Is your request for remarriage a timely help or the icing on the cake?

The essential difference between these two words, providing help in times of need and icing on the cake, is that the former becomes better because of compassion, while the latter becomes better because of admiration.

Pity is always a humble word in the emotional world of men and women. Although it may temporarily hold up a sunny sky for you, there will definitely be a bigger storm coming. Because mercy is inherently unequal. It relies solely on the consciousness and character of one party. It goes against the basis of mutual affection. It cannot stand the test of time at all, and it will also make the beneficiary party... In the repeated delusion, the ability to pursue happiness is finally completely lost.

Admiration is different. Admiration is based on yourself being good enough, and the initiative is in your own hands. You don't need to place empty hopes on the other person. You can be yourself confidently in your own little world, and even lose your temper occasionally. Even if one day your relationship is gone, at least you can still have your beautiful self.

Especially remarriage means a new start in life. We must no longer be as ignorant and frivolous as we were when we were young. We already have enough experiences and demands to become better selves. Nowadays, we who are mature enough have no extravagant hope of "expecting pie to fall from the sky" as we did before, nor do we have the fatalistic self-consciousness of "breaking the jar and smashing it". I am willing to fall, and I will definitely do my best to be a better version of myself. If one day a man who recognizes my fragrance comes close to me, it will be regarded as a kind of luck in life.