I think there are still many good people, and we should treat others sincerely, show empathy and be a kind person.

If you are real, I will be real, if you are fake, I will turn around. If the other person is not a good person, there is no need to date, why should you give him a handle? 01 Kindness and sincerity are virtues

You must be kind and sincere in order to gain a foothold in society.

When dealing with strangers, you must be sincere at the beginning and leave a good impression on others. Otherwise, people will think that you are unfriendable and they will not be able to continue to interact with you.

Compare your feelings to your own, be sincere and see the other person clearly at the same time. Kindness is not stupidity, and sincerity is not stupidity. If you can't win people's hearts, you should be careful. You must not have the intention of harming others, and you must not have the intention of guarding against others.

Communication between people is also a step-by-step process. The so-called sincerity and kindness do not mean to show your heart and soul from the beginning. Instead, you need to gradually build trust and slowly exchange sincerity for sincerity.

If everyone is dishonest and wants to be kind, then this society will really be in chaos.

When the epidemic was brought under control and they were evacuated, people’s gratitude was beyond words. Both of them were moved to tears.

A group of strangers, because of the efforts of one party, were moved by the other party. 02 Don’t stop eating because of choking, don’t be bitten by a snake once, and be afraid of well ropes for ten years

Maybe, in life, some people give their sincerity, but in the end they are deceived and used. Spouses cheating, friends betraying, etc. may also happen.

But kindness and sincerity must not be lost because of this. You can't let yourself become bad because of other people's mistakes. Instead, you should constantly improve your ability to recognize people and see through bad things before they happen to avoid yourself being harmed.

For example, one of Jet Li's movies, Tai Chi with Zhang Sanfeng. His friends abandoned them to join the army in pursuit of glory and wealth, and took advantage of their friendship to betray him and kill many people.

From then on, Zhang Sanfeng was hit and became crazy.

Later, with the help of friends and my own understanding, I put down my burden and ran towards a new life. Not only did he not give up sincerity and kindness, but he realized the secret of Tai Chi and finally defeated Zhang Junbao who betrayed him.

If Zhang Sanfeng had been betrayed by his friends and had stopped being kind and no longer seeking justice for his dead friends, then he would definitely have no more friends in his life. 03 How to avoid "being bullied by others for being kind"?

First of all, learn to say no. Have the courage to say "no!" to unreasonable demands and behaviors that are obviously bullying, insulting, or deceiving you.

Kindness is not weakness. Don’t let others regard your kindness as capital for their arrogance.

Secondly, you must be good at observation. As the saying goes, faces come from the heart. Kind people are often kind and approachable. Therefore, when making friends, first look outside. After all, getting to know someone starts with their appearance.

In addition to observing the appearance, you can learn about people from many aspects during the relationship. For example, some details in his life, whether he respects the elderly, whether he loves small animals, whether he often lies and deceives others, etc.

Time reveals people’s hearts. If you observe a person for a long time, his strengths and weaknesses will be exposed. If you can't have deep friendship, then stay away as soon as possible. 04 Summary

People’s hearts cannot be replaced. It’s just an individual case. There are still many kind people in the world. Society needs each of us to contribute a bit of kindness.

Be a kind and sincere person, make friends and do things with your heart.

At the same time, keep your eyes open and protect yourself.

Not all people can exchange hearts for hearts, not all sincerity can be sincerely reciprocated, and not all kindness can be reciprocated by kindness. Therefore, we must learn to recognize kindness in interpersonal communication. People, you must see their true colors, and never let your sincerity feed the wolves, and mistakenly give your sincerity to people who are ungrateful.

Some people measure people not by their hearts, but by interests and power. No matter how nice you are to such a person, it will be of no use. If you have no use value, you are just a piece of shit. Blank paper.

In interpersonal communication, we often encounter people who bully the weak and fear the strong. Seeing that you are weak and easy to bully, they will step on you to climb up without any consideration for your dignity and position. Consider your feelings and thoughts, for your own interests, your own position, and your own height. There is no bottom line and no principle for trampling on others. When dealing with such people, you must have a bit of edge and a sharp sword. You cannot just blindly Acceptance and tolerance. Tolerance becomes a habit, and others' bullying of you becomes a habit, and you become the other person's scapegoat. Whatever bad things happen are yours, and whatever good things happen are his (her) . So don’t be too soft, don’t be too kind, and don’t give your kindness to the wrong person, lest you get hurt.

Kindness is indispensable in building a world.

It just needs some edge to your kindness.

Kind thoughts are the roots of conscience,

Kind deeds are the right path of the world.

People's hearts cannot be replaced by people's hearts.

Often the deformed objects are ugly and ridiculous.

Is it true that things in the world can be reduced?

God allows the four seasons to continue peacefully.

How can we completely purify the troubles of the world?

Repay kindness with kindness, repay hatred with straightness,

Tolerance is a big heart,

Only can the sunshine like spring shine.

Use a kind heart,

Adjust the edges and corners when looking back;

This is the way to control a snake or a scorpion.

It’s not that we used the wrong care,

Giving roses to others,

How many people said that thorn branches are not good?

Therefore, persistence and kindness are still the magic weapon of the world.

The vicissitudes of the righteous path and civilization for thousands of years

still need to be carried forward!

"Many times, kindness becomes a lever for others to manipulate you." It is indeed a fact. Answer this question and it may turn out to be "chicken soup". Nowadays, everyone despises chicken soup, but I want to say: Chicken soup is nutritious, it "prevents cold" (indifference between people) and also protects the health of the soul.

Nowadays, many self-media articles say: Your kindness must be sharp, otherwise, excessive kindness will become stupid; also say: Kindness is a choice, and kind people are just because they are Choose kindness. This kind of article usually costs 100,000 plus.

In their view, it seems that kindness is a quality that can be manipulated by people. When you need kindness, take it out; when you feel that it is not good for you, in order to avoid hurting yourself, Just put away the kindness again. In their view, kindness can "come and go" in a person.

Is this really the case?

In fact, he cannot do this for those who are truly soft-hearted and kind-natured. Because, when encountering anything, the first thing that triggers a person is his nature. Then all the words and deeds of this person will be based on this subconscious instinct, based on a "restriction" formed by "conditioned reflex" (the restriction here is Psychological terms), and all of this is beyond the control of the "self".

"You can't buy people's hearts. Many times, your kindness becomes a lever for others to take advantage of you." I believe many people have experienced it personally, and everyone has too many examples. to prove this conclusion.

In fact, such a conclusion is exactly the reason why people are becoming more and more "selfish and self-centered" in today's "big environment". Since our sincerity cannot be exchanged for sincerity, and since kindness has become a weakness and can be bullied, why should we continue to be "kind"?

Therefore, in the social news section, we can see various news events caused by the "indifference" between people all year round: Do you need to help an old man if he falls? Do I need to do the work that my colleague asked me to do? We can't get used to their bad habit of bullying weak people. Kind people are easily bullied...etc.

What is the result of this public opinion environment and public opinion orientation?

A huge country with a population of 1.4 billion actually needs to have a national discussion under the guidance of the official media on "should an old man fall down?"... Isn't this terrible? Isn't it ridiculous? Isn't it sad? ...

This shows how terrible a situation moral quality has reached in reality! However, this is already the reality. An old man falls to the ground on the street, and no one dares to help him. They are all afraid that "good people will not be rewarded and will get into trouble"...

What is wrong with this society? Isn’t it said that “human beings are inherently good by nature”? Why do people become so indifferent to each other...

I have experienced many things in my work and life. I have been disappointed and painful, and I still can't understand it. Your kindness and sincerity are often "good people are not rewarded, and even get into trouble. So, do we also need to learn to make our kindness more "edgy"?

I think all this is realistic The existence of the media is actually not unrelated to the problem of the media's public opinion guidance. The public lacks judgment and will only follow the media's public opinion guidance.

The media should establish a positive and positive attitude. We should guide public opinion and promote more positive examples, so that the foundation of "kindness" can build an indestructible protective wall in the hearts of the public, so that we can truly prevent "indifference" from continuing to spread in society.

I still believe it. The Chinese nation has a fine tradition of "doing good" for thousands of years. Everyone has the gene of "goodness" deep in their hearts. If we generally believe that "good deeds are rewarded with good deeds", we can use our virtues to light up those darknesses and let them shine. The entire environment has the power to "be good". Don't let "kind" people feel cold anymore... Then, by then, "people's hearts will change their hearts" and "good deeds will be rewarded."

Kindness is not a choice. It is nature.

If a person can artificially choose whether to be kind in something, then this person is definitely not real. Kindness. A truly kind person, no matter what situation he is in, kindness is still his nature, it is his gene, and it is a "choice" that he has no choice.

Even if he knows it. He fully understands that "people's hearts cannot be replaced by people's hearts. Many times, kindness becomes a lever for others to manipulate." He will still face reality with his sincerity and kindness, because he simply cannot be "unkind". An unkind person, no matter how much education and guidance he receives, will still not be kind even a little bit.

Therefore, whether people should be kind or not is actually a "false proposition". It's your nature that determines your thoughts and behavior patterns, and determines whether you are kind or not.

You cannot choose to be kind, even if you know that you are deeply affected by kindness. You can't change it! No matter what happens, your instinctive reaction and behavior are still what others call "kindness". But to you, this is your own nature. That's kindness, because if you don't do that, you will suffer. It's just your instinct...

This passage actually does not need more explanation. People who understand will naturally understand. People who don't understand will never understand. They will not understand it (this requires both basic common sense and a certain amount of philosophical thinking), they will think it is a moral kidnapping, and they are worried that their selfishness will "make themselves ashamed" in front of such a "kind" person... < /p>

But you are "kidnapping" only yourself, because you deeply understand:

Kindness can only be self-disciplined.

Human life is both short and long. Look further ahead, success or failure, how can it be right in front of you?

"A villain has long relationships, but a gentleman is magnanimous." Stretching the time to the length of the entire life: a kind person has a peaceful life.

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Let nature take its course, let your mind be at peace, start from scratch, and be the strongest version of yourself without being seen through by others. A strong heart will lead to success!

You must be a kind person in your heart, but

Kindness must also have principles and bottom lines, otherwise you will be easily hurt.

If people's hearts can be exchanged for people's hearts, there won't be so many people hurt in this world. Therefore, when we give our sincerity, we must also see each other clearly and not let our kindness be taken advantage of by others. .

In the beginning, human beings are inherently good. In fact, good thoughts are a person's nature, so why are there still evil people in the world? Isn't it because kind people slowly learn to protect themselves after experiencing disappointment again and again?

Some people are easy to be soft-hearted, while some people are more scheming. People who are soft-hearted can easily be taken advantage of by scheming people. Therefore, when you are soft-hearted, the first thing to do is to protect yourself. If you are taken advantage of because you are too kind, it proves that you have not seen the other person clearly.

When a person's kindness loses its principles and bottom line, it is helping evil.

"People's hearts cannot be replaced by people's hearts. Many times your kindness becomes a handle for others to manipulate you." This sentence makes sense.

In this world, not everyone understands your kindness, not everyone can be moved by your kindness, and not everyone will accept your kindness. To people with sinister hearts, your kindness is just a handle that can be used to manipulate you, or you are just a joke to them, and they can deceive you and deal with you.

The saying that everyone is familiar with: "A person's heart can be exchanged for a person's heart, and four taels can be exchanged for half a catty" is not suitable for everyone. These days, not everyone will remember your sincerity and dedication, and not everyone will accept your kindness and be grateful to you. There is nothing wrong with being kind, you just need to meet the right person. For those who are cunning and have evil intentions, you must stay away from them. Don't think that kindness can win people's hearts. Sometimes, what they get in return is harm.

Complex society also has complex human hearts. Learn to protect yourself. Don’t let your kindness be deceived by others, and don’t let your good intentions be harmed by innocent people. In the vast sea of ????people, the hardest thing to understand is the human heart.

Remember, it’s harder to paint a person’s skin than to paint their bones, and you don’t know their heart when you know their face. Cherish the moment and cherish yourself.

I am from Langwai, thank you for your attention.

An ancient saying goes: People do good deeds without caring about their future.

This means that everyone does good deeds and treats others with integrity and does not want to ask for anything in return. It is of no use to themselves. Completely from your own heart, sincerely, and kindly. Don't care about other people's attitude towards you. Good intentions will not be rewarded well, it happens in the world, but in the final analysis, good people will still get praise from everyone, and there will be retribution in the dark. As people often say: The clear blue sky cannot be deceived. If you have never been a prophet of God (man), good and evil will be rewarded in the end. Just fight whether you come early or come late.

The flower said: I bloom to my heart’s content in order to give away the beauty in my heart, and people’s ruthless trampling is selfish in nature. No matter whether my kindness can win people's sincerity, I will still be the same person and let him do whatever he wants.

Kindness without edge, from another perspective, is cowardice.

You said, "You can't buy people's hearts, and kindness becomes a handle in others' hands." This is good, because subconsciously, you have vaguely realized that you seem to be being manipulated. .

You feel uncomfortable.

This is right, because your heart is reminding you, "This is not right, it shouldn't be like this."

Someone has crossed the line and is infringing on your rights. You don't want this to continue.

Then think about why your "kindness" becomes a "handle" for others to take advantage of you.

While you are giving "kindness", are you also gaining "good popularity" and maintaining a certain personality of your own?

If the answer is yes, then I suggest that your "kindness" can be more intelligent. There are many ways to deal with the same thing.

If the answer is no, then I suggest that your "kindness" can be more sharp. When it is time to refuse, your posture must be decisive. If it works, it will work, and if it doesn't, it will not work. Don't be ambiguous and give the other party the illusion that things are still negotiable.

Return to your heart and see why you do what you do.

Is it to seek respect, recognition, or something else.

No matter what, you are a kind person, which is a good thing. You already have the most rare quality. Next, it is time for you to acquire courage and wisdom.

May you have the courage to change those things that are unacceptable and accept those things that cannot be changed.

Then, I wish you can transform knowledge into wisdom in this process and be able to distinguish between the two.

Come on!