100 tips to improve emotional intelligence;
1. Don't deny others in a hurry, replace "wrong" with "right"
2. Say thank you as much as possible, and remember to add the other person's name or you. "
When asking for help from others, don't take it for granted, don't command tone, remember to add?
4. Talk less about "I" and more about "you"
5. Communicate with people and use "we" more to shorten the distance.
6. Praise and flatter, pay attention to details, and boast more practical cases.
7. Praise people, praise the advantages that everyone knows, and say the praise he expects.
8. You can praise others in a teasing tone.
9. Say nice things in front of others and say more behind their backs.
10. You can verbally attack him, but please don't laugh at what he likes, especially idols.
1 1. When you meet for the first time, try to remember each other's names.
12. You can quarrel and fight. Never say anything that hurts the other person's self-esteem.
13. He who sees through everything can, don't find out, leave a little room.
14. In public social occasions, we should also consider the feelings of a few people.
15. If you really can't help pretending to be B, try to add a few words of self-mockery.
16. "Do you understand what I mean" was changed to "Did I make myself clear?"
17. Sometimes it's more pleasant to talk about your ideas.
18. Funny self-mockery is always the best way to socialize.
19. The best way to comfort yourself is to make yourself worse.
20. Don't say how miserable you are when you meet. Maybe no one really understands you.
2 1. Never say "I told you so" or "I knew it would happen"
22. When chatting, if the other person is interrupted, take the initiative to help him answer: "What were you going to say just now?"
23. Don't win every conversation. If you win the truth, you lose your feelings.
24. When sharing your glory, mention the help of others.
25. When taking responsibility, mention yourself first.
26. Try not to get angry. Anger is an admission of incompetence.
27. If you refuse others, you can blame yourself first.
28. Seek cooperation. Don't always say what you want, say what you can give to each other.
29. The closer you are, the more respect and patience you need.
30. Change every sentence "I can't" to "I can learn"
3 1. Find leaders and accept their suggestions with an open mind.
Keep a calm mind, and things will pass one day.
33. Make your request frankly, and then express your gratitude.
34. Don't pursue perfection, learn to accept your own imperfections.
35. Get rid of unnecessary fetters, and worry less if you have more troubles.
36. Taking criticism as an example may improve your shortcomings.
37. Learn from difficult people.
38. Hard ones are easy to fold, while soft ones are long.
39. Never trust what others say about him.
40. Always compete with peers, not fools.
4 1. Don't underestimate everyone around you just because you are in love.
42. Others can laugh at themselves, but you must never agree.
43. Be kind to others when you climb up, but you will encounter it when you go down.
44. Keep three points when talking to everyone. Don't lose my heart at all.
45. Don't give negative energy to people around you.
46. Make a tofu mouth and hide a knife heart.
47. Don't talk nonsense if you can't talk. It is better to smile silently.
48. Body shaping and makeup painting.
49. Appropriate trust and reasonable doubt.
50. Self-mockery is the highest emotional intelligence, not laughing at others.
5 1. Learn to refuse, no one will appreciate your kindness, they will only push their luck.
What others laugh at is not your dream, but your strength.
53. Stop before you speak and ask yourself whether you want to vent or express.
54. If you can't see through, you are still good friends.
55. Don't invite too many people into your life. Too much enthusiasm will never be cherished.
56. You don't have to say everything to make friends, but if you say everything, you will have no friends.
57. Call aunt and sister, beautiful sister.
58. Don't tell lies easily without absolute certainty and necessity.
59. Socializing is not that easy. Everyone has his difficulties.
60. Don't expose other people's shortcomings in public.
6 1. No matter how familiar you are, please respect each other's parents.
Don't tell the secret to the wind, it will spread all over the forest.
63. Have high face value, good temper and principles.
64. Smile at others while chatting. You don't know how to reply. You smile beautifully.
You should listen to others' scolding more, and don't take others' praise too seriously.
66. Don't think too badly of others and don't think too well of others. They are all ordinary people.
67. Don't talk too much and don't be too familiar.
68. When you are most angry, hold back the words that hurt each other the most.
69. Don't let others tell you anything, just say "I know."
70. Don't be stingy with your words of praise and love.
7 1. Don't say anything behind others' backs.
72. Don't swear when you can make peace with Yan Wen.
73. Replace "whatever" with "whatever you say"
74. Change every sentence "I can't" to "I can learn"
75. The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, followed by now.
76. When you owe something to others, make compensation, such as taking a small one and inviting you to dinner.
77. An excellent person will have a good impression on others before they meet him.
78. No one can refuse to be sincere and treat others sincerely.
79. It is customary to end with a question rather than an affirmative sentence, which makes people feel that you are expressing your opinion rather than making a decision.
80. Replace "but" with "and"
8 1. If you don't give yourself an excuse, you are wrong.
82. Maintain respect for people you don't like.
83. Be thick-skinned and take the initiative to make friends with excellent people.
84. Respect everyone, regardless of rank.
85. If you can't see through it, you are still good friends.
86. Learn to refuse, no one will appreciate your kindness, they will only push their luck.
87. Don't pursue perfection excessively, but learn to accept your own imperfections.
88. Don't tell lies easily without absolute certainty and necessity.
89. Willing to invest in yourself to make yourself look more "valuable"
90. Taking others' criticism as a gift may change your "shortcomings".
9 1. When talking to the people below you, look them in the eye.
92. Don't make decisions for others at will, or they will think you are responsible for everything.
93. Don't persuade others to be generous when they haven't experienced their pain.
94. Don't bombard others with a string of voices. Others may not want to hear what you want to say.
95. There is no need to forcibly integrate different circles.
96. Don't pander to others.
97. Be nice to outsiders, or you will be nice to your family.
98. Don't believe people's exaggerated goodwill and sudden greetings. There's usually nothing good.
99. Don't interrupt others' speech in the middle, and don't make people feel that the right to speak is yours.
100. Don't impose your "three views" on others, but allow differences in ideas.
How to improve your emotional intelligence and speaking ability;
1, when chatting, interrupt each other unnoticed. When the other person keeps talking, you have to drop a little thing, bend down and pick it up, and then start talking. In this way, you can interrupt the other party without being discovered by the other party.
2. When chatting, end the conversation in a reasonable way. When someone keeps bothering you at your desk, you should continue to talk to him and get up and walk back to his desk with him. Then decisively end the conversation.
When the other person is angry with you, you should keep calm and respond to the other person with your indifferent attitude, and the other person will be more angry.
4. Before preparing for the interview, you should arrive at the interview place in advance and talk to strangers for 20 minutes outside the interview. Familiarize your brain with the current environment and you will be more confident.
5. When you think of your past humiliation, will you think of the past humiliation that happened to others? I don't remember. Similarly, no one will remember your humiliating moment. Let yourself learn to forget.
6. Learn to look at the advantages of others, praise others in front of others, talk about their advantages, and be "sincere and kind", and people will associate these qualities with you. Don't speak ill of others behind their backs, others will associate these negative comments with you.