Dogs are not good at barking and people are not good at talking.

Zhou said that life grows three times:

First, when you find yourself no longer the center of the world;

The second is when you find that no matter how hard you try, you can't;

The third is to accept the ordinary and enjoy the ordinary time.

The so-called growth is the process of constantly refreshing cognition and bidding farewell to the immature self in the past.

On the road to growth, only by mastering the following three keys can you get lost and become more and more convinced.

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The first key: read more books

Seen such a set of data:

A nation accounts for about 0.3% of the global population, but the proportion of winning the Nobel Prize is as high as 20%.

Not only that, they also won 38% National Science Award, 27% Turing Award and 42% Neumann Award.

Seeing this, maybe you already have the answer in your heart.

Yes, they are Jews.

After suffering from inhuman persecution and long-term exile, Jews still strive for self-improvement and make proud achievements in many fields.

The fundamental reason is that they insist on reading.

As the classic Jewish proverb says:

"When you are down and out and have to sell your leftovers to make a living, the first thing you should sell is gold, precious stones, land and houses.

Besides, some books in your home should not be sold unless absolutely necessary. "

Many people think that people's greatest self-confidence comes from wealth and status.

In fact, after a person reads widely, the tenacity and wisdom in his blood are his hardest cards.

When I watched The Shawshank Redemption, I was most impressed by Andy, the protagonist who was unjustly imprisoned.

Because of his strong financial management ability, he was protected by prison guards.

Because he can recite the Bible skillfully, he has the upper hand in the negotiation with the warden.

Because he knew all about the household registration policy, he quietly re-created an identity for himself.

Later, Andy finally realized the "impossible" escape plan, because he knew the knowledge of geology and meteorology. ......

As Ji Xianlin said, "Reading can make you run forever, forever."

A person's growth begins with grasping the key of reading.

In reading, you can exercise your way of thinking and gain a strong bottom-level ability:

You will jump out of the limitations of cognition and look at the problem from another height;

You will let yourself surpass yourself yesterday, instead of standing still;

Your life will be full of resilience, even if you fall into a trough, you can have the confidence to fight back. ......

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The second key: don't talk nonsense.

I like such a short story very much.

There is a little novice monk, talented, but arrogant and outspoken, causing a lot of trouble.

The Zen master saw it in his eyes and didn't blame him.

One day, the Zen master gave the little novice monk a pot of cordate telosma for him to observe.

The next day, the little novice monk excitedly said to the Zen master, "This potted flower is great. It blooms in the middle of the night but closes its petals in the morning. "

The Zen master asked, "Does it bother you that he blooms at night?"

Little novice monk shook his head again and again: "From blooming to closing, there has never been a sound."

The Zen master smiled and said, "Really? I thought it would make a big noise when it bloomed. "

Little novice monk bowed his head in shame after listening to the words of the Zen master, and never talked nonsense again.

Flowers bloom silently, and flowers come.

People who really have a sense of hierarchy are mostly shiny and low-key

The thinker Bacon said: "Implication and appropriateness are more valuable than eloquence."

Zeng Guofan was outspoken when he was young, boasting that he spoke straight, which offended many people.

It was not until he almost lost his life that Zeng Guofan suddenly realized and set rules for himself:

Before going to bed every day, think about whether there is anything wrong with what you said all day.

Later, he became a man of few words, and he only asked for one word "stability".

Because of his low profile, Zeng Guofan took over countless talents and became a famous minister.

Zhuangzi said: "It is not good for dogs to bark, and it is not good for people to say good things."

Low-level people are always rude and have no scruples.

The higher the level, the more people know, but they don't talk.

After all, opening your mouth is instinct, and being able to shut up is skill.

Only by keeping your mouth shut can you keep your temper and your heart.

Being cautious is a person's highest accomplishment.

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The third key: make friends carefully.

How important is one's circle?

There is an interesting answer on the Internet:

"In short, you and Goose Qi Fei, at first glance, are the vast sky; Sitting with pigs, all I see is gluttony and lethargy. "

In our life, people always come and go.

With what kind of people, you will have what kind of life.

See the story of a net friend.

Shizuko and three girls sleeping together are preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination.

At first, everyone agreed to study hard and supervise each other.

But after only two weeks, roommates began to be lazy, and they also called it: happy study.

In a relaxed atmosphere, Shizuko also sleeps until noon every day and plays drama at night.

It is not a problem to read a book for a while every day and comfort yourself with exams.

After the results of the postgraduate entrance examination came out, as expected, the whole dormitory fell out of the list together.

Looking at the horrible score, Shizuko suddenly realized that she decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination for World War II.

After that, Shizuko contacted several schoolmasters in the school and studied with them.

The friends of the new research institute are very diligent, and each step of review has a specific plan.

Everyone is in the study room together, and the most conversation with each other is to discuss topics.

In the atmosphere of self-discipline, Jingzi is no longer addicted to the theatre, and goes out early and comes back late every day, devoting himself to his studies.

After this year's postgraduate entrance examination, Jingzi was admitted to her favorite prestigious school.

The ancients said, "Choose friends, life comes first. The success or failure of a lifetime is related to the merits and demerits of friends, and we must not be careless. "

The rest of my life is very short, and who I am with is really important.

Make friends with hardworking people, you will be ashamed of being lazy, and you will work hard with them.

With excellent people, you will not be satisfied with mediocrity, and you will constantly jump out of your comfort zone to practice yourself.

Life is a sea, and who you meet is determined by fate.

But it's up to us to decide who to be with.

Choose a circle that can make you grow and meet better people, so that you can meet better yourself.

Luo Zhenyu once said: "Growth is the gap between your subjective world and your objective world. If you fall in, it's called frustration, and if you climb out, it's called growth. "

When you are at a low point, you might as well calm down and heal yourself in the book.

When standing on a high place, remember to be cautious in words and deeds and humble in life.

When you relax, remember to jump out of the circle that consumes you and chase the light.