There are too many people you can meet in the vast world. It's easy to know, but it's not easy to get along. Those who leave don't value you, and those who value you are left behind. If you can make a new friend every day, you will have countless friends. If these friends are sincere to you, then you won't be lonely and helpless. However, there is a connection between people, let alone new friends. Even old friends who have known each other for many years sometimes make mistakes. Therefore, the people you know are not in quantity, but in quality. As long as you have difficulties to come, as long as you have difficulties to appear, as long as someone is willing to share your help when you need it, then such a person must be a true friend. Parents are kind to you because you are their child; A lover is kind to you because you are a lifelong companion; Children are kind to you because you are their support. And those who are not related to you lend a helping hand when you are in trouble, if not because of interests or purposes; Now that you are in trouble, do your best. That's really good for you! It's not easy to meet someone who is really nice to you all your life. Therefore, don't be malicious to your heart-to-heart colleagues, don't calculate sincere friends, and don't betray loyal confidants! Make friends and have heart-to-heart talks. Life is golden. The ancients said, "It is difficult for friends to meet each other like the stars in the morning and evening. When people reach middle age, we all make many friends when they are young. But many people have experienced the test of time and are far away from each other's world. It's hard to see each other again. Because different ways are inconsistent. The friends people make when they are young play a vital role in our future life. Good friends will guide you in the right direction, while those bad friends will lead us astray. A friend's influence on us is beyond our cognition and imagination. When people look back at the past in middle age, they realize that we didn't really need to make friends with these friends when we were young, because making friends with them has no benefits but negative effects everywhere. First, Mencius, a friend full of negative energy, said, "Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle. When I was young, the most important thing for friends to meet was heart-to-heart. Having a heart-to-heart friend to exchange inner thoughts with each other can quickly resolve any negative psychological burden. This was originally a good thing, but with such friends full of negative energy, they are unhappy every day, and we help them solve their worries every day. However, their worries are always like the tide. They often complain in front of us that their life is not satisfactory, that others are not tolerant of them, and why they can't have luxury goods like others. At first, we can solve all kinds of complaints for them, but after a long time, we are also affected by the negative energy of the other side. When we encounter something, we complain first, no matter right or wrong. This influence is subtle, but our friends with negative energy never know what hard work is, and it's the same after complaining. Then choose another slot to complain the next day. Many years later, we have reached middle age. Think about this friend again. The memory they left us in the best time of our youth is not color, but all black and white complaints and negative energy. Their narrow-minded thoughts have a long-term impact on life. When we make friends when we are young, we must have heart-to-heart, but the object of heart-to-heart must be enterprising and hard-working, and we will climb higher and higher with its encouragement. On the other hand, those negative energy friends who only complain about not working hard will not only accomplish nothing themselves, but also affect our values. There is no positive significance in associating with such friends. Only when you are used, can you remember what your friend Zhang Ailing said, "We'd better be strangers to friends who only stay in mouth and paper. I made many friends when I was young. Some are like-minded and some are good playmates. These are all understandable. But having friends is very interesting. They are always kind to see us, and we naively think that such people are our friends worthy of lifelong communication. But this is not the case. Their kindness to us, as Zhang Ailing said, stays in the mouth and is written on paper. This is a false friendship. Once we meet something, friends around us will come to help when they hear about it. But such friends are always absent at this time. Then, when I meet you one day, I'll say I'm busy. I don't know. If I had known, I would have helped you. For the first time, we are willing to believe that there are many such things, and we are sensitive to find that only when they ask for help will they be extremely enthusiastic, and when we encounter difficulties, they will stay away from them. People don't realize until middle age that such people don't treat us as friends at all. True friends care and support each other. They only care about their own interests, they just want to use us. And we naively think that this is friendship. When you are young, you need to make sure your friends. Don't think that helping such people can warm their cold hearts. Even if you help them, they won't appreciate it, but take it for granted. Such people don't deserve to be called our friends. There is really no need to make friends. There is an old saying among friends who like to show off their wealth all day. I wonder if you have such a friend around you? They don't like to show off their wealth all the time. For example, when you said to buy a watch, he immediately said that there was not much money. I have already bought several different colors. For example, if you want to buy a new mobile phone, he immediately leaned in and said, if you want to buy it, buy the most expensive one and buy two for it. Such friends make us wonder how to communicate with them. When I was young, I like to expand my contacts and make all kinds of friends, because I don't know which friend can help us at a critical moment. This kind of rich friends distort their values, thinking that everything can be solved with money, and even that money can get friendship, so they don't want to tell everyone how rich they are all the time, but no matter how rich you are, they seem to feel superior, but how rich you are has nothing to do with us. This kind of person shows off his wealth, making people around him feel uncomfortable and disrespectful. We didn't realize this until middle age. The premise of making friends is mutual trust and respect. If you can't do both, then there is no need for this friend to continue to associate. There is no need to get in touch with friends who have been showing off in front of themselves. Everyone has his own life, no matter how humble we are in time, there is no need to be a background board for others. If you want to make friends, you have to have a heart-to-heart relationship. All your life, you have a conversation, and God suddenly walks away; Many people say this is a sneer; Deep danger, shortage and discussion of emotions. When talking with people, I am absent-minded and don't know where to fly; When discussing with others, just sneer; People who are alienated from others and never speak their minds do not deserve real feelings. The most important thing in making friends is honesty. When a person really regards you as a friend, he is not too smart. When he wants to be a bosom friend, he should first trust each other. Mencius and Ceng Yun: "Know yourself and know yourself, and you will be invincible. "In front of friends, you won't hide your heart, treat people with sincerity, and make friends with true feelings, which is a true friend. You don't have to bring it, but you say it's sabotage and you don't pay this person; Humble and shameful, not to mention things. Praise others before they finish, say yes, you are right; If you don't know a person, you will say something bad and slander them; Such a man is despicable and can't be consulted. Make friends, and make friends with people who can make things. What is making things? Is to give you some advice when you are in trouble. These suggestions are not flattering words, but words that really think of you. The greatest trust between people is the trust of words. A good friend will never cheat you in words, because he knows that the responsibility of being a friend is not to flatter or please, but to make you a better person. Qian Zhongshu once said: "The friendship between people is not due to inexhaustible benefits, but inexhaustible. "The so-called unspeakable good is a good friend who will discuss with you and give you good advice. Difficult, late return; Not very loving, but also tears, a woman's kindness is not enough to talk. Life is sloppy, there is no self-discipline, and there is no doubt about things. Timid and indecisive when something happens; It has nothing to do with your own words, but also tears for them. Women are kind. Such people are not worth talking about their ideals and ambitions, nor are they worth talking to. As the saying goes, "If you go near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black. "When an ambitious person is always mixed with some people who muddle along, he will muddle along in less than a month. Make friends, make friends with people who can make you better. People can't realize their ideals and ambitions by themselves. Only by gathering a group of like-minded outstanding people can we go further on the road to success. " If you make friends, you must choose the winner. "A person's progress is inseparable from the help of friends. A good friend will not drag you down and make you sloppy for him, but will approach you. For your initiative and self-discipline, * * * will make progress and * * * will be outstanding. The three are not necessarily lifelong. Instead, you can make friends with the world. Making friends is not about quantity, but about quality. Be good friends, not many. When a person wants to be friends with everyone, he has no friends. Mr. Lu Xun once said: "It is enough to have a bosom friend in life. "It's so lucky to find a bosom friend in this world. The most important thing to make friends is self-judgment. Sometimes time is the only criterion to test a friend. As the saying goes, "seeing horsepower from a distance, seeing people's hearts for a long time." True friendship is not a melon vine, it will rise overnight and wither in a day. May you and I be honest with each other, and may you and I both have bosom friends.