What should I do if my girlfriend doesn’t want to make the relationship public? Why is she unwilling to admit that I am her boyfriend in front of her friends? If you are a relatively unfamiliar friend, you can just forget about it because you are afraid of trouble, and you can forget it if you are vague about it. You are not willing to openly express your relationship to all your friends. What does this mean?

Thinking about it in reverse, when you have a girlfriend, but you are unwilling to disclose her relationship with you, what might be the reason?

Perhaps you think that your relationship is not stable enough, and if you make it public too early, if you break up later, you will become notorious for being a philanderer.

But why is there a subconscious fear that the relationship between the two will not last long?

(1) You happened to be on the edge of passing the dish

(2) You were good at first, but your performance in the later stage was gradually deducted

( 3) Brother, you are so perfect that it makes people uncomfortable. I am afraid that I will always be abandoned in the end, so I just don’t make it public to avoid losing face (a very low possibility option, but it is not impossible.)

(4) Irrelevant score , just because the other party is unwilling to disclose it and is angry, so he himself does not disclose it, or it may be a matter of opportunity cost.

For example, for a gift redemption coupon, you can choose (1) highlighter pen (2) signature pen (3) red and blue pencil

What does it mean?

This means that before the gift coupon is handed over, you will have the most possibilities. In other words, these three things may be yours before you choose.

This kind of mentality, of course, can be different. It doesn’t matter which adjective you want to use. Are there ghosts? I can tell you for sure, no matter how small or big it is, of course there are ghosts.

Assume that the items that can be exchanged for the redemption coupons now become (1) highlighter pens (2) signature pens (3) 10 million cash

I think most people will not pay any attention to it. Choose without hesitation.

There is no problem like what you are troubled by today, but don’t be pessimistic. If you think about the above problem from another angle, it means that there is no particularly outstanding option in the exchange selection. (Otherwise the answer will appear soon so there is no need to worry)

To put it bluntly, everyone has a chance, status. Is she just willing to admit that I am her boyfriend in front of her family or close friends?

At first glance, this option seems much better than the previous one, but in front of some real masters of ambiguity, making it public is the same as not making it public.

Friends will protect each other. For example, if a girlfriend or wife suddenly calls the other friend’s home in the middle of the night and says, “So-and-so told me that he will be with you tonight. What are we doing together? "

Ten out of ten friends will temporarily help their friends think of reasons.

A girl has eight "boyfriends", and all eight of them are brought to the same friend and said: This is her boyfriend.

I guarantee you, that friend will definitely reply with a smile on his face, "Your boyfriend is very handsome."

Then they will exchange secret codes proudly behind their backs.

Don’t be surprised, this is the past pattern of the ambiguous master and her friends.

All in all, the question is, are you happy with her?

Are you happy?

Do you like yourself when you are with her?

When you are with her, are there more happy things than sad and troubled things?

Do you think she loves you?

If the answer to any of the above is no, I hope you are willing to seriously consider breaking up and don't push yourself into a dead end.

Two people who cannot be happy will only hurt each other. If you can't accept it, then leave. There is absolutely no right or wrong in this kind of thing.

Everyone’s concerns and bottom line are inherently different, and the degree of impact is also different.

Some people are naturally low-key. That is her personality. There is no right or wrong in terms of good or bad. Those who force people to death may not always be bad guys.

After the age of twenty-five, your personality is probably finalized, except when you encounter a major turning point...

But how many turning points in life can you encounter by chance?

Even if you do encounter it, whether you can survive it is another question. To put it simply, it is a rare thing.

Don't expect her personality to change. If she changes for you, consider it earned.

Think about it the other way around, if you want you to change your personality of not thinking about random things or your habit of lifting the toilet seat after going to the toilet for her? How difficult is it to achieve? How difficult it is to change her personality.

If your answer to the first four questions is yes, you think the future with her will lead to happiness.

Believe her without hesitation.

Do you believe in yourself? Do you trust your choice? Do you believe that she stood out from the many choices?

As long as you give up believing and start doubting, everything can turn into clues for accusations.

But you want to continue walking with her, don’t you?

Sometimes, you know clearly that falling in love with that person is a mistake, but you still love them wholeheartedly!

Sometimes, you know clearly that what you are doing is bad, but you still do it stubbornly!

Sometimes, even though we know how difficult this road is, we still stumble through it!

Sometimes, even though I know my heart is sad, I still smile reluctantly!

Sometimes, even though I know I can’t go on like this, I still cry involuntarily!

Unreasonable and inexplicable is love.

Some people may suggest that following her approach, you should also implement a non-disclosure policy for all your friends and enjoy other members of the opposite sex's advances. It is best to engage in ambiguity to let her know how popular her boyfriend is. .

Complicated people talk about complex feelings, while simple people talk about simple feelings.

Recognize whether you can afford to talk about complicated feelings. If you can't talk about it, don't touch it.

You can play and play with your own will, but if you are just angry, this kind of mentality is unacceptable. I must work hard to become perfect and show it to you. This kind of thinking will one day Something will happen.

When she doesn’t care at all about what you do, that’s when she breaks down. In other words, she doesn't see you as a rival at all.

For girls who are more conservative and take the introverted route, if it goes through your evaluation, your judgment, and your rational analysis.

I have no way of knowing where she went, who she was with, and what she did, but I do know that as long as the situation permits, she will stand by and want to date me at any time.

After careful calculation, the time she spends with me still accounts for most of the time in her life other than serious things. With such a long time together, even if she has other so-called boyfriends, I think those friends are Getting angry!

If she just has a low-key personality and doesn't like to admit your relationship in front of others, and you want her to admit your relationship, the rule is actually very simple: improve your rating in her mind.

If she is unwilling to admit your relationship in front of everyone, you have to work hard to make her feel.

"I don't know why, but I want to do so many things with you"

"Do a lot of super idiotic and happy things together"

"No Whoever I follow, I follow you."

Once the feeling of exclusiveness appears... Are you still afraid that Wukong will escape from the palm of Tathagata Buddha?

If you want to fish, the fish must first bite the hook, and then the lever will be useful. If you don’t even have a firm bite on the hook, just let the lever flail around in the sea. The bait will be more fragrant if it is accurate. No matter how thick it is, the fish will be frightened and flee in all directions.

If you are open-minded by nature and don’t like to take the initiative, let time help you to increase automatically, but don’t go into the twilight zone. If you want a horse, divide it well, and if you want a horse, manage it well.

Try to control your emotions and don’t flirt with everyone out of anger.

The above two points will only make the other party more uneasy, push her further and further away from you, and will definitely not help "getting her to admit your relationship"

Love is a one-way street. Feelings either get better or worse. Forcing is like being in a state. Every point is deducted. One day, her score will return to zero or she will meet a man with a higher score than you. , turned and left.