second, we should understand and respect. Everyone has their own temperament and personality characteristics, different growth backgrounds and living habits, so if we can understand and respect each other in the process of interacting with classmates, our relationship will be easy to be harmonious and unnecessary friction will be reduced.
third, be honest with each other. The most important thing in interpersonal communication is sincerity and goodwill, which is also the fundamental principle of being a man. It is difficult for people who are hypocritical and arrogant to have friends.
fourth, be tolerant and understanding. As the saying goes, "No one is perfect, and gold is barefoot." The students around us (including ourselves) are still in the growth stage, and there are often many inappropriate points in dealing with problems. On many issues, students will have different opinions, which requires us to put ourselves in the other's shoes, consider problems from each other's perspective, and understand each other, so as not to lead to hostility. There will inevitably be disputes and misunderstandings when students get along with each other. If the misunderstanding deepens, it will easily arouse a strong reaction. We are very impulsive when we are young, and we will take the wrong measures to solve things because of the impulse, so that there will be fights and fights constantly. The wrong method can't solve anything, and it is dangerous to have an incorrect understanding of mistakes. If there is a dispute in the usual relationship, you must not hold it in your heart. People who like jealousy have always been psychologically tired. As the saying goes, "Take a step back, the sky is wide." If everyone can take a small step back, there will be room to buffer misunderstanding, avoid the harm of any party and sublimate everyone's mind. Roll with the punches, roll with the punches We should understand the seriousness of the matter before making a decision. When encountering communication problems, we should calmly think about ways to deal with things.
fifth, eliminate the sense of dependence. There is also an unhealthy mentality in interpersonal communication, that is, people who have a strong sense of dependence always want others to care about themselves like their parents, brothers and sisters, and they have to make decisions for themselves in everything, which is a sign of lack of independence. Excessive dependence will also develop into a desire for control. They force others to study with themselves, review their lessons together, inform themselves of their action plans, and even restrict others from interacting with other students. This is a personality defect and should be corrected in time.
In addition, when getting along with classmates, we should also pay attention to some things that should not be done, mainly in the following aspects:
First, avoid personality inequality. Students are equal in personality, so they should respect each other. Those who are proud or inferior may artificially widen the distance with other students. Affect the normal development of classmates' relationship.
avoid small groups. There are always some good friends who study and live in a class group, but avoid contacting several good classmates for a long time without getting along with others. Especially when there is a contradiction between the interests of small groups and the collective interests, the class collective interests should be given priority and the individual small collective interests should be abandoned.
three taboos against improper comparison. When students communicate, it is inevitable to compare. The key is to compare what is ambition, confidence or vanity. If it is better than ideological progress and learning progress, this is of course good; But if it's better than matter, it's not desirable.
four taboos are gossiping. Students should be cautious when getting along with each other and gossip behind their backs, which is the most taboo thing among students. The correct way is not to pass it on or say it. When you hear what others say, you should analyze the truth carefully, and don't be credulous and blindly follow.
five don't talk and hurt people. A good word is warm in spring, but a bad word hurts in June. We should consciously cultivate the ability to respect others, speak with gentleness, pay attention to the beauty of language, and avoid being self-righteous, insulting and hurtful.
six taboos against bad imitation. The communication between classmates should help each other in the progress of both sides. You live with a lame, you will learn a limp. Be good at making friends, learn to choose, and treat others sincerely.