1, face the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You must have seen many articles or movies about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You may have heard people around you talk about the contradiction between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but when this contradiction falls on you, you should think carefully about how to treat this relationship. First of all, women should remember that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the one you must face in marriage. You should face up to this relationship because it is part of your marriage. You need to list some foreseeable problems in advance and think about solutions. Don't take it lightly, and don't let nature take its course before that, because there may be many unexpected problems at that time. If you don't make preparations in advance, you can't easily deal with it, and it will only deepen the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. No matter how terrible the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is described by others, you should not worry and treat it calmly, so as to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. 2. As an affiliated marriage, we mentioned that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a part of marriage, because mother-in-law is your husband's mother, and you can't ignore her existence. Therefore, you should try to manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as an accessory marriage. Even if you can't treat the relationship with the same care as a husband and wife, you should show your due attitude. After all, mother-in-law is a person, not a devil. Thoughtful, filial and sensible, you can also touch her. If you try hard but can't impress her, it only means that you are using the wrong method. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is essentially the same as interpersonal relationship. There will always be a breakthrough. You should observe carefully. If a method is not feasible, change it. If you insist that she is a "bad mother-in-law" and just complain blindly without trying to solve the contradiction, then you can only be tortured all the time, because the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will go hand in hand if it is not solved. 3. The man is the key to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. On the surface, it's just the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In fact, it's the relationship between three people. Don't forget that the property between them is a man. Therefore, men are the key point of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also the breakthrough point to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This requires men to consciously maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, first break one by one, and then reunite. If men knew this, there would be no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. However, many men don't understand this. When the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law occurred, he ran faster than a rabbit and wanted to hide far away. If so, women need to guide men to participate in solving the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you know how to do it, teach him. After all, he is the son of his mother-in-law, and it is easier to approach and persuade her. 4. There must be communication. Since the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is interpersonal, communication is essential to make this relationship quality. This is like talking about customers, making friends and falling in love, all of which need spiritual communication and material communication. It should be noted that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a relationship between women, and this should be taken care of in communication. It is said that women know women best, so use your instinct to do what you like. Since you can capture the mountain of men, that mother-in-law is nothing to you at all, provided that you are willing to take the initiative to manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and actively solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. No one can save you if you don't want to. After reading this article, many people may have another view, saying that mother-in-law is not that simple, that all mother-in-law in the world are evil and are holding back the trouble of finding a daughter-in-law. This is the narrowness of some women. Saying this can only show that you have never faced up to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and never thought about running a business to solve the problem. You're just struggling and complaining, but will it help? Have you solved the contradiction between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Of course, if you really don't want to have a mother-in-law relationship, then stay away from your husband, and there will be no problem if you don't contact. But there is one thing you need to pay attention to. You may become someone else's mother-in-law in the future. Now you can escape as a daughter-in-law, but if you become a mother-in-law, will you continue to escape? Your daughter-in-law also says that you are a bad mother-in-law. What about you? Therefore, in the current relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, put yourself in others' shoes, and you can handle the relationship as a mother-in-law in the future. How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 2. First, try to draw a clear line with your mother-in-law, don't let her interfere in your life, and be prepared not to ask her for help. You are really a daughter-in-law with a bad attitude when you ask her mother-in-law to help you and find fault. Second: If there is a problem, try to let your husband solve it. No matter what problem is solved, even if the quarrel is severe, it will be mother and son. Quarrel with mother-in-law and meeting the best mother-in-law will only deepen the contradiction. Therefore, as long as the mother-in-law is kind to her husband and doesn't return your thoughts, she should still help her husband to be a person worthy of return. 1. Avoid letting your mother make decisions for your young couple. Many mothers will ask their sons when they are young: "Son, when you grow up and marry a wife, will you forget your mother?" At that time, when we were young, of course, we would "clap our chests" and say, "I am definitely on your side!" The fact is: we were young then, and my mother was not "big" then. She is too possessive of us, but we will get married in the end. Time flies, we are married: the wife is the most important "companion" for the rest of our lives. This is also a fact that many men seriously ignore. When you realize the fact that you are lifelong partners, what you need to do is: safely give your mother to your father; Treat my mother as a retired old leader, respect her and love her; Always listen to her advice; The most important thing is: never put your mother before your wife. Therefore, it needs to be clear that if a man still stubbornly believes that "of course I should stand on my mother's side" after marriage, it is a manifestation of serious mental immaturity. 2. The "young couple" may say to the "old couple": "It's easy to deal with if you live separately, but living with your parents will inevitably disturb many things. What should we do? " What needs to be clear is that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together, and the daughter-in-law is an "outsider" in terms of gene and blood relationship. If the son doesn't give his daughter-in-law support at this time, then the daughter-in-law will face the situation of 1, which is "a family of three" versus "outsiders". Think about it: how big is the "psychological shadow area" of the daughter-in-law? If the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has already arisen, you can't let your son's father and daughter-in-law become one, can you? Daughter-in-law considers that if the husband doesn't support himself at this time, no one in this family will support himself. Then ask: what's the purpose of marrying your daughter-in-law into the house? But at this time, if the son and daughter-in-law stand on the United front, the situation will be much more harmonious: 2 to 2 is the "old couple" versus the "young couple". In the worst case, even if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is problematic. However, the son "swears to defend" the dignity of his daughter-in-law, and the opposite parents see that you love your daughter-in-law so much. Even if the mother can't slow down for a while, she will still show off afterwards that "our son and daughter-in-law have a good relationship." If you want your mother and son to break up because of this, the possibility is almost zero. That's your own mother. This is the correct way to deal with it.