Text/Lin Jue

Yesterday, my best friend called my WeChat late at night, and the screen showed a picture she had sent. I knew she was in trouble without even looking at it. It's a big deal, because she never stays up late.

Put down the pen in your hand, open WeChat, and click on the picture.

A screenshot of a WeChat chat.

After reading it, she let out a long sigh. This is not the first time she has come to me to complain about this person.

01

She is a typical bastard. To people who are not familiar with her, she seems obedient, has no temper, and is always eager to help. But in my opinion, she is not such a gentle lady.

We once lived in a dormitory. Others were usually standing foot to foot, but we were head to head. We could see what the other was doing just by turning around. Sometimes when no one can sleep, the two of them can whisper for a long time. Thinking back on that feeling, they will feel a little sweet in their hearts.

The more we chat, the deeper we understand each other. She is very kind and will never ignore you when you need her. During the re-examination for the postgraduate entrance examination, I had an emotional breakdown because so many things were rushing in. What was even worse was that I was alone in Beijing at that time, with no relatives, no friends, and no one to rely on.

I have to call her three times a day, talking about the same topic, that is, I feel very uncomfortable, I am nervous, I am anxious, I am confused... But no matter how nagging I am, she never bothers me once Impatient, she even couldn't hide her concern for me in her tone.

She is innocent and unsuspecting. If you use the same trick on her dozens of times, she will still believe it the next time. She is not good at saying no, and even said she would not say no at all, except me.

She would never say no to someone she didn’t know well enough to trouble her, even if she didn’t want to talk to him from the bottom of her heart. She would just go back to the dormitory to complain and despise him.

She is unsuspecting in front of me, which saves me a lot of opportunities to bully her and take advantage of myself, but I like her better.

Neither of us is perfect to each other, and our personalities are even very different, but we have the best relationship because we know how to cherish and repay the kindness that the other person has done to us.

02

The screenshot she sent me was a chat between her and another girl. Who is this girl? A person she wanted to hide from but couldn't, her new roommate.

She once had unlimited reveries about her graduate career. She made many plans in advance, but she only missed her new roommate. In my opinion, all her good things were about to be pinched by this girl's hands. Broken.

In the picture, the girl said: "Honey, can you go for a walk with me?"

My best friend replied: "Ah! I'm in the library."

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She said: "Please, I met a boy tonight who I am very close to. He asked me to go to the football field with him, but I don't know him as a person. I am afraid of embarrassment and safety. You and I have the best relationship in our dormitory, so go with me!" followed by a cute expression.

My best friend: "But wouldn't it be embarrassing if I went there, like a big light bulb."

She said: "It doesn't matter, you don't have to say anything, it won't affect me And his."

My best friend: "Oh... well, tell me what time it is, and I will go directly to the gate of the football field later."

She said: "I know you are the best to me. I love you, Mu."

The best friend said under the picture, "I walked around the football field with her for an hour tonight and also went for a drink. I just went back to the dormitory and took a shower. I feel like I’m really good to her, even better than you, but why is she always like this?”

If possible, I really want to pour cold water on her. Can you please wake up? Such a person will not really make friends, and any effort will be a waste.

03

Maybe my best friend’s roommate is a bit strange and weird, but there are quite a few people who are similar to her roommate.

When dealing with this type of person, we often fall into this dilemma:

No matter what you do with him or her, you are always the one who suffers, and he doesn’t like it. No matter how much you like something, he won't let it go. Things he doesn't want to do will be left to you without hesitation. You will never get what he wants. The number of times he treats you to meals and drinks is far less than the times you treat him...

Don’t wonder if you are narrow-minded and careless, and don’t try to defend him or her, thinking that he is just careless and has low emotional intelligence. In fact, he is habitually taking advantage of others. If he takes advantage of others, he will appear It's very natural and unintentional.

Besides, even if she is really unintentional, why do you want to coddle her?

When you are sick and he is busy, you go alone; when you participate in an important competition and he is busy, you go alone; when you are hesitant and confused, he is busy and you face it alone...

Even if you spend a lot of time with him, even if you do a lot of unwilling things to prevent him from being unhappy, when you need him, he will always be busy and absent. There are many important moments in your life, but I just come to you pitifully and say sorry.

If you can make close friends just by talking, then why do you need so many milk tea shops, clothing stores, and movie theaters! ?

Even if he keeps saying that you are very important to him and that you are the best person to him, he can say the same thing to another friend at any time.

Sometimes you may feel that he is very kind to you, but when you turn around, you will find that he is very kind to anyone except you.

No matter how much you put your heart and soul into it, He will never put you in a special position. You are not the least bit special to Him, and your efforts will not receive the response you deserve. , my heart went cold.

04

Our parents have taught us since childhood: "Don't worry about making friends, learn to give and be willing to share."

This is the truth and there is no need to question it. , but this sentence also has a premise that "the person you make friends with is at least someone who will become your friend."

We all need friends, especially good friends who can talk to each other, but there are many Things won't come if you force yourself to do it. Instead of forcing more and getting worse, it's better to turn to less and get better.

Human beings are inherently good in nature, and it is always difficult to refuse, but not being able to refuse is a fatal thing. It not only makes you suffer, but also helps the evildoer. Instead of letting the person who is not worth cherishing continue to It is better to let yourself go and even "remove harm for the people" than to harm you and others.

Every kind person should be treated sincerely by others, and every sincere contribution should be cherished. This is the correct way to make good friends.