Communicating with friends is a science, and some important principles must be mastered.
1. Four things to make friends with.
(1) Be honest and reliable. When you meet a stranger, you will "leave half of the words on your lips, but not necessarily all of them". Because you instinctively want to protect yourself and worry about being "hurt", and once you find that the other person is reliable, you will talk endlessly. The same is true for others. Only when they know that you will not betray them for personal gain or break your promises will they treat you as a friend.
(2) Be honest and not hypocritical. Having a weak personality does not affect making friends. Strong people may like you very much, but both strong and weak people hate hypocrisy. Hypocrisy always only opens a half-window to others. Whoever tells the truth to him will feel deceived afterwards.
(3) Be reasonable. Unreasonable people have two qualities. First, they have an excessive sense of "self-centeredness" in thinking, and are unwilling and unwilling to understand and sympathize with others. Only personal feelings come first; second, they are self-indulgent in behavior. Friends are worrying about poor academic performance. Good but worried, he came over and complained about why his friend didn't go dancing with him yesterday. He also messed around with his friends over trivial matters. Who wants to stay with such a friend?
(4) Be optimistic but not inferior. People with low self-esteem can learn from confident friends how to view things and themselves with a "wide-angle lens", but excessive low self-esteem will make the other person lose the joy of making friends, because no one wants to sigh with you endlessly. On the contrary, optimistic people always bring the breath of spring to their circle of friends. Optimism itself is psychological support for people. In real life, it is the optimistic people who have more friends than the average person, while the depressed people can only whisper with a few close friends. Therefore, here I advise people who are good at making friends to pay attention to overcoming some bad characters: I would rather say to my friends that I can't do it than lie; I would rather be indifferent than hypocritical; I would rather be clumsy than dishonest; I would rather be clumsy than harsh; It is better to be dull than to be too shrewd; it is better to be stubborn than to have evil intentions.
2． Five things to avoid when making friends.
(1) Arrogant, domineering, and careless in speech. Your advantages in appearance, talent, family, and position can help others get closer to you. Everyone who is with you will seem to have these advantages of yours, which may give you a slight sense of superiority in your circle of friends. But be careful, once this sense of superiority gets out of control, you may unintentionally assume an arrogant attitude in front of your friends, show off yourself everywhere, and look down on others, thus losing the equality and reciprocity of friendship, because no one is willing to sell their self-esteem in exchange for friendship.
(2) Do not distinguish between each other and do not stick to trivial matters. Some people think that they are generous and open-minded, and never cherish the things lent by their friends. They even borrow things for a long time without returning them, and they randomly use their friends' things without saying hello in advance. If things go on like this, your friends will think that your behavior is too rough, or even that you are greedy. Young people often regard each other as a sign of deep friendship, but the maintenance and development of friendship. Trust still needs to be cherished, protected, and kept. When a friend gives you something as a gift, it is a materialized expression of emotion, but in daily life, you still need to cherish the things you borrow, otherwise it will make people think that you are unreliable.
(3) Careful and stingy. Friendship is gained through heart-to-heart exchange. If you are afraid of suffering in everything, take advantage of others and take it for granted, and you love money as much as your life, then of course it is better for others to stay away from you.
(4) Ignorance of current affairs and insistence on going one's own way. No matter whether your friends are busy or idle at work. Whether you are in a good or bad mood, no matter what the occasion, if you just talk about yourself and worry about others' urgent matters, you will be considered shallow and uneducated by others. There are also people who are stubborn in their own opinions and force others to submit. Both attitudes reflect cognitive immaturity and an inability to consider and understand people. You also cannot adjust your behavior as the situation changes, which will certainly not be favored by your friends.
(5) Go back on one's word and be dishonest. On the surface, this kind of person is very generous, and it is not unpleasant to agree to other people's requests, but after agreeing, they forget about it completely. The next time a friend presses you, just use a few sentences to explain it away.
Maybe you think it is a small matter in life, but for others, breaking promises and breaking contracts means destroying other people's work arrangements and making other people's feelings teased. Such people are just making fun of themselves. If you deal with it perfunctorily, you cannot be a trustworthy friend.
If you have friends all over the world, you won’t be afraid.