Confucius said: "There are three kinds of beneficial friends, three kinds of harmful friends. It is beneficial to make friends with honest people and well-informed people. It is harmful to make friends with flatterers, flatterers to their faces, slanders behind their backs and glib people."
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Confucius on making friends:
Confucius said, "After my death, the number of merchants (1) also increased (2), and the ceremony was also lost (3). Zeng Zi said, "What is it? "Confucius said:" Those who are virtuous in business are good (4), and those who are not themselves (5) don't know that their sons are their fathers (6), that they are their friends, that they don't know what their princes are doing, and that they don't know what their factories are. "
Therefore, it is said, "Living with goodness is like entering Lan Zhi's room. If you don't smell its fragrance for a long time, you will become with it (7)." If you don't live well, you will melt away with it if you don't smell it for a long time. Dan hides red, while lacquer hides black. Therefore, a gentleman must be cautious! "
Precautions:
(1) Shang: The following "Ci" and "Ci" are all students of Confucius. Business is summer, and giving is a tribute.
(2) benefits: growth.
(3) Loss: impairment.
(4) sage: a person who is more virtuous than himself.
(5) Say: Tell me about it.
(6) look: look, compare.
(7) transformation: integration.
(8) Bowfish Shop: a shop selling salted fish.
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Confucius said: "There are three kinds of beneficial friends, three kinds of harmful friends, making friends with honest people and well-informed people, which is beneficial, making friends with flatterers, making friends with people who flatter to their faces and slander behind their backs, and making friends with glib people."
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Confucius said: "After my death, business (1) also increased (2), and courtesy also lost (3). Zeng Zi said, "What is it? "Confucius said:" Those who are virtuous in business are good (4), and those who are not themselves (5) don't know that their sons are their fathers (6), that they are their friends, that they don't know what their princes are doing, and that they don't know what their factories are. "
Therefore, it is said, "Living with goodness is like entering Lan Zhi's room. If you don't smell its fragrance for a long time, you will become with it (7)." If you don't live well, you will melt away with it if you don't smell it for a long time.
Dan hides red, while lacquer hides black. Therefore, a gentleman must be cautious! Note: (1) Shang: and the following "Ci" are all students of Confucius.
Business is summer, and giving is a tribute. (2) benefits: growth.
(3) Loss: impairment. (4) sage: a person who is more virtuous than himself.
(5) Say: Tell me about it. (6) look: look, compare.
(7) transformation: integration. (8) Bowfish Shop: a shop selling salted fish.
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Baidu encyclopedia-Confucius on making friends.
3. Make friends in classical Chinese 1, high mountains and flowing water
Boya is good at drumming and Zhong Ziqi is good at listening. Boya's drums are aimed at the mountains. Zhong Ziqi said, "OK, I am like Mount Tai." Zhong Ziqi said, "Well, the ocean is like a river."
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Boya is good at playing the piano, while Zhong Ziqi is good at listening. Boya plays the piano and aims at the mountains. Zhong Ziqi said, "Great! Tall and straight as Mount Tai! " Boya's ambition is fluid, Zhong Ziqi said, "Great! Vast! " After Zhong Ziqi's death, Boya broke the piano and never played it, thinking that no one was worth playing for him. Playing the piano is not the only truth, and neither are saints. Even if there is talent, no one will treat him well. Why should a talented person be loyal to others? A horse will not become a swift horse by itself, until Bole appears.
Bao Jing has great confidence in friendship.
Bao Jing is close friends with Wu Donghu. Wu died, caressing his home and company. Marry a woman in the home front. I heard that Wu's woman will be suitable for people. If she is poor, she can't control it, just give it to her and get married a year later. Time theory calls it.
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Bao Jing and several friends are very loyal, and Wu Donghu is a good friend. After Wu Donghu died, Bao Jing took good care of the Wu family. Later, when Baojing was going to marry his daughter, he heard that Wu Donghu's daughter was going to get married, but because her family was poor and she couldn't afford the dowry, she gave her the dowry, and her daughter got married a year later. People at that time praised him for it.
The classical Chinese for making friends is 1. All men are brothers within the four seas.
2. However, as long as China keeps our friendship, heaven will remain our neighbor.
A thousand dollars is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find.
Making friends with non-sages will inevitably lead to love and hate. -Meng Jiao
The mountains and rivers are not heavy enough, it is important to meet a bosom friend. -Bao Rong
6. I hate each other and know everything. -Li Bai
7. Knowing that the other person is in urgent need, you can't do it alone. -Li Bai
8. Make friends and earn points. Zhou Xingsi
9. At the turn of power, the ancients were ashamed. Yiqing Liu
The way to make friends:
Every time I learn to shoot Yi, I try my best. I thought I was the only one in the world who could heal myself, so I killed Yi. Mencius said, "Yes, but also guilty." Gong said, "I should be innocent." He said, "As thin as a cloud, are you innocent? Zheng Ren asked an obedient son (zhúo) to invade Wei, and Wei asked him to chase him. Zizhuo said, "I'm sick today, so I can't hold a bow. "I am dead!" Ask his servant,' Who is chasing me?' His servant said, "So a good friend." Say,' I was born'. His servant said, "Yu Gong thinks Wei Zhi is good at shooting. Confucius said, "My life, what is it?" Yue: Learn from Yin Gong, and Yin Gong will learn from me. If you are a husband, Yin Hui will take care of others, and if you are a friend, you will take care of them. The foolish old man arrived and said,' Why didn't Master take the bow?' He said,' I'm sick today, so I can't hold a bow. Yue:' The villain learns from Yin Gong, and Yin Gong learns from the master. I can't bear to hurt him in the way of my master. Although, today's matter is also the matter of the monarch, I dare not waste it. "Pull out the arrow, buckle the wheel, take off the gold, take the arrow, and plead against it."
5. Ceng Zi, the original text of On Making Friends in The Analects of Confucius (don't translate it), said: "I save three times a day: I am unfaithful to others? Don't believe in making friends? Can't you learn? " ("learning" is the first)
Confucius said, "Zuo Qiuming is ashamed of his clever words, good manners and full respect, and Qiu is ashamed of it. If you hide grievances and make friends with others, Zuo Qiuming is ashamed and autumn is ashamed. " (Volume V of Industrial Yard)
Yan Yuan, Giroudet. Confucius said, "Why do you say it?" Lutz said, "I wish my horses and chariots were light and well dressed, and I had no regrets with my friends." Yan Yuan said: "I hope that there is no good cut, and I will get it for nothing." Luz said, "I want to hear Zizi's ambition!" Between the lines: "Old people feel secure, friends believe, and few people are pregnant." (Volume V of Industrial Yard)
Confucius said, "Lord believes. Don't be afraid of change if you don't make friends worse than yourself. ("Zi Han" the ninth time)
Confucius said: "Good friends are three, bad friends are three: friends are straight, friends forgive, friends listen more, and they benefit;" Friends will be open, friendly, soft, friends will be destroyed and damaged. " Ceng Zi said: "I visit my body three times a day: am I unfaithful to others?" Don't believe in making friends? Can't you learn? " ("learning" is the first)
Confucius said, "Zuo Qiuming is ashamed of his clever words, good manners and full respect, and Qiu is ashamed of it. If you hide grievances and make friends with others, Zuo Qiuming is ashamed and autumn is ashamed. " (Volume V of Industrial Yard)
Yan Yuan, Giroudet. Confucius said, "Why do you say it?" Lutz said, "I wish my horses and chariots were light and well dressed, and I had no regrets with my friends." Yan Yuan said: "I hope that there is no good cut, and I will get it for nothing." Luz said, "I want to hear Zizi's ambition!" Between the lines: "Old people feel secure, friends believe, and few people are pregnant." (Volume V of Industrial Yard)
Confucius said, "Lord believes. Don't be afraid of change if you don't make friends worse than yourself. ("Zi Han" the ninth time)
Confucius said: "Good friends are three, bad friends are three: friends are straight, friends forgive, friends listen more, and they benefit;" Friends will be open, friendly, soft, friends will be destroyed and damaged. " ("Ji" back to the sixteenth)