. A promise is something that is 100% fulfilled. If you have a record of not fulfilling your promise to the same person three or more times, that person usually no longer takes your agreement seriously. This is called a credit problem.

18. Although we are talking about business, we should try to do something for others first without talking about rewards, so as to gain a sense of psychological superiority over others. A person's social status is the sum of the social debts owed to him by others.

19. Those who are children should learn to take care of themselves and help with housework as early as possible. Workers should take the initiative to help with inconspicuous chores in the office;

20. Those who are children or juniors Those who walk with parents, elders, and respected people do not fight for the right of way. Give way, give up seats, give up tea, and give up food. When the banquet is about to begin, invite everyone to eat with you;

21. Participate in banquets and eat with friends. Don’t be picky and complain about food, don’t hold up your chopsticks because you don’t like it, and offer tea instead of wine even if you don’t drink;

22. When asking questions, discussing, or asking for advice from teachers or others, you should stand up and say hello first ;

23. Don’t say bad things to others behind their backs, even those you don’t like. Strict opinions should be raised with the person concerned in person. Words of affirmation to others can be said behind their backs. It is better to say good things to others in private;

24. You need to be self-disciplined in your speech. Do not say proud words to frustrated people, do not arrogantly exaggerate your status, children, and family property, and do not express frustration when meeting the elderly. Speak more words of encouragement to others, don’t criticize others harshly if you don’t have suggestions, and don’t say hateful things or do hateful things when you break up with others;

25. Don’t bargain too much with vendors and coolies, and talk to working people. Have an honest and respectful attitude;

26. When receiving reception, advice, or help from others, you should send a message of thanks, send a greeting via email, or find an opportunity to express your gratitude. Elderly people should not refuse gifts;

27. Do not pick your teeth, yawn, stretch, spit, scratch your head in public, do not smoke without asking, and do not meet other guests while drunk;

28. When you are eating, you have already If you do not have visitors or receive visitors when you are asleep or dressed in disheveled clothes, you should treat guests with courtesy;

29. When receiving guests and meeting distinguished guests, you should first extend your hands to hold hands, and help guide you to sit down. If there is another host, you should Wait for the host to arrange a seat;

30. For friends, you should call, email or write greetings when you have nothing to do, instead of calling someone when you have trouble;

31. When visiting from afar, you should try your best to host banquets; when guests come, you should prepare gifts, and when receiving gifts, you should return gifts; when visiting distant places, local friends should first understand local preferences and taboos;

32 . When you first meet someone, you should ask for your surname. If you are asked for your surname or your surname, you should reply that your surname is x, or that you can call me xx.

33. When you are in the country, do as the Romans do. Bow to others, bow to others, greet others and ask, shake hands with others, making people feel integrated and close;

34. Appropriate salutations For the sake of intimacy, you can address the company you are visiting as "our xx company" instead of "your xx company"; as "our colleagues here" instead of "your employees"; as "the xx business our company is doing now" ” rather than “XX business that your company does”;

35. When you question others, you should have more evidence than just talk; although it is reasonable, the wording should be gentle, the attitude should be sincere, and there should be words of advice. ;Before commenting on others, you should reflect on whether you can do it;

36. If you know good news and good principles, you should share them with others as much as possible, so that others can share the benefits; you should be special when receiving encouragement, support, and help from others. thanks.