The boat of friendship can capsize at any time.

Friendship requires the efforts of two people, but friendship requires only one person's decision.

A relationship is ruined, just like a broken glass. It cannot be restored and will prick your hands.

Why did my former friends break up when they said they would break up?

The end of friends among adults often begins at these four times.

01

No reply to messages.

Have you ever encountered such a situation: the message you sent out never came to light. You have been waiting for a long time, but the word "um" comes, or the phone is silent and makes no sound.

Every time you pick up your phone, you increase the chance of disappointment.

To hurt friendship, you don’t need to make a big noise, just don’t say a word.

One of my classmates, when he was working in Guangdong, often contacted me and complained to me. Later he went to Dongguan to open a small factory and gradually became rich. From then on, the contact between him and me became less and less.

One day, I sent him a WeChat message, but I never received a reply from him.

During the Chinese New Year, he returned to his hometown. I met him in the village: "Old classmate, why don't you reply to my WeChat message?"

He said: "Oh, I have no use for the previous WeChat message. I changed it."

I silently deleted his WeChat account and never contacted him again.

Everyone will meet different people at different stages of life. It's normal for someone to forget about you and not want to pay attention to you. Don't ask for trouble.

02

Borrow money.

There is a saying on the Internet: "If you want to see a person clearly, you have to talk to him about money."

This sentence is really heartbreaking. Why can't adults talk about money? Why does talking about money hurt feelings?

Everyone needs help from others when they are down. If everyone is indifferent, then the downtrodden people will be even more cold. Helping each other is a traditional virtue.

However, talking about money really hurts feelings. Just because you are affectionate and righteous to others does not mean that others will be grateful to you. If you meet someone who borrows money and refuses to repay it, then you may even have the thought of "wanting to die."

Family conflicts are common because of borrowing money and not repaying it; there are also many lawsuits caused by borrowing money. When you and your former friends become creditors and debtors, your relationship changes dramatically; when you and your friends become "defendants" and "plaintiffs," your face will look ugly.

Money lent, water poured out. If nothing happens, keep your money in your pocket, don't lend money to others, and don't lend money unless absolutely necessary.

If you lend money to others, you may not be able to get it back; if you ask to borrow money, you will most likely be rejected, which will chill your heart.

Money is a touchstone. When you test a friendship with money, there will be cracks in the friendship.

Money is like a high wall that separates two friends. No one is willing to open a door in the wall.

03

Cooperation *** things.

Many friends are here for profit and are not really here to help you, nor are they just here to chat with you.

It is common for friends to work together for certain interests. However, it is common for friends to break up because of disputes over interests.

When two people do business together and make money, it’s easy to say that if they share the money together, it’s not a big problem who has a little more or a little less; if they lose money, it’s a big deal if who loses a little. .

When two people work on a project together, it’s really hard to say who gets more credit, the person who invests money or the person who invests in technology. Those who provide money think that they have taken risks and will gain more; those who provide technology believe that they have overcome difficulties for many years and should be rewarded for their hard work.

When two people study together, there is no conflict of interest. However, they will secretly be wary of the other party being better at learning than themselves. They will have a comparison mentality and it will be difficult to maintain a balance.

As the saying goes: "Three women, one drama."

If women work together to do things, it will be even more difficult. Everyone thinks from their own point of view and likes to express their own opinions. As a result, no one can convince anyone. If you talk too much, it will be a contradiction.

Also, when two friends cooperate, it will also involve the feelings between family members and cause conflicts between families. Two people tearing each other up can also turn into a "gang fight" between a group of people.

When discussing cooperation, everyone is so confident that they can wear a pair of pants. When we have a falling out, everyone is sulky and fussy, but they are not a light-saving lamp.

04

Married.

Getting married is a good thing and needs to be supported by friends. But getting married can also turn into a bad thing, shutting out the feelings between friends.

After getting married, each has a family and a lover around him. In everything, he must take into account the feelings of the people around him. He is no longer the free and easy person.

If you are dating friends of the opposite sex, you can announce the breakup of the relationship starting from the day of marriage.

One of my female classmates was quite fashionable in school. She has close contact with several male classmates. On her wedding day, more than ten classmates drove to have a wedding banquet and even had a wedding ceremony.

Suddenly, the female classmate’s husband and her husband’s relatives kicked the classmates out. The reason is that "men and women are not intimate with each other", which is too much.

The relationship between best friends or close buddies can last longer, but the older you get, the less contact you have. Each takes a different path and lives at a different level, making it difficult to talk together.

05

Conclusion.

Mr. Lu Xun wrote such a scene in "Hometown".

When he returned to his hometown, his childhood friend Runtu came to see him and said as soon as he opened his mouth: "Master..."

Runtu asked his son Shuisheng kowtowed to his master.

From then on, the two friends became strangers, "a sad and thick barrier has been separated between them."

Different family environments and different levels of life are enough to destroy a friendship.

There is a very heart-wrenching saying: "No relationship will get better naturally. You have to treat it with your heart to be worthy of lasting friendship."

Relationships between people , fight to the end, what matters is character and strength.

Life is a long road, cherish every encounter.

Author: Buyi coarse food.

The pictures in this article come from the Internet.