We can't insist that marriage must be the purest crystallization of love. However, in the face of such an important choice in life, a single thought may make you regret it all your life.

Dedicated to unmarried people who are married or about to get married:

The first wrong reason for getting married ── to get married for the sake of getting married.

the second wrong reason to get married-to run away from home.

This is a common mistake that girls make. In order to get rid of an unhappy home, or escape from control and yearn for freedom, girls often get married to achieve their goals. In fact, this is a kind of illusory false independence. Blind marriage is just jumping from one fire pit to another. It's just a naive dream to fly out of your home and think that getting married is to change a way of life and start a new life.

the third wrong reason for getting married-on the orders of children.

You'll be surprised that such old stories still happen frequently despite the convenience of contraception. Although the version of the new era is slightly different, when a woman threatens her husband to get married, she is brave enough to be an unmarried mother, but it is still old wine in a new bottle, although she says that the other person is just a stallion. I'm afraid I'm stuck in someone else's heart, and I'm stuck in myself.

the fourth wrong reason to get married-to disobey your parents' orders.

No one can deny the magic of love, but whether parents think their children are too young or think their children choose inappropriate lovers, they may cause strong rebellious psychology. In particular, the parties with rebellious character often resist for the sake of resistance. However, I should remind you that this may be the most dangerous and worst time to resist your parents' opinions.

the fifth wrong reason to get married ── marry a rich man and find a rich man.

who can say if a woman finds a golden mountain to lean on? Everything is money-oriented, even if you seek wealth, I am afraid that other aspects may not be satisfactory.

the sixth wrong reason to get married-just because he is handsome.

Everyone loves handsome men and beautiful women, and the power of beauty is invincible. Except for beauty, all other necessary conditions are lacking, which can be a great tragedy. Besides, don't forget that the depreciation rate of appearance is very high.

the seventh wrong reason to get married-for sex.

Believe it or not, men are more likely to be victims of sex. Men often marry women who are not their favorite, but who use sex to contain them.

the eighth wrong reason to get married ── because I am lonely.

modern people are not afraid of anything, they are afraid of loneliness. Men and women are so entangled because of loneliness. It is better to quarrel and kill than to be alone.

the ninth wrong reason for getting married-seeking security.

a sense of security can't be given by others except yourself. Think about it. I was willing to give you a shoulder to lean on, but I was reluctant. What can you do?

the tenth wrong reason for getting married-getting rid of being single.

Many women still don't believe that marrying late or not is a mature choice. The urge of biological clock, social pressure, fear of being an elderly woman and other factors will make people get married in order to break the single situation. The most ridiculous thing is that a woman told me that even if she divorced after a week of marriage, she had to get married once.

the eleventh wrong reason for getting married-wanting to be a bride.

isn't that an exaggeration? However, there are indeed many such absurd women who regard marriage as a program. Make-up, taking photos and feasting are not only fun, but also fulfilling the bride's dream. I don't know many of them have only been princesses for one day.

the twelfth wrong reason for getting married-you must get married when you are in love.

actually, you don't have to get married to fall in love. Modern people have many chances to fall in love in their life. Like beads, each one has its own perfection and elegance.

13th wrong reason for getting married-because of age.

true love will not determine your happiness because of your age. If you don't choose a partner who can make you fit in all aspects of life, personality and soul because of your age, won't you fall into the grave of true love again? You have to live this boring life every day. That's just living in prison, which is the most common mistake girls make.

Five golden rules for finding a lifelong partner

A relationship teacher put forward five golden rules to evaluate the prospect of long-term marriage success.

When you want to choose a lifelong partner, absolutely no one will make the wrong choice. However, when the divorce rate is as high as 5%, you know that many people have made serious mistakes in choosing his or her partner. When you ask many engaged couples why they want to get married, they will definitely answer: We love each other! I believe this is the first mistake people make in dating. Choosing a lifelong partner must not be based on love alone, which may sound incorrect, but there is a profound truth in it.

when other ingredients are right, love will come. Love is not the only basis for marriage, but it is the result of a good marriage. Let me say it again: you can't build a lifelong relationship with love alone, you need more. If you are determined to find and have a lifelong partner, here are five questions to ask yourself.

question 1: do we have the same life goals?

why is this so important?

if you have been married for 2 or 3 years, it is a long time to live with someone. How do you plan to spend this time? Eat together, run? You must share something deeper and more meaningful with him or her, and you must have the same life goals. There are two things that can happen in a marriage: you can grow up together, or you can grow up separately. 5% of people grow up independently. To make a successful marriage, you must know what you want at the bottom line of life, and then marry (or marry) someone just like you.

question 2: do you feel safe when sharing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question is related to the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means that you can communicate openly with this person? Good communication is based on trust, and I believe that I will not be punished or hurt for expressing my feelings and thoughts. Someone you are afraid to express your feelings and thoughts to. Be honest with yourself! Make sure you are marrying someone you feel emotionally safe with.

question 3: is he (she) an admirable and special person?

This question means: Is he (she) a noble and sensitive person? How do you test him (her)?

Here are some suggestions:

Do they take a general foundation as their personal growth method?

are they serious about improving themselves?

someone who always strives for the best and does the right thing. So ask your partner: How does he or she use his or her time?

is he or she a materialist? Usually, a materialist will not give the first priority to improving character.

There are basically two kinds of people in this world:

One is those who are committed to personal growth, and the other is those who seek a comfortable life.

people who set a comfortable life as their goal will put personal enjoyment first. You must know this before you walk down the red carpet with him or her.

question 4: how does he or she treat other people?

the most important thing to promote interpersonal relationship is the ability to give. The so-called giving is the ability to make others happy. See if this person is happy to give? Think about what he does to those people he doesn't need to be nice to. For example: waiters, bus drivers, cleaners, etc. How does he treat his parents and brothers and sisters? Does he know how to appreciate? If he doesn't appreciate the person who gave him everything, don't expect him to appreciate you. Will he gossip and speak ill of others? People who gossip will never know how to love others. You can be sure that if they are not good to others, they will not be good to you.

question 5: do I want to change this person after marriage?

Too many people make this mistake in the hope of improving their spouses after marriage. One of my colleagues explained: You may want someone to change for the worse after marriage. If you can't fully accept him or her as he or she is now, you are not ready to get married. To sum up, the dating stage should not be difficult and dangerous. The crux is that you should use more brains and less snacks. When you are dating, be as objective as possible and ask some questions that will help the whole thing. Words written to friends

Words written to friends

No matter how time goes on, let sincerity last forever! No matter how things change, let understanding last forever! No matter near or far away, let it be beautiful forever! Whether happy or sad, let the blessing be forever!

counting the past, I have had laughter, tears and precious memories. The number of friends is not enough, but the sincerity is good. There are few real confidants in my life, only you!

There is a blade of grass that is green for you, a flower that smiles for you, a gust of wind that blows for you, a cloud that floats for you, a sunny day for you, someone who loves you and a word for you. No matter how busy and tired you are, don't forget to take care of yourself!

May my blessing moisten your throat like a cup of tea; Like a ray of sunshine, light up your future; Like a bunch of flowers, make your life colorful!

Become bigger and brighter in the pure bath. Although you and I are on the same side, I will take your sun, leave my sunshine and let them shine in your heart and my heart! I sincerely wish you a smooth and comfortable life every day!

Long distance, long line, and long thoughts; Far space, a long time, scissors keep hanging on you!

I wish you a double harvest in your love career. You don't have to worry about happiness from now on. Your house is too proud, your car doesn't waste oil, and your happy days have no end. After years of hard work, you can enjoy all the good things in the world!

The most romantic story has no ending, and the most precious friendship does not have too many words. Only the tacit understanding of each other's hearts and only the familiar greetings are the sweet milk.

The first time I met you, my mood was warm. When I made friends with you, I was sincere. When I was with you, I was happy. I have no regrets about knowing you as a friend.

When you turn on your computer in the morning, you can see my blessing, a rose in your heart, which brings you good luck for the day.

I miss you like a wisp of smoke, and I wish you a blessing like a gurgling stream for life.

in a square inch, the vicissitudes of the world are counted; In time and space, ask carefully whether the human summer is coming to cold; Being friends, the stars move and the feelings do not change; It is a bosom friend, and the ends of the earth remember it.

The wind is transparent, the rain is ticking, the clouds are flowing, the songs are free, love is intentional, love is crazy, the sky is eternal, and you will never forget it.

A good story has no ending, a sincere friendship needs no words, only a friend who misses has a short message, the radio waves of blessing will not rest, and there is no distance for a beautiful yearning. A greeting message expresses your mind!

flowers are the most beautiful peony, and people are closest to friends. You don't pay gold or silver to make friends, but you only make friends with a heart. Water flows thousands of miles to the sea, people walk thousands of miles, friendship exists, trees are rooted, and friends are heart to heart.

Beautiful rainbow after the rain, I really miss leaving, good luck, good dreams and good mood. After you receive the message, my dear friend, I sincerely hope that happiness will be around you at this moment.

I have received your blessing, and I know your concern. I think of your kindness every day, and I will never forget it. It is the hardest to find a bosom friend in life. Fortunately, we meet by chance, and we hope to talk often in our leisure time. Don't complain about disturbing each other. True feelings are higher than waves!

A friend is an insider, confidant and friend. I miss you very much for one day, miss you very much for two days and miss you very much for a few days. I wish you good fortune and good luck in the New Year!

The bell is ringing, the years have passed, the hope is planted, the story is left behind, the hope is beautiful, and the blessing is sent. May my friend be happy every day! Always happy!

Gently dial your number to let you know my arrival; Let my blessing fly slowly and let you feel my presence. Let the wind send my heart, let the stars send my greetings, I hope you are happy every day.

Let spring bring you romance, text messages bring you greetings, words bring you blessings, delicacies bring you happiness, new buds bring you vitality, friends bring you care, and I wish you happiness every day!

people work hard because they have goals; I am diligent because I have a direction; The reason for persistence is because there is hope; I am happy because I have a friend like you!

after receiving your blessing, I am happy every day, white winter, red Christmas and warm season. At this quiet moment, I sincerely wish you a Merry Christmas and a wonderful happiness!

send you a rose to make you laugh all day; Send you a tulip, so that you will no longer be sad; Send you a carnation to make you healthy and happy; Send you a rich bamboo, so that you are blessed and blessed! Sentences for friends

1. There is a sentence that has been suppressed for a long time, and I want to say it and swallow it. I can't help it. I just want to tell you by sending you a text message. Please be patient: It's cold, so put on more clothes. Actually, what I want to say is: I love you!

2. Go clear, just like coming clear, wave your hand and don't take away a cloud.

3. There are so many people in the world, why do I know you? I know so many people, why I miss you. As long as I think of you, my heart is as sweet as honey!

4. Friendship is an evergreen tree, which needs sunshine, enthusiasm and sincerity, simplicity and frankness. Let's water it with the true feelings of the spring water of our hearts, so that the friendship tree will last forever and bloom undefeated! Let friendship last forever.

5. The more I read, the closer books bring me to the world, and life becomes brighter and more meaningful to me.

6. None of us are perfect people, but we have to accept our imperfect selves. Comfort yourself when you are lonely; Give yourself warmth when you are lonely. Learn to stand on your own feet, say goodbye to dependence and say goodbye to your weak self.

7. Life is nothing more than some people coming and some people leaving. When the door was opened and closed, everything was decided. Despite the surge of people, I am still alone. Approach quietly and leave quietly.

8. You should smile every day, because your smile is the most charming; You should be happier, because everyone likes you. Are you in a good mood? Are you happy? Let go of the burden in your heart and enjoy a new day.

9. Adversity is a necessary process for growth. People who are brave enough to accept adversity will grow stronger and stronger.

1. You can't listen unless you have a bosom friend.

11. raindrops will turn into coffee, and seeds will blossom into roses. Traveling is a kind of dating. Parting is to experience the feeling of loneliness. It's not that there is no one to accompany you. It's just that coffee is not drunk, and you are tired all the way, and the rain will break when you touch it. Only friends are the most precious.

12. If there are only ten minutes left, I will recall with you.