In the early days, my parents drank every day but I didn’t want to drink, so I didn’t develop the habit of drinking. Later, I went to Jiangsu for an internship with the school, and I immediately encountered the embarrassment of being the only one at the dinner who didn't drink. The most embarrassing thing is that some meddlers directly say, "People who don't smoke or drink can't make friends." I don't know where this theory came from. It's like saying, "I smoke and drink, so I am nobler than others." But we did not become friends later. Of course, there were other girls on the court at that time, so it was not the only one who didn't drink. The leader didn't make it difficult for me and just ordered milk.

Later there were more parties, and because I liked it, I drank a lot. But it has never been said that "people who don't smoke or drink can't make friends." If I make friends based on drinking, I may lose half of my friends. At a certain colleague's party, one of the five people in the group refused to drink because of stomach problems. This didn't matter, and everyone continued to eat and chat. However, at that dinner, he was the one who spoke the least and was also the one who was teased the most. But he always faced it with a smile, and he didn't know whether it was because he was really smiling or because he was feeling lonely and sad inside.

It’s great to go to a neighbor’s house for a drink during the Chinese New Year and have it on the table! It's an old man's family. Thinking about my father's drinking fight back then, I feel really panicked. These old drunkards are going to fight me to death! As a younger generation, I can’t be a coward! So he took the initiative to take the wine, opened the bottle, and poured it for everyone. When I came over one by one, something embarrassing happened: I was the only one drinking! After they drank the first cup, they turned over the cup to indicate that they would drink no more! It doesn’t matter if I drink from the flask, or if I don’t drink. Fortunately, the old people are also very considerate and give me steps. “If you like to drink, drink slowly by yourself, don’t worry about us. We also liked to drink when we were young, but now our bodies can’t.” Don’t be offended if you drink it!” I won’t drink it at all! The old people talked nonsense while drinking.

Later, I drank with relatives from the same hometown. There were about 10 people at the table, all young people, so drinking was inevitable. But this time it was not me who refused to drink, but my brother - a burly brother. I was surprised, but someone asked first, "Brother, why don't you drink?" Another brother replied, "He used to drink too, and he drank a lot. Then he drank too much and went to the hospital. His father stopped drinking. I'm going to get scolded when I go home!" Brother Fatty argued, "I'm not afraid of being scolded. It's boring to drink with you little scumbags. If you try to brag about me, I'll drink!" He didn't respond for a while. It was a home-brewed wine, and no one could tell the exact alcohol content. In addition, the bottle was quite large, so no one dared to challenge it rashly. -

From the experience of not drinking to others not drinking to selective drinking, maybe this is growth!