My former colleague's in-laws spent time with brother in law when she was young and capable, but when she was old, it was useless to go to her eldest son's house. My former colleague was so angry that we didn't see each other for many years. Suddenly, one day, she came to my house and said that my colleague was the kind of woman who was outspoken and could make deep friends with her. We didn't see each other for several years, but we never asked her for anything.
There are really many such cases.
Girl, just do what you can. Be generous and don't hurt yourself. (In my mind, my husband was born by my mother-in-law, and my husband was born by her mother-in-law. Work for me to earn money. Don't care about everything. Don't care about everything. I earned it. I earned it [covering my face] [covering my face].
I think it's reasonable, because every child has the obligation to support the elderly. Usually, her mother-in-law doesn't disturb your life and doesn't cause you any pressure in life. It's nothing to take care of when you are sick. Although you are paid, you have to take care of the elderly. When you are sick, every child has to take the initiative to take care of you. I live in the city, and my two children and my husband and brothers are in our home. Mother-in-law is over 8 years old, and she likes to stay in our house best. Unfortunately, her legs and feet are inconvenient, so she can't go downstairs by herself. She always does whatever she likes. If she is ill at ordinary times, she doesn't ask other brothers for money. If she is seriously ill, the expenses will definitely be shared between the brothers. My mother-in-law sometimes takes the initiative to find me living expenses, saying that we have a heavy burden, and I never accept it. She said to her, it is reasonable and not.
Tell me about me. My husband, two brothers, two sons, and my eldest parents-in-law raised them until they were 18 years old. That's the kind that the old man raised them, and my elder brother and sister-in-law didn't give them any living expenses. Now I have a second child, and my elder brother and sister-in-law occasionally help me. My father-in-law bought the pharmacy and shop in my hometown after marriage. For 16 years, we haven't paid a dime rent. We bought a house in Wuhan, and the most annoying thing is that the house in my hometown is half of ours. It's also said that it's his Lao Tzu's room, and he can give it to whoever he wants. I'm too lazy to argue, because there is a mother-in-law to take care of the children and a father-in-law to sponsor them. The couple saved money without raising children, and bought a large flat floor in the county town. Because my brother's eldest brother is an adult, and his second child is 13, I also have two children, the eldest is 14, and the second child is 5 years old. The year before last, I asked my mother-in-law to help me take my second child to work. As a result, Now my father-in-law sometimes wants to come to my house to live, but I'm determined not to do it. I don't think about it for a day. There's plenty of time. I don't care about them, but it doesn't mean I'm easy to talk.
Do you make it clear that my family is also two brothers, living in the same neighborhood? We are younger brothers. The two old men raised their nephews until they were 8 years old, and then they took care of their younger nephews. The main reason why my family didn't help us was that my brother gave birth to two sons. In fact, my husband and brother work the same, and I can't go to work without someone to take care of me. Fortunately, my parents' father helped me a lot financially. Later, I didn't work in kindergarten until my second child went to kindergarten. My sister-in-law has been able to go to work with someone in charge, and I don't know how my parents can treat me in the future to be worthy of the elderly and myself.
My father-in-law has two sons. My husband is a child. Because my brother is in the countryside, the economy is worse than ours. My father-in-law is a middle school teacher. After retirement, I just gave birth to a child. They helped me take the child to primary school. I didn't ask him to pay a penny. Later, he went back to live with his elder sister-in-law. I suggested that he use his pension in his elder sister-in-law's house. After all, he was responsible for his daily life in his later years, because my husband and wife were engaged in medical
To tell the truth, everyone wants to live happily in a small family, and no one wants to live with the old people on a small salary. It's good that my sister-in-law has been able to let the old people live with them for so many years. You really have fun. You have lived undisturbed for so many years, and you are really happy. The old people can't move, and you really take care of them. My mother-in-law has lived with me for many years. Really don't care too much, life is too short.
No matter what, it's reasonable. My grandparents have a retirement salary to live with my uncle. When they were young, the old couple beat and scolded my mother. They arranged for my uncle and uncle to have public meals, but they didn't care about our family. When they had money, they wanted to give it to them. Our family had nothing. My grandfather died of illness and my grandmother took care of it. After his death, the money for the gift was divided between them. When my grandmother died, they both took care of my mother alone. The problem is that my grandmother died and our family still didn't get a share of her gift money. It's really not about money. My concept is that I can suffer, but you have to convince me to suffer.
It's very reasonable. My mother-in-law has a salary and a sister-in-law. It's not the reason why you don't take care of her. When an old man is sick, all his brothers have the obligation to take care of him. If you want to live with your mother-in-law, you can take care of him when you get well. Everything is reasonable if you learn to put yourself in the other's shoes.
You have no obligation to take care of your mother-in-law, but your husband should take care of your sick mother-in-law, otherwise your mother-in-law can sue your husband.
children should take care of the elderly. If you don't want to take care of them, you can. Your husband must go. If your husband doesn't have time, you have to go. Can you not go?
When my father-in-law was ill, my husband just took a leave of absence to take care of him. Later, his condition improved. When my husband went to work, I waited on my father-in-law to eat and drink, and my mother-in-law waited on other things. So what, can I not wait on him? I take care of my husband. My husband is busy, so I should take care of him.
if you don't want to, then your husband must serve.
how reasonable! Does the mother-in-law have a salary? Generally speaking, the daughter-in-law is unwilling to live with her mother-in-law, while the sister-in-law lives with her mother-in-law. No matter what the reason is, the questioner should "steal the fun".
try changing places and let your mother-in-law live with you. Would you like to? If you want, why don't you let your mother-in-law take turns to live here? If you don't want to, why does your mother-in-law "smash" her sister-in-law's house, and you don't even want to take care of her when she is sick?
If the questioner thinks that the sister-in-law should cover all the wages of her mother-in-law, what is her salary? If it exceeds the local average wage level, it still makes sense. If it is far below the average level, it just doesn't make sense.
suppose your mother-in-law has no salary, and her mother-in-law lives in her sister-in-law's house, then you should pay a certain amount of money for your sister-in-law, which is called, if you don't contribute, you will pay; Or call, don't bother, just pay.
As far as people I know well, as long as they pay, their in-laws can "stay" in their brothers and sisters' homes, and everyone will pay happily. If the in-laws have wages, their wages generally go to their families, and other people generally don't feel unhappy.
This is all about my in-laws being able to take care of themselves. Everything is still relatively easy to say. Once my in-laws get sick, no matter how high the salary is, no matter who is raising them, there will be family discord!
in our local area, if the sick old people want to hire a nurse, boy, the salary is getting higher. It is because serving the sick elderly is not only physical work, but also a great challenge to "worry".
So, the sister-in-law has already shouldered most of your "worries", but it's very good for you to share it when your mother-in-law is ill. If you can't even do this, let her go to your home and get her salary.
we don't know until we try, but we know for sure: it turns out that we are living in happiness and don't know it!