The age of 30 is a watershed, which is not so obvious for boys, especially for girls, especially in rural areas. In the eyes of ordinary people, you must have a family, a decent job, and children to make a living, so that you can make some achievements in the first half of your life.
At the crossroads of the first half and the second half of my life, I looked around as if I had nothing but my parents. An ordinary woman like me is not handsome, and she can neither spell her looks nor her career. My only destination is family, and I choose marriage. In the future, children will realize the meaning of their lives by managing marriage and children.
No correct posture, no clear cognition.
So I registered a free member on the dating website and tried to find someone on it. At first, I received a lot of information in my mailbox. I am also secretly happy that there are quite a lot of people of my type in the market. After screening by education, house, car and appearance, it is less than 10. Then, after greeting, I will ignore those who don't reply in time. That leaves only 2-3 people. The rest will either stay in the address book forever in a few words, or become friends who talk about everything.
Free membership will come to an end. The most important thing is that there is no correct attitude, and there is no clear understanding of the registered members of the marriage and love network. External emphasis is greater than internal training. With the growth of age and the accumulation of experience, men and women have their own systems of thinking about each other, and thinking more is not conducive to the entry of both sides.
Think that spending money can have good resources.
Inadvertently, a year passed. I'm really fed up with the urging of my parents and friends, so I'm firm.
I am determined to register as an online VIP member in zhenai, and have the opportunity to be recommended to the homepage to increase the exposure. During this time, I met two people. We can communicate online, but I was disappointed after meeting. I didn't say what I looked like, but I was scared by my personal behavior. It is better to know each other for five years than to meet each other. My speech is so exaggerated that I can't move my hands. I just ordered food and left before serving it.
The other is that the online chat is quite congenial, and the offline chat is also very gentle, but he offered to try marriage with me. Although I am 30 years old, I am still simple and timid. As soon as the topic dropped, I slipped away by going to the bathroom.
So I gave up the idea of finding someone online. These two things have alerted me that online dating is unreliable and illusory. You can't understand a person in three dimensions, let alone the other person's personality. It is true to spend money and energy to expand the circle, but we must ensure the real security of channels and resources.
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Boldly try the service of offline stores.
? Once you register as an online member of the dating site, basically a matchmaker will call you to find out the situation and recommend the members to their offline stores.
I remember that after Miss Matchmaker made the fifth call, I agreed to meet. It was probably a summer afternoon. Before I went, the matchmaker sent a message enthusiastically, telling me to pay attention to safety when I came. I felt quite gratified at that time.
When I walked to the door of the offline store, the matchmaker was already waiting for me in the lobby. When she saw me coming towards me with a smile, a dear left and a dear right held my hand. After exchanging greetings, Miss Matchmaker looked around and made more friends. Later, I learned that the house was actually empty that day, and few people were there.
I belong to the slow-heating type, and the matchmaker teacher was very enthusiastic, so she chatted with me. Ask me first, did you have a pleasant trip here today? It's so hot that we can still arrive on time. I can see that you are looking for someone, too. We are also a professional dating platform. I hope you can find your own happiness on this platform.
Then encourage me to talk more about my past love experience. Because of his warm and friendly verbal expression, I relaxed my vigilance against her. I told her my experience truthfully. With a sympathetic and gentle smile, she firmly said: There are endless resources on our platform, you can choose from them and find the other half of your life quickly.
I am also eager to find someone, so I am dubious. Listen to her say that the man has a job, a house and a car, how decent he is, how tall he is, and how good his external image is.
I heard that there are so many high-quality resources, I am a little moved, relaxed my vigilance and willing to cooperate with them.
Then she opened the folder, smiled and said, my heart is not as good as my heart. Come to us and hand me a pen when you find it. Because I am a farmer's child, and secondly, it is not so easy to make money. Seeing how expensive it is to find someone, I hesitated again.
She keeps saying how good this platform is, and then you are so good and much safer. We will verify the man's real estate license, car license, etc. You can sign it with confidence. I may find my other half soon. I always insisted that I had no money, and then the matchmaker teacher gave me a way to put it on Alipay. I said I wouldn't consider staging, because I never borrowed money from any platform, and then I left on the grounds of something.
I still had illusions about this platform. Later, a matchmaker teacher met me and I readily agreed. This is the fifth time I've been to Zhen 'ai offline store. I know this routine like the back of my hand. When you get to the store, you will be familiar with it. My conversation with the matchmaker still revolves around my sad past.
Seeing my sadness, he gave me a warm hug like a man, and then asked me affectionately, do you really want to find someone? I said yes, then I'll help you. We have cooperation with large enterprises such as Huawei. I can't believe you can't find so many high-quality products. I still use the reason of having no money. If you don't pay, you are an ordinary man. Since you want to find a quality product, why not invest in a marriage? There is always a scene in my heart: once my mother gave me divination, you child, no matter what you do, the money must go first. ) This method gave me a reason to sign the contract. And it was my birthday, and my previous experience told me to try more.
After more than three hours of hard work, I finally signed the contract, which is still the list of 10. 1 10,000. Influenced by conventional thinking, cheap goods are not good, and high prices must be high quality. I signed the contract with great entanglements. In my heart, I am hesitant to act. I seem to have caught a lifeline. I can find a good date. More importantly, I can hold my head high in front of the villagers, and even I am competing with my ex-boyfriend.
I cried after signing the contract of 10. 1 10,000.
After completing the formalities, I took the elevator in confusion and prepared to go downstairs. I met a 90-year-old girl with a cheerful personality in the stairwell and told me that she had paid 6800 yuan and regretted it as soon as she finished it. She was beaten by the matchmaker. I'm afraid of being laughed at, and I'm afraid to tell people that I paid a contract of 101 thousand, just that I paid it, too.
After leaving her, I waited for a while at the station to get on the bus, and I regretted it. At that stage, my heart was fragile and I cried.
In a short time, the former matchmaker teacher gave my information to the later matchmaker teacher. At this time, the matchmaker teacher at the back will call me to explain the situation and then arrange to meet her. Just called me and I cried. She called me in a hurry and asked me about my situation with great concern. When I went upstairs, I made up my mind to refund my money.
After communicating with the matchmaker, the matchmaker said that in principle, it will not be refunded, and there may be liquidated damages if it is refunded. I looked for loopholes in them and held on to them. It's already nine o'clock. They should be off work. Then the matchmaker told me that she would report the situation to the superior leaders and let them make a decision.
I went home, and then there was endless wrangling. Finally, the service of 10 1000 gave me 6800 yuan, and I reluctantly agreed.
Enjoy the services of offline physical stores.
Later, the service matchmaker teacher arranged six formal meetings for me, which was also arranged according to the situation I described. As a result, five people saw it once and disappeared, and one person saw it twice and didn't contact. The service of 6800 yuan was fruitless after five months.
One thing about dating network is to use the psychology of older single young people who are eager to find a partner to sell the single information of both men and women as resources.
However, emotion is really not measured by money. You can't find high-quality and suitable candidates by spending money. To find a good man, you must have a spiritual level worthy of a good man, so that you can get the same frequency vibration.
As an experienced person, I want to say: find your own position and have a clear understanding of marriage. All questions need to be asked from the heart, and we should improve ourselves. If it is in full bloom, come by yourself.