Principle 1: Don’t be stingy with your praise. Praise can help a frustrated person regain his confidence, and praise can help a confused person find the way forward. In life, discover more of the advantages of others, tell them loudly, let others know that you care, and be gratified by your affirmation. This way, more people will be willing to associate with you.
Principle 2: Humility makes you popular. Only by learning to be humble can you gain the favor of others and gain good popularity while constantly learning from others and improving yourself. In a word, humility is one of the most important qualities to achieve success and win people's respect. Being arrogant will only make you a loner and fall into the abyss of failure at any time.
Principle 3: Be prepared for danger in times of peace and take a long-term view. Life is full of hardships, and you may run into danger at any time. Maybe the situation is still good now, but tomorrow it will be difficult. If you don't think about it early, you will get stuck in it and be unable to extricate yourself. Only by being prepared for danger in times of peace can you be able to deal with it with ease and walk on dangerous peaks as if it were flat ground.
Principle 4: Remember to keep a low profile at all times. Low-key people may look inconspicuous, but they have extraordinary wisdom and efficient execution. They have an open mind, sophisticated and wise strategies, a spirit of persistent pursuit, and a hard-working style. They keep a low profile and gain sufficient accumulation of wealth; they keep a low profile and gain sufficient spiritual precipitation. Therefore, they embarked on the golden road of achieving success and creating life, and they created miracles again and again!
Principle 5: Adhering to integrity is the foundation for your life and success. You must dare to do what you have done, do what you say, and do your best when you do it. If you can do this, congratulations, you are already halfway successful as a human being. A person who cannot keep his promises will be regarded as worthless. If you want to succeed in your career, you must be an honest and trustworthy person. This is the truth as the saying goes: "The passing geese leave their voices, and the passing people leave their names." There is no greater wisdom in life than this.
Principle 6: Be on guard against others. Being defensive does not mean that you cannot trust others, that you are always wary of others, and that you are suspicious of everything they say and do. If you really do this, the people around you will no longer have friends, and no one will want to be with you. Dating with a person who doubts his friends all day long. Treat friends sincerely, but keep a defensive mind deep in your heart. This is the correct way to guard against others.
Principle 7: Seize the opportunity and make decisive decisions. Napoleon said: The art of war is to concentrate the greatest strength at a certain point. The art of life is to choose a breakthrough point of attack and then attack with all your strength. If we can make prompt decisions among the numerous and confusing goals, choose a goal as soon as possible, and work tirelessly to achieve the goal, success will not be far away from us.
Principle 8: Repay kindness and always be grateful. When we were born into the world, from ignorant babies to smart and energetic adults, we enjoyed everything given by nature, relatives, friends and countless strangers every moment. We were tightly surrounded by love. Many people have contributed and paid for our growth and life. We should always remember all these people and things, all the love and grace, and be grateful for everything.
Principle 9: Say "no" bravely and learn to refuse. There are many times in life when you need to say "no" and you have to say it out loud. Saying no is sometimes the best way to solve a problem without bogging you down. But be careful about how you say "no." The right method can bring you the best results.
Principle 10: Remember silence is golden. When interacting with others, be careful with what you say, and never talk endlessly when you meet others. Talking too much will lead to mistakes and will bring you a lot of unnecessary trouble. Learn to be silent. Silence is gold, wisdom, virtue, and sometimes a miracle.
Principle 11: Face reality and don’t cry over spilled milk. Don't cry over spilled milk, is a very philosophical saying. Those who have gone by cannot be admonished, but those who have come can still be pursued. Let the past go, no matter what we do, we can never change it. But the future is still in our hands, and it still needs us to create it.
Don't delay the present by regretting the past, otherwise we will only have regrets in the future.
Principle 12: Do not demand full blame from others. "No gold is pure, and no man is perfect." No one in the world is perfect. Everyone has some shortcomings, shortcomings or bad habits. But as long as it is not a matter of principle, we should treat others with tolerance. If you are very harsh on others and always find fault with others, then you will not be liked by others, will not have many friends, and may even cause you trouble.
Principle 13: Never hurt other people’s face at any time. In interpersonal communication, if you want to establish a harmonious relationship with others, you must take into account the other person's face and not hurt the other person's face. Respecting others and giving face to others actually leaves room for oneself.
Principle 14: Learn to be patient, and a hundred patience will turn into gold. Patience is the training of will and the accumulation of explosive power; it is breaking through the net with silent struggle and melting the ice with invisible flames. Only by working hard in patience, struggling in patience, and suffering in patience can life shine with brilliance. The burden of life is often the glory of life - the towering monuments in the world; brilliant achievements are born from patience.
Principle 15: Think independently and don’t follow what others say. Never live under the opinions of others. You must have your own opinions in everything you do. Other people's opinions can only be for your reference. From other people's opinions, extract things that are beneficial to you, and those that are worthless or even harmful. Things must be abandoned, don't let them become a stumbling block to your success.
Principle 16: A person must have magnanimity. People who are broad-minded and generous are respected and loved by everyone; while people who are narrow-minded and petty are avoided by everyone. Tolerance is a kind of wisdom in life and a magic weapon for establishing good relationships between people.
Principle 17: Leave room at all times. When talking to others, leave a little room in your words and don't say anything to death. This kind of communication is flexible, consistent with human rationality, and easy to achieve good results. Otherwise, if you don't leave any space when speaking, make your words absolute, and block your own escape route, you will easily become stiff. When doing things, leave a little leeway, don't push the other person to the edge, and give others a chance to reflect and start over. This is also an opportunity for yourself.
Principle 18: Don’t be surprised when things change, be optimistic and adapt to changes. Those who have had brilliance, those geniuses, have controlled others, and have overcome all the forces that hinder their development. However, the first thing they defeated was their own emotions, because after defeating their own emotions, they will Be able to calmly face everything in front of you and make the right decision at critical moments.
Principle 19: Defend your rights with confidence. As long as you can do your job and do it better, you should "fight for profit." A valuable person, an accomplished person, fighting for his own interests is fair and aboveboard, and there is no need for any psychological burden at all.
Principle 20: Grasp the bottom line of life. Keep your own moral bottom line, so that you won't go astray because of small things. Draw a clear bottom line of your abilities and act within your ability, so that you won't get nothing. Only by grasping the bottom line of life and being good at using it to remind yourself and plan your life can your life be more lasting and better.
Principle 21: The winning weapon must not be shown to others. Hole cards are the key to your victory and a weapon that can turn defeat into victory when you are in danger. The bullet after it is released is not scary, the bullet that has not yet been released is scary, because you don't know where it will hit. Uncertainty, confusing people, will bring trouble to your opponents and give you a chance to win. Hide your cards well and hit the road, so you won't be in danger of capsizing at any time.
Principle 22: To achieve great things, you must be able to bend and stretch. "Be able to bend and stretch" are always said together by people. It can be seen that they cannot be separated, and this is indeed the case. Those who cannot bend are strong but not soft and are easily broken; those who cannot stretch are soft but not strong and cannot stand. You must be able to bend as well as stretch, so that you can be strong and soft at the same time, and move smoothly on the road of life.
Principle 23: Never trust anyone credulously.
If you want to gain a foothold in this society, don't trust others. Gullibly trusting others will make you make decisions blindly, and make you "bet" when your emotions dominate your reason or your reason is unclear. This situation will make you lose yourself and fall into the trap of conspirators.
Principle 24: As a human being, you must remember to avoid expansion. As a human being, you must avoid expansion. Too strong desires and arrogance will not bring you any benefits, but will only push you to a steep cliff, causing you to lose your footing, or even lead to death.
Principle 25: Don’t lose your temper easily. Anger is like a time bomb in the human body that can cause disaster at any time. This is the truth as the ancients said, "Anger arises from the heart, evil comes from the courage." Therefore, when you are about to lose your temper, it is best to endure it and think about the consequences. If you can't calm down and think about the consequences, but let your anger pour out, it may bring disaster to you.
Principle 26: Don’t speak ill of others behind their backs. In interpersonal communication, one of the biggest taboos is talking about others behind their backs. If you have any opinions, you can communicate them in good faith face to face, and avoid making negative comments behind your back. Otherwise, you will feel like a hypocrite and two-faced person. No one can be perfect, and others may not mind your well-intentioned criticism, but "double-dealing" and "talking about people behind their backs" are intolerable to anyone.
Principle 27: Be polite when interacting with others. When interacting with others, etiquette comes first. Etiquette best reflects a person's quality and attitude towards others. It is one of the important criteria for others to recognize you. Gentle, sincere and generous speech and behavior will bring a comfortable and friendly feeling to others; while a person who behaves vulgarly and has no etiquette will definitely be unpopular and disliked.
Principle 28: Never get into trouble. People often call those who are ignorant and accept death as "love to get out of the corner." In fact, it is easy to get out of the corner. It is as simple as changing the direction. However, this alone stumps many people. Countless people only know to turn back after hitting a wall, but most of them are too late. What’s even more sad is that many people “hit the wall and don’t know how to look back.”
Principle 29: Even the best friends should keep an appropriate distance. Leave a gap when doing carpentry and a little distance when making friends. This is the right way to handle relationships with friends. Friendship is like a spring. Only by maintaining a moderate distance and moderate stretching and compression can it maintain its permanent elastic beauty.
Principle 30: Avoid public arguments and confrontations with others. When you are in the situation of arguing with others, the best way is to avoid it. Once you argue with someone, even if you win, all you will get is the anger, resentment, and other bad emotions that came out of the argument. Open arguments will only make the other party stick to their own point of view and will not help solve the problem at all.
Principle 31: Keep a normal mind at all times. Life is not always smooth sailing. If you cannot have a normal heart, you may be blinded by all kinds of worldly things and various desires in your heart, and you may stumble in the ups and downs of life. And if you can maintain a normal mind at all times, you can calmly survive the peaks and troughs of life.
Principle 32: Avoid fighting with senior people. When you first enter a new environment, you will always meet senior people. They may discriminate against you and ridicule you. At this time, do not fight with them, but use your sincerity and practical ability to conquer them and let them voluntarily accept and identify with you.
Principle 33: The opinions of others should be received with pleasure. Successful people are good at listening to other people's opinions; some people even take the initiative to let others express their opinions. Because they understand that no matter how smart a person is, his abilities are limited. Other people's opinions are a reflection of other people's wisdom. If you can carefully screen this information, absorb the good opinions and enrich your own ideas, it will be like borrowing other people's wisdom.
Principle 34: Be good at listening. Some people say: "The highest level of speaking is to speak less and listen more." This is absolutely correct.
Principle 45: Only by letting go of your “self-esteem” can you increase your “worth.” There is a saying in China: "The bigger the horse's arrogance, the more valuable it is; the greater the man's arrogance, the meaner it is." If you always feel that you are superior to others, you will always use your own abilities and status to make things worse, or psychologically put a large part of your Ordinary people are isolated from your communication range. You will definitely be "abandoned" by more people because of your "arrogance".
Principle 46: It is better to make up for deficiencies than to give more than enough. Instead of spending time and energy on making up for your shortcomings, it would be better to use it to develop your strengths. If you continue to fill in your shortcomings, the best you can do is be on par with ordinary people, and it will be difficult to make any further progress. But if you are willing to work persistently on your strengths, it is easy to succeed in this area.
Principle 47: Whatever you do, you must prioritize. No matter how many things are going on, things always come first. Prioritize, put the most important things first, do important things first, prioritize when doing things, and try to eliminate secondary matters that interfere with progress. You will be close to success in life without knowing it. .
Principle 48: Shouldering responsibility will make you walk more steadily. There is an old Chinese saying: "In his position, he seeks his own government." When a person is in a position, he has corresponding responsibilities. Each of us has a place in society, and we must shoulder our responsibilities. Doing your job well means taking responsibility; not making excuses for yourself when making mistakes and having the courage to accept punishment means taking responsibility. Only when a person can shoulder his responsibilities can he move more steadily on the road of life.