Because I am very busy and tired, I often stay in front of the computer to make plans or write down articles. More than once, a friend stared at me like an alien and said in surprise, God, I didn't see you go out with your friends. Are you still stuck in one every day? Cage? Won't you get sick in the hospital? Watch out for you? Autistic? No friends. ?

In this regard, I really laugh and cry, but also very puzzling. Who says you can't have friends if you like being alone?

I once read an article on the internet, and there was a very correct sentence in it, saying? Between friends, the simpler the better. If you have something to do, you have nothing to do. ?

I think this is the next good attitude to make friends. In an increasingly busy and even anxious life, time is divided into countless places, and even reading is popular? Fragmentation? By the way, time is really a rare treasure.

When you are tired, you may prefer to read a book or take a long sleep to rest your body and mind, instead of calling friends, running around, or even drinking and partying all night.

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I have a good friend, L, who has been together since junior high school, but we haven't seen each other for many years. When I was still at school, we had classes together every day, ate together, drove out together on weekends, went shopping to buy clothes and gave each other advice. Are we like what the Jianghu says? Good gay friends? Same, excellent.

Later, because of learning differences, we had to go our separate ways, resulting in no contact for some time.

But when we find each other from the busy life, there is no blame, no strangeness, and we are still as caring and considerate as before, and have a conversation without barriers.

One day, I called to ask where I was. I said I was in Guangzhou, and he said with some joy: I have come to Guangzhou, too, and I am going to settle in Guangzhou. Some time ago, I rented a pavement, which is currently being renovated. It will open in a few days. I'll come and sit down then. I said without hesitation: no problem! ? My heart is full of joy and excitement.

After chatting for hours, he was ready to hang up. He added:? Write me a calligraphy work when you are free. Write separately, be quiet and forbear, and hang up generously. I was a little ashamed to say, ok, but I haven't practiced calligraphy for a long time. Why don't I practice when I am free? We chatted for a while before we hung up. No matter what happens afterwards, this friendship without ceremony and mutual trust fills the heart with stability and truth.

In the year when I just graduated from work, a college roommate who had not been in contact for a long time lost some money because of his brother's stock trading, and his life was in chaos. He crustily skin of head and used his contacts to borrow money to turn around. Of course, he also called me and asked me how much I could have, saying that I would give it to you when my salary came down. Because I was a good friend in college, I said I would try my best, and then I transferred all the 5000 yuan I could take out at that time.

Of course, he was as excited as finding a lifeline, and probably only a few friends helped him. Then he sent a message in the circle of friends with emotion: Thank you, you helped me without saying anything when I was so embarrassed. Come out for dinner when you are free, it's my treat! ?

I left a sentence at the back:? Then you have to work hard to save money. Next time we meet, I want the most expensive Buddha jumping wall! ?

A month later, he gratefully repaid all the loans and treated him to a big meal. Who says you can't have friends if you like being alone? A true friend is someone who has you in his heart even if he seldom meets you, especially when he has achieved something, he can think of you and share his achievements with you, or try his best to help you when you are in trouble.

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Mr. Zhu Guangqian wrote a passage in Talking about Making Friends, which I personally like. In my opinion, this passage can also be used as a summary of the word friend. He said:? Everyone knows that having real good friends is a great pleasure in life. People are social animals, born with compassion and compassion. Read a good poem and see a good scenery. No one around can tell him. This is really good! ? I feel that there is a fly in the ointment. When you meet a big happy event, no one will accompany you to be happy, and your joy will be reduced by seven or eight points; When you encounter a catastrophe and no one shares your grief, your grief will increase by seven or eight points; A lonely person can't sing, tell jokes, play ball, dance or quarrel. In a word, he can't do anything happy. ?

Fortunately, even, I thank the old man for writing such a passage, and let me take it as my declaration of making friends.

Meditate on your circle of friends, and it has really become less and less complicated since the past. I used to think that many friends are interpersonal assets, but the key is still influenced by those old sayings. What? Many friends make the road easy? 、? Depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out? Wait, now think about it, in this era, your down-to-earth efforts are the real real estate.

Fortunately, among the few friends who stayed, they became more and more important. Because they have me in their hearts, I also have him in my heart, and there is a mysterious tacit relationship between them.

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Some people may ask, do you mean that real good friends should maintain this relationship? That's not true.

Of course, I don't advocate behind closed doors and self-blockade. We all rely on this relationship to maintain the distance between friends. So what I want to emphasize here is that some friendships should be maintained in necessary contact, because everyone has different understanding and views on friendship. And more exchanges will greatly promote the enrichment of the mind and the exchange of ideas.

I remember that in recent years, I have also attended some friends' parties one after another, some because I happened to pass by on a business trip, some because I came back from abroad to meet people, some because I succeeded in exams, and some because I had occasional meetings or birthday parties.

I try my best to attend these parties. In my opinion, communication is a kind of fun, and fun is certainly not for seeking? Write a prescription? And moved the selfishness. I'm just glad to find the feeling of mutual recognition, mutual love, mutual help, mutual tolerance and mutual understanding between close friendships without barriers. Listen to their respective life trajectories, their busy things, what they have seen and heard from me for a long time, and even some complaints and dissatisfaction.

The greatest happiness of communication is that you can gain new gains in face-to-face communication with each other.

For example, male friends will give you some career advice, love experience, talk about their favorite sports stars, and talk about the vision and development of life, which is likely to lead you to find business and cooperation doorways that you can't get at ordinary times, and these touches may not be obtained after reading for ten years.

Female friends will pay more attention to life and emotions, provide you with their own food experience or travel strategy, and perhaps find you a companion, or tell you which old classmate in the class got married and what kind of happiness you found. You can always find some excitement in it. You must work hard to get rid of this year's order.

You see, I am not necessarily bored because I am alone, or even bored because I have no friends.

However, in many parties and fun, it needs to be reminded that the outside world is so big and there are so many friends. Even if you spend your whole life, you may not get the tip of the iceberg. Even if you dig your brains, you may not get real good friends. It is not necessarily a bad thing to retreat for progress and let the restless heart get new nutrients in solitude.

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Zhou Zeng said: there is great happiness in loneliness and great happiness in communication, both of which belong to the soul. It is lonely happiness for the soul to discover, appreciate and enjoy the wealth it has. If this wealth is also discovered by another soul, there will be the joy of communication. Therefore, the premise is the wealth of the soul. ?

It can be seen that communication and loneliness are two equally important things, which are interrelated and not contradictory. However, to enrich one's soul, one must practice alone, and then one can gain great happiness in communication.

As for the so-called loneliness without friends, it is simply untenable. Because solitude is a state of introspection and recuperation, and being with friends is an interactive communication, both of which are beautiful enough.