As the saying goes: "A fence has three stakes, a hero has three gangs. Friends are hard to find thousands of miles away. The more friends there are, the easier it is to travel." These words reveal to us a profound truth in interpersonal communication. reason.
If a person wants to make great achievements, he will not achieve much by working alone. He often needs the help of good teachers and friends. It's a pity that I didn't understand until I was forty years old that there are many fair-weather friends for eating and drinking, but there are only a few friends who can show sincerity in times of adversity. I haven't met my right person and missed a good opportunity, so I can't achieve anything now.
Many people can achieve success. In addition to ability and hard work, they often rely on the help of noble people and the support of friends. Jack Ma also once said that without the joint efforts of the "Eighteen Arhats" when he started his business, his success would not have been possible.
The world is full of fish and dragons. Not everyone is lucky enough to be able to find like-minded partners like Jack Ma. You can find a close friend slowly, but you must stay away from villains as soon as possible to avoid disaster. When a person reaches forty, it is best not to have close friendships with these three types of friends, and it is best to keep them at a distance.
1. Friends who are not enterprising
Many people have intelligence and ability, but lack vision and structure. They are always content with the status quo and like to make do with everything. Unwilling to pursue excellence, in the end he gradually buried himself in the ordinary life.
Try not to make friends who are not enterprising. This is not because you look down on them, but because they lack the enterprising spirit necessary for success. If you don’t have ideals and goals, you just go with the flow and end up doing nothing.
As the saying goes: "Those who are close to vermillion are red, and those who are close to ink are black." If you often deal with such friends, you will also be affected by their laziness. Over time, you will settle for enjoyment and neglect struggle. It is detrimental to one's own development.
When a person reaches forty, if he has not achieved any significant achievements in the first half of his life, he must work hard and seize the last golden ten years of his life. This is your last chance to become a late bloomer. Don't miss the opportunity because you are lazy and slack. Therefore, try not to have close friendships with friends who are not enterprising. It is best to keep them at a distance.
2. Friends who eat and drink
There is an Internet buzzword that goes like this: "Making a sincere friend is a kind of wealth; making a fair-weather friend is a waste."
In fact, fair-weather friends do not have any deep feelings or special friendships. They just often eat, drink and have fun together. We mistakenly think that the joy of play is brought by fair-weather friends.
At forty, I am not confused. I have experienced the ups and downs of the world and I know that when you are in crisis, if you go to a friend with fair-weather, you will most likely encounter ruthless rejection. This is the saying: "Food and wine are friends, and danger never comes." One person” reality.
Associating with people who always eat and drink together will not have a bright future. When everyone has fun together, they only see the indulgent and lazy side, and cannot learn anything useful. Never make close friends with fair-weather friends. It is best to keep them at a distance, otherwise it will only hinder your own progress. < /p>
If you are poor now, not only will it be difficult to make friends, but even your relatives will dislike you, fearing that you will borrow money, afraid of being dragged down by you, and afraid of getting into trouble. If you have money and wealth, others will find it profitable to associate with you, so many people will surround you and there will be no shortage of friends.
When you are prosperous, don’t think that people are your friends just because they flatter you, say nice things, and pursue you everywhere. ".
There is an old saying: "There are always icings on the cake, but it is hard to find help in the snow." These people are very realistic. Once you are down, they will immediately fall down and scatter you, and they will even make trouble for you. Try not to make close friends with friends who value profit over righteousness and should stay away from them.
When you reach forty, you know countless people and have acquaintances all over the world. How many close friends can you have? To know someone is fate, to understand someone you need to be patient, to make friends sincerely, to be cautious in dealing with others, to have interpersonal relationships with tolerance, to win people's hearts with wisdom!