1. Respect children’s needs and give positive information
As parents, we should pay attention to and respect children’s needs and listen carefully to their children’s thoughts and needs. Children's interpersonal communication all starts with needs. Newborn children will communicate with people through their eyes. When he looks at you with his eyes, you always respond with a happy smile. You will find that your child is more active than other children; he can feel your response to him through your smile. Older children will ask all kinds of questions and have a hundred thousand whys in their brains. As a parent, you must not be impatient, let alone dampen your children's enthusiasm. You should also respond to questions you don't know or needs that can't be met temporarily, instead of ignoring them or fooling him into saying, "You don't understand even if you tell me, just go and have fun." Children are actually the most sensitive. They want more love satisfaction from their interactions with their parents. Curiosity is a child's nature, and there is nothing wrong with asking. The key is the attitude of adults. If you ignore it for a long time, the child will become less and less interested in asking questions and interacting with you. As he grows older, he may also slowly Become like you, ignoring questions you don’t want to answer and avoiding them.
Usually, children should be told more stories about equality, tolerance, integrity, interaction and other good qualities, so that children can understand some principles of life. If you find that children show bad habits in interpersonal communication, If you lie, ignore others, etc., you must promptly correct and guide them.
2. Pay attention to communication with children, give encouragement and affirmation
When children make friends and play with other children in the early days, they may want to take the initiative but are afraid and shy, and don’t know how. Open your mouth to join in, and some will hold their mother's hand and show longing eyes... At this time, as parents, you should encourage your children to learn to open their mouths to communicate with children. For the first time, parents should give a simple demonstration to let them see how they do it. Teach him how to speak, lead him to his friends, and encourage him to learn how to express himself just like he did. When children try to speak, they have already taken a big step towards success. Regardless of whether the words are good or bad, they must be affirmed and encouraged, tell them that this is great, tell them how to do better next time, and teach them some communication. Little tricks, such as: "Thank you", "You're welcome", "Sorry", "It's okay", "Please sit down", "Hello", "Can you?" "Let's play together, okay?" "Lend a toy" "You play, I'll play later" and other language can help children to be enthusiastic and proactive in dealing with others, and gradually learn to interact with others and learn to make friends; they can also be taught to communicate in appropriate ways based on their physical needs, so that they feel connected with others. It is not that difficult to interact with people, and you can experience the joy of communication. Of course, children should also be encouraged to independently face and resolve interpersonal conflicts they encounter; when faced with difficulties and setbacks, children should be guided to treat them with a healthy attitude and develop optimistic, cheerful, and strong qualities.
You can train your children's language expression ability and cultivate their confidence in communicating with others through communication with them in daily life; you can also take your children to places with many people, such as going to parks, attending parties, etc. , create opportunities for children to communicate with others. When you go out to a party with friends, let your children watch how you communicate with your friends and set an example for them. Of course, don't ignore your children during the party. Make time to communicate and interact with your children.
3. Set an example, help children communicate with peers, and learn to share and cooperate
Parents are their children’s first teachers. Healthy and friendly relationships between children and family members, It is a prerequisite for children to get along well with others. Child psychology research tells us that when a child with a sense of secure attachment grows up, he will bring this sense of security to his social relationships and be more likely to identify with peers or others. For the future of their children, parents should create an atmosphere of democracy, equality, cordiality, harmony, healthy and positive communication, so that children can feel the harmony and warmth of home. Children tend to imitate some of their parents' language and behaviors in life, and imitate their parents' attitudes and ways of dealing with others, and finally become their own habits. Therefore, as parents, we must set an example for our children and pay attention to our own words and deeds.
In terms of the development of social communication skills, parents have direct and indirect effects on children.
Parents often have strong social communication skills and good parent-child relationships, which also subtly affect the development of children's social communication skills. On the contrary, some parents themselves are more introverted or cold, and are not willing to interact with others. These personality characteristics will also affect the development of children's social communication skills. As a child, when I grow up I am not willing to interact with others. Parents, for the future of our children, we still need to use positive methods to guide our children and set a good example for our children.