I read a TV report that an old mother had kidney disease, and her life would be threatened if she didn't get a kidney transplant. At this time, her eldest son stood up and asked to donate her kidney, which really hurt her. The old mother strongly opposed it, saying that if so, she might as well die. There was no way but to wait for a kidney source with matching conditions, but it was really very good to wait for such a kidney source. My son was afraid of delaying his mother's illness, so after consulting with his family, he cheated his mother. He donated one of his young kidneys to his mother. After the operation was successful, his family kept it from the old mother. The most touching thing was that her mother and her son lived in the next ward, and her mother didn't know it. When her mother wanted to see her eldest son, her family just lied to her that her son had gone on a business trip. After reading this report, I was moved to tears. Friends, isn't such a lie a hindrance to honesty?
A little girl with leukemia, in the later stage of her life, when the doctor asked her what her greatest wish was, she said that she wanted to go to Tiananmen Square to see the flag-raising ceremony. What reason can doctors and parents not satisfy the last wish of a dying girl? However, because her family lives in distant Xinjiang, if she meets her requirements, the doctor is afraid that the girl can't stand the fatigue of the journey, so a collective activity of fabricating lies organized by more than 2, volunteers, doctors and the girl's family began. From boarding the train to taking a tour bus, along the way, from the newspaper station to the waiter serving tea, and even to the conversation of the passengers, everyone deliberately arranged it. Finally, they came to a school, accompanied by the national anthem of a military band. The blind girl thought that she had really come to the long-awaited Tiananmen Square. When she saw that she was unable to raise her little hand to salute the direction of the national flag, all the people present shed tears. This time, the collective lying action organized by more than 2, people, can you say that their white lies hinder integrity?
Also, many elderly people are not feeling well and refuse to let their children know at the first time, for fear of affecting their normal work and study! Many children say they don't hurt when they fall, in order to let their parents say they are brave! There are many women who are quietly dedicated behind successful personnel who are tired and never complain, so that their husbands can do their work better with peace of mind and care less for their families ... There are countless such examples in our country with a long history of civilization. Facts speak louder than words here. To sum up, they are all lying, but their lies are all well-intentioned and do not hinder honesty ... < P If a person often has lies in his mouth to deceive others, over time, he will lose people's trust. Just like the child in The Lying Child, he cries "Wolf is coming" every day to seek excitement and happiness. When the wolf really comes, he has to face it alone and bear it by himself. No matter how much he shouts, it won't help, and no one will come to help him again. Because the people who may come to help him are used to his shouting and think that he is "teasing you" again. It can be seen that lies hinder honesty.
But today, when we talk about "lies", there is an attribute-well-meaning. With this qualifier, the nature of lies has changed fundamentally. "White lies" are people's good wishes for things, the dialogue of people's kind hearts, the warmth of people comforting each other, and the tenderness revealed from people's hearts ... No one will investigate its credibility. Even if people who hear white lies know that they are lies, they will try to believe them, and they will not feel the hypocrisy of liars, and sometimes they will be grateful from the heart.
When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by a doctor, his parents, lover, children and all relatives will not directly tell him, "Life is beyond saving" or "How long can I live in this world at most". Although all these are true, who will tell the truth to the relatives who are already in pain as cruelly as the judge sentenced the prisoner to death? At this time, everyone will form a United front, keep silent about the truth, and use white lies to make patients full of hope for treatment, so that patients can spend the rest of their lives in a peaceful mind. Does this hinder honesty?
when a child who is not in harmony with the world suddenly encounters misfortune and loses his loved ones, how can he explain to him where his loved ones have gone? We think the best way is: don't tell him the real situation for the time being, just talk about going on a business trip to a distant place, or studying and working abroad. When the child is sensible and has a certain tolerance, he will tell the truth, and the child will understand the practice of his loved ones and will not be angry because he did not know the truth early. Don't such words also hinder the integrity!
When the mother of a soldier who is on a mission in other places is terminally ill and dying, I wish I could see my son for the last time. However, my son can't come back, and he can't do a little filial piety for his old mother and take care of his mother who once broke his heart for his son. He is very sorry and very nostalgic. The old mother understands her son very well and tells her relatives around her that she should not tell her distant son after she left, and should not distract him. She should say that her condition is stable and let him feel at ease and do his best for the country. Don't such white lies hinder honesty!
Therefore, I insist that white lies not only do not hinder honesty, but also greatly enhance the friendship and feelings between people, and have an indelible effect on social stability. I suggest you: white lies should be used when they are used, and there is not much serious conflict with honesty or not.
White lies do not hinder the four arguments of honesty
Next, I will make a concluding statement on our position.
first, white lies are motivated by kindness, with the purpose and starting point of safeguarding the interests of others. As we all know, contradictions can be divided into universality and particularity, and particularity is included in particularity and different from universality. The nature of a white lie determines that it is not a bad benefit, but based on the sincerity and goodness in the heart, while a malicious lie is an act of seeking benefits for the liar, treating others only as a means and not hesitating to hurt others with a strong desire for profit and weak rationality. The lies that people who are kind in themselves are "forced" to tell in a certain state are well-intentioned, which is a kind of friendliness and concern to the subject. However, unscrupulous people, no matter how to disguise, how to rhetoric, how to rack their brains to crown their malicious lies with malicious purpose. Obviously, a white lie does not hinder honesty.
second: white lies are a way of life and a reflection of the quality of being considerate.
The relatives and friends of a terminally ill patient always tell his illness lightly with white lies, encouraging him to cooperate with doctors. I believe everyone here will not accuse them of dishonesty, will they? ! On the contrary, it is malicious and true. A prisoner was lured by the enemy to tell his own troop deployment. Does anyone think he is honest? Sincerity to the enemy is betrayal to the country!
The director of forensic expertise department of Guangzhou Brain Hospital said: "Lying is an instinct of human beings. As for honesty, the key lies with which kind."
a lie that refuses to love without directly hurting the suitor; An expressive lie that is not willing to disappoint the inviter under the hospitality of a man is indispensable in interpersonal communication. It makes us more comfortable in dealing with the world, not like a hard stone with many edges, which cuts others' heads and bruises ourselves.
It can be seen that people need a layer of protective color and lubrication. Since being expelled from the Garden of Eden, people have not been naked but surrounded by bark and grass leaves, haven't they?
Third: Although a white lie is a kind of lie, it will definitely hinder honesty if you can't tell a lie. We should analyze the specific problems.
Honesty is respected by everyone because it is kind and does not cheat. On the surface, a white lie seems to hinder the principle of honesty, but in essence, it exists because telling the truth hinders the principle of kindness.
White lies and honesty are actually the relationship of unity of opposites, and the so-called violation just provides a beneficial supplement to honesty, not an obstacle. For example, it is stipulated that pedestrians in the same direction can only occupy half of the road, which does not hinder everyone's passage!
fourth: a world without lies is like a dust-free earth. We agree that a white lie does not hinder honesty, which does not mean that we advocate it. The key lies in the degree.
what is lying? If it is indiscriminate, it is defined as: not seeking truth from facts, telling lies, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the truth. Then our life is full of lies, big and small, from inflammatory advertisements to sweet words between lovers, all of which are full of exaggerated words, and even Lian Wenxue's works have become lies. Everyone has a standard of lying in his heart. How to grasp this degree is our first consideration. Compared with lies with bad motives, white lies will make people's feelings more harmonious, harmonious and life more interesting. It can skillfully avoid conflicts and realize emotional communication and smooth communication. How can it hinder honesty?
Therefore, we should learn to distinguish malicious lies and protect ourselves from harm. At the same time, improve your self-cultivation and think about the best way to solve the problem. "The way of university lies in Mingde, being close to the people, and ending in perfection". As for those that are warm and make life full of interest; As for those lies full of kindness and compassion, let them bloom!
There is a saying that white lies are beautiful. When we tell some little lies for the happiness and hope of others, lies become understanding, respect and tolerance, which has magical power.
Let's take an example. There is a student who is not very good at long-distance running, but in a test, the teacher told him that his long-distance running speed is faster than other students, and he also said that he had the opportunity to participate in the competition on behalf of the school and told him to work hard. The student was very excited after listening to the teacher's words, because he always thought that he had no talent for long-distance running, and he could actually participate in the competition on behalf of the school. From that day on, he really liked long-distance running, and kept running every day. After a while, he was really chosen because he could not represent the school at all.
There was once a teacher who told a lie that he could predict the future for his students: you may become a mathematician in the future, and he can be a writer, which one has artistic talent ... In the guidance, edification, encouragement and shaping of the teacher, the children became diligent, sensible and eager to learn. A few years later, a large number of students entered the university with excellent results, and the village became famous. People think that this old teacher can pinch and calculate, and can perceive the future. In fact, the teacher's good intention is to plant a beautiful lie in the child's mind, just like sowing a seed in the soil, which will eventually flourish and bear fruit.
My eyes are always wet when I read the American short story The Last Leaf. When the sick old man looked at the withered leaves and was desolate and desperate, the loving painter decorated the withered tree of life with a carefully sketched green leaf, thus maintaining a dying light of life. Isn't this the acme of lies?
A lie out of good wishes is the nourishment of life and the source of faith. It makes people ignite the fire of hope from their hearts, convinced that there is love, trust and emotion in the world, and thus find more reasons to laugh at life. A white lie endows humanity with spirituality, embodies the delicacy of emotion and the maturity of thought, and urges people to be strong and persistent, to strive for it involuntarily, and finally to overcome fragility and survive.
a lie from parents makes the face of a child who is not deeply involved in the world shine like a flower; The teacher's lie makes the wandering students no longer confused and grow better; A doctor's lie turns a fearful patient from destruction to rebirth ...
Dear friends, wake up. In fact, a white lie doesn't hinder honesty at all. Don't think that a white lie will hinder honesty, because as long as you think about others, a white lie is precious. It will neither cause a crisis of trust, nor defile civilization, nor distort human nature.
White lies have magical power, which encourages you to make progress again and again, and never give up for the dream in your heart. Because the future road is completely illuminated by happy mood, life becomes better.
if speaking frankly is a mistake, I choose lies.
if it is a kind of harm to tell the truth frankly and recklessly, I choose a lie.
if it's for yourself or others to stop suffering and sadness, what's the harm in telling more lies?
Example 1:
There are more examples of life-saving lies. On August 2 last year, the Wenlian Coal Mine in Louxia Town, Pu 'an County was flooded and roof fell, and Xiao Hongyang Tongshun and others were working underground. In ten minutes, the flood flooded the drift and the ceiling, and the way out was blocked. After that, they were forced to a platform one meter high and three meters wide above the drift, and the water level was still rising. The situation was extremely critical. < P > The four of them divided into two groups to dig coal ash above the platform, and dug two steps more than one meter high in two days. In the case of running out of ammunition and food, they didn't eat for three or four days and were hungry. In order to encourage everyone to fight against the pressing death in desperation, Hong Xiao lied again and again that the water level was falling, and whoever could persist would get out alive.
On the fourth day, someone had collapsed and fainted in the tunnel with thin air, but at this moment, the water level really dropped, and the four of them felt an opportunity to escape, holding hands and climbing to the wellhead step by step; At this time, the nine pumps at the wellhead are draining water around the clock. People on the well thought that the four of them were hopeless, but unexpectedly they won the final victory in the struggle against death.
Example 2:
There is another example, saying that an American transport plane was forced to land in the desert in the last century, but the plane was seriously damaged and could not resume taking off. The communication equipment was also damaged and communication with the outside world was interrupted. Nine passengers and a driver were in despair; The instinct of survival made them fight for limited dry food and water.
At the critical moment, a passenger who took the plane temporarily stood up and said, "Don't panic, I'm an aircraft designer. As long as Qi Xin works together to listen to my command, we can fix the plane." This is like a shot in the arm, which stabilizes everyone's mood and they consciously save water and dry food. Everything is in good order, and everyone is United to fight against the sandstorm.
Ten days have passed, and the plane has not been repaired. However, a caravan of businessmen passing through the desert rescued them. A few days later, it was discovered that the temporary passenger was not an airplane designer at all. He was a primary school teacher who knew nothing about airplanes. When someone knew the truth, he called him a liar and angrily asked him: Everyone's lives are about to be lost. How dare you cheat us? The teacher said: If I hadn't lied, would everyone be alive now?