People's life has a strong sociality, so making friends becomes essential. But for party member cadres, we must be cautious in making friends, otherwise, it is likely to cause damage to the revolutionary cause, even to life.
Be strict with yourself, always be self-respecting and self-motivated, and be cautious. This warning can be described as a warning.
On making friends, the ancients had many famous sayings: "The friendship between gentlemen is not flattering, and the friendship between villains is not blasphemous." "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as bitter water." "A gentleman avoids sexual intercourse and chooses to make friends as a teacher."
However, what Confucius said comprehensively and specifically in The Analects of Confucius is: "The winner has three friends, and the loser has three friends. Friends are frank, friends forgive and friends listen more, which is beneficial. Friends will be broken, friends will be soft, friends will be destroyed, and friends will be damaged. "
In modern terms, there are three kinds of useful friends. It is beneficial to make friends with honest and frank people, sincere and trustworthy people and knowledgeable people. It is harmful to make friends with flatterers, with people who flatter to their faces and slander behind their backs, and with people who are only glib.
Confucius's "gain" and "loss" may not cover all the problems in making friends, but he listed several people who became "good friends" and "bad friends", which can be said to sum up the main aspects that should be paid attention to in making friends, making our orientation of making friends more clear and easier to distinguish right from wrong.
At the same time, Confucius listed three kinds of "good friends" and "bad friends" respectively, which also shows that the probability of making "bad friends" is not less than that of making "good friends", so we must be cautious.