Children who want to play with other children are rejected. This situation is actually very common. As parents, you don't need to be too worried and anxious. Next, I sorted out what parents should do if their children are refused to make friends. I hope you like this article!
Every child has different temperament preferences. If you let him play, he may not want to play with you. Especially when you are young and have different language communication and play habits, you may be rejected. For children, being rejected is often unhappy, lost, and may even cry.
1, parents spend more time with their children
Some people may ask, we parents really can't interfere with their children's own social activities, but we have to say that parents are their children's first teachers. Compared with others, parents play an important role in the establishment of children's outlook on life and values.
Therefore, parents should spend more time with their children when they are young, so that they can realize that they are not a lonely individual, but are connected with other people in society, which is of great help to their integration into the big family in the future. This is the first socialization in a child's life, and everything is difficult at the beginning. If children can have a good social atmosphere in the family, they will have certain social experience when they interact with others in society in the future, which will be the initial' wealth' in their lives.
2. Cultivate children's awareness of rules
As most experts say, children are rejected when they are young, largely because they don't understand the social rules in the group, and the formation of rule consciousness can't be completed overnight. Therefore, both kindergarten teachers and parents should cultivate children's awareness of rules when they are young.
Only deep-rooted consciousness can help children use it flexibly in daily life. It is not difficult to say that it is not difficult to cultivate the awareness of rules, but it requires the continuous efforts of parents and teachers, that is, to seriously tell children what to do and what the results are in every detail and trivial matter that children come into contact with. With such efforts day after day, children will definitely imprint "rules" in their minds, which is what we are.
3. Enrich children's emotional experience
Another reason why children are excluded from social interaction is that they don't know the emotional changes of their friends. If they don't feel it, they can't take corresponding solutions. Therefore, it is very important for children to understand psychologically. To put it bluntly, it is to learn some basic abilities of "observing words and observing colors".
Parents should firmly support their children when they make the right decisions, and tell them not to be afraid of failure. Mom and dad will always be your strong backing. When your children are rejected by friends, tell them to be brave, and clearly tell them to take the initiative to help other children, for example, tell them to share their toys with friends, provide their own playground, and invite other children to play together. For example, children will know what to do when they encounter the same problem.
Children make friends and refuse is a problem that many children will encounter. Parents should not be too nervous or too radical. Educating children should be done in a subtle way.