Epicurus found three cups and placed them on the table. The first cup is clean and complete, but it is placed with the rim facing down; the second cup is clean, with the rim facing upwards, but there is a hole in the bottom of the cup; the third cup is complete, with the rim also facing upwards. But there was a lot of dust in the cup. After setting it up, Epicurus said to the three young people: "Stubborn character is like the first cup. It is good everywhere, but it is a pity that the rim of the cup is facing down and others cannot pour water into it, so I can only give up on you; I cannot. A person who keeps secrets is like a cup with a hole. Water will leak when you pour it in, so people who want to drink water can only give up; and a suspicious character is like a third cup. No matter how clean the water is, as long as it is poured in, it will leak. It will turn into dirty water, so no one is willing to drink from such a cup.

In short, it is not that others are unwilling to make friends with you, but that your personality makes others unwilling to choose you as friends. !" Yes, when you refuse to accept other people's suggestions, you are self-righteous, but actually get nothing; when you listen and leak, you cannot accumulate any capital worthy of others' trust; when you question anything, You will be blocked by doubts and unable to see the essence of things, which is equivalent to having nothing.

? I read this article today and was very inspired. In addition to making friends, learning is also like these three cups. When your cup is rim down, no knowledge will enter your brain; when your cup is rim up, but there is a hole underneath, what you learn goes in one ear and out the other; when you have doubts When it comes to attitudes, they are repulsive to some new concepts and new knowledge. Therefore, in learning, we must be as clean and complete as the first cup, with the mouth facing upwards as the second cup, learn with an open mind, learn from the strengths of others, and make up for our own shortcomings.