Hello, I see your question: "What kind of power is a strong mind?" A person with a strong heart is a person who can face up to his inner conflict and accept it. Such people have their own goals in life. They must know what they are doing. They think it is meaningful, worth working hard and worth persisting in. When others feel this person, they all think that he is strong inside, that is, you say that he is strong inside.
Constantly experiencing something you haven't done will make a person stronger inside. In the process of experience, you will know what you want, what is important to you, how you want to pursue it, what you want to do from now on, and so on. You should summarize and think at the same time, learn, summarize and think in the process of experience again and again, and do better next time.
People with strong inner feelings are not without inner conflicts. They also have troubles, and sometimes they can't persist. Just as a man can live humbly because of one thing or one person, a boy can die vigorously because of one thing or one person. A humble living person is strong inside, and he can endure it, because he has a goal. The boy's vigorous death is an emotional impulse and an immature performance.
Do things and act, and you will gain very valuable experience and experience.
Don't do something because of the sound of the environment, but when you feel "I want to do it", it is the motivation to do it again. When you do something you really like, your heart will gradually become stronger.
People should love life when they are alive. When it comes to loving life, people should also love misfortune, failure and loneliness. It is these misfortunes, failures and loneliness that exercise a person's will and quality and enhance a person's self-confidence.
I am Yan Jinwen, a psychological counselor who cares about family happiness.
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Hello, I'm glad to answer this question. You ask, "What kind of power is a strong mind?" Good question, this question seems illusory, but in fact there are traces to follow. When a person becomes strong inside, it means that this person is really mature. This has nothing to do with age. Some people are still strong in their thirties, while others are still fragile in their seventies and eighties. What is a man with a strong heart?
First, a person with a strong mind is confident and confident, and he is not blindly arrogant. He thinks that he is "the best in the world" and there is nothing he can't do. But to know what you should do and what you can do. What to do and what to do, I believe I can do well through hard work or with the help of others. For example, a normal university graduate believes that he can become a qualified and good teacher through two years of hard work; A newly married young man believes that he can make himself and his family live a carefree life through hard work; A key high school student believes that as long as he studies hard, he can be admitted to an ideal university, which is a sign of self-confidence. A confident person also knows that there are some uncertain aspects in life that he can't do, but he believes that, on the whole, his life can still be controlled through hard work.
2. A strong-willed person loves himself very much. You don't have to be born well, you don't have to have a high face value, you don't have to be versatile, you don't have to be extremely smart to be loved. Even ordinary people born in ordinary families have ordinary appearance, average ability and average education. As long as you are physically and mentally healthy, you have reason to love yourself, and you can love yourself. Love your body, your appearance, your personality, your family and everything you have. Only by loving yourself can one get the love of others. People with strong hearts know this and love themselves very much. For example, dressing yourself up beautifully, buying some flowers to please yourself at home on weekends, soaking a pot of chrysanthemum tea at home to moisten your throat and listening to a nice song to please yourself are all manifestations of self-love.
3. A strong-willed person is quiet. No matter how noisy the outside world is, people with strong minds always act according to their own inner rhythm, not following the trend or kitsch. For example, Li Jian, a literary singer, is such a person. Li Jian is the lead singer of the pop group Shui Mu Nianhua 200 1. In 2002, when "Time in Shui Mu" was the most popular, he left the group to start a business. The reason is that Li Jian doesn't want to give up his pure musical concept in order to cater to secular love. After he left the league, he was once silent, and stayed in the rented house in Beijing all the year round to create those ethnic minority art songs. Such as "Lake Baikal", "Time flies" and "Legend". After 7 years of silence, 20 10, the singer Faye Wong sang the song Legend. Only then did people discover that the music of Li Jian, a gifted scholar, was so warm and healing, and so different. Li Jian is like an independent snow lotus in a noisy world, spotless. Therefore, his music is pure and unforgettable.
A strong-willed person knows how to feel sorry for himself. If you want others to be happy, then a criticism, an accusation and a supercilious look from others will upset you. On the contrary, you will feel happy and satisfied only when others praise you, recognize you and worship you. In this case, it is difficult for a person to be happy. Because what others think of you and what they think of you are beyond your control. How can others always treat you the way you want? If what others say and do is not what you want, then you are not always disappointed and often troubled. How much happiness can you have?
And if a person knows how to satisfy himself and doesn't care about other people's opinions and comments, he will gain a lot of happiness. Seriously completed one thing, very happy; I am very happy to read a good book by myself; I have raised a pot of plants and am very happy; I am very happy to go to a beautiful tourist attraction alone; I had a delicious meal alone, and I was very happy ... I found all these happiness by myself, which has nothing to do with others and does not need others' comments and recognition. When you can be happy without relying on others, it shows that your heart is strong.
Only a person with a strong heart can love others. Confucius, an ancient sage, once said, "The benevolent loves others." This shows that people who know benevolence, righteousness and morality must also be people with love in their hearts. Such people not only love themselves, but also love others. A person who has the ability to love others is a person with a strong heart. For example, Jack Ma, the richest man in China, is a man with great love. He not only makes the Internet industry in China flourish, but also allows people to enjoy various convenient network services such as Alipay, Taobao and Alibaba. It also organized scientific research teams to go to Africa to support Internet construction and help African people get rid of poverty and backwardness. Ma Yun is so loving.
Of course, loving others doesn't have to be as powerful as Ma Yun. Ordinary people can love others as long as they have a sincere heart. For example, love parents, children, colleagues, friends and even strangers. Giving your heart to others is love. This has nothing to do with money, status, education and position.
It can be said that if the above five points are achieved. Then you are a person with a strong heart. You, me and him. No matter how you come from, how talented you are, and how educated you are, you can become a man of your own mind as long as you strive to be self-reliant.
Ok, that's all for today. Thank you for reading my message. Welcome everyone to leave a message in the comment area to discuss the topic of "strengthening the heart". Welcome to "Oh, love Mimi". "
Being strong inside means that you can accept your own strengths and weaknesses as well as those of others. What others say can't hurt you because you are sure of yourself, and you are you. Accept the beauty and ugliness of the world and understand that everything in the world is two-sided, including yourself. Facing difficulties, not being afraid and not escaping, actively solving difficulties and understanding life is a process of constantly solving difficulties. This is the inner strength I understand. That's who I am now. I used to cry and tell stories, but now I can tell them with a smile.
Today's self is more powerful and admirable than yesterday.
I was born in a family where the poorer I am, the more children I have. There are at least five children in the family. I am in the middle. But my parents gave birth to so many, and none of them gave birth to boys. Therefore, utilitarian parents rank among their daughters in terms of cost performance. I was the last one. I was sent to school when I was very old. Before being sent to school, I looked at the house in the yard with the German shepherd every day. My main task is to look after the house. After being locked at home for a year or two, almost no one paid attention to me except someone gave me something to eat at noon. Not to mention education, it has become my greatest wish not to be bitten by dogs. The dog was chained to the door of the yard toilet. Every time I go to the toilet, the dog will pounce on me. Although it didn't bite me many times, it made me afraid of dogs all my life. In order to reduce the frequency of going to the toilet, cystitis was suppressed. Now I have been suffering from nephritis for many years.
It's nothing. When I was six or seven years old, my parents showed me to strangers casually. I was molested and sexually assaulted many times. When I grew up, I told my parents about it. My mother looked indifferent and said she couldn't blame her, and she didn't know. )。 Brought lifelong pain and sequelae. This is not the most terrible. The most terrible thing is that my parents' daughter will bully me. Sometimes I have a nosebleed, so I tell my mother that she never takes it seriously. Because my mother doesn't like me, my father is afraid of his wife, and other daughters know their position in the family, so I have become the only tool for them to bully and vent their anger. For example, one of my sisters was unhappy when she came home. My mother only asked her why she was unhappy, but she didn't answer. So my mother would slap me by the hair and yell at me, saying, "Did you make your sister angry?" ! ? "So he kept hitting me. I don't know how long it took, but my sister said that something unhappy had happened at school, and my mother immediately went to comfort her. Why does my mother like her better? Because she is good-looking, taking her out has face. There is a simple reason. Don't underestimate this reason. A woman who scolds her husband for incompetence and cowardice every day is really such a mother. She really thinks that being small and beautiful is the only capital to live.
I was beaten like this until I was about eighteen. Interspersed with all kinds of injuries, such as being teased by other sisters. My parents pretended to love me and gave them the money for my medical treatment (because I was not loved by my parents, they said a few good words, and I was obedient like a puppet. Money is my ex-boyfriend's pity for me. Give me money for the operation. Later, the operation was delayed for a year, and the cyst expanded. I managed to borrow money for the operation. On the operating table, I didn't sleep, and my mind has been trying to finish the operation. What should I do, how to take care of myself and how to live?
Junior high school and senior high school live in a world of fear every day. I often dream of being beaten at night. Wake up crying. The reason for being beaten is very simple, maybe my mother is unhappy, maybe his eccentric child is unhappy, maybe I did well in the exam and let her eccentric child know, so she was jealous of me and wanted to beat me. I hit back, they complained, and then I was beaten. Every summer vacation, I will be beaten almost every day, with clothes drying poles and feather dusters. I still remember the sound of feather dusters flying in the air. Hit me in the face with the sole board. Give me a needle. Pinch my inner thigh. I think my mother used all the methods used in today's child abuse incident in kindergarten until I went to college.
I clearly remember that in junior high school, one of my schoolmates came to my house to get her book. Because I have no money to buy books, I borrow books to read. My mother cut her hair that day and went home with her classmates. My mother doesn't allow me to have long hair (it must be cut like a boy's hair). And the hair on the back of my head didn't have to be pushed into inches with scissors that day. In front of my classmates, my mother pulled my hair and beat me, called me a slut and called me ugly and hairy.
Besides, I often fall asleep and wake up. Sometimes there are male relatives at home, and my mother takes off her clothes and beats me regardless of whether I am a woman. My relatives all know that my mother is pungent, and no one dares to stop her.
Another time, my sister lost her watch. It is said that it is very expensive. But she can't say that she lost it. Just tell my mom that my classmate stole it. My mother hit me for a long time. I have to ask my classmate for a new watch. Since then, my classmates are afraid to play with me.
I once saw an advertisement made by Cecilia Cheung and blurted out "Cecilia Cheung is beautiful". So my mother said that I said that others looked good in front of my sister, that is, my elbow turned outward. So he hit me.
Because I lived in this life for a long time, I got myocarditis and got depression. I even thought about killing people. Later, my classmates told me that I must live. Live better than them. You won't live with them forever. Even if you want to kill someone, you can't kill someone like this and lose yourself. She told me to study hard and try to leave home.
With such a family alive, it will be difficult for me to concentrate in middle school for six years and worry about what happens after school every day. My grades are not good. Then I reluctantly went to an ordinary one. My mother's favorite child went after reading the third book. Later, the elder sister publicly told others that her school was better than Peking University. I told you, that's not true. Three copies. So my mom hit me. Say I don't care about her feelings. Then I went to, uh, college and didn't go home much. Because when I go home, I will fully realize that I am an outsider. The three children whose parents are the most eccentric, they treat me as a thief with their parents. For example, I saved some money in the New Year and wanted to be kind to my parents in the New Year (yes, I found myself pleasing my sexual personality), but when I went back, I found that my so-called family locked it in the cupboard for snacks of more than ten yuan, fearing that I would see it. By that time, I had managed to give money to my parents. Alas. Later, I was admitted to a fully funded graduate student. During the whole postgraduate course, I didn't spend a penny and gave my parents thousands of dollars. I felt so tired at that time. But my parents and her children, besides squeezing me, also want to squeeze my boyfriend. The ex-boyfriend has already worked, and his salary is about 10 thousand. But later, the family finally drove him away. My mother took my ex-boyfriend's money and told me how incompetent my ex-boyfriend was. I hate my parents and his children. They are utilitarian, bourgeois, bullying and afraid of hard work, like flattery, but look down on those who can't fuck them. They are jealous and stingy. But they say I'm narrow-minded, baiwenhang every day. Ha ha.
I grew up in such a family. I have thyroid cancer now, my heart is bad, I am depressed, or I am very tired. When I woke up completely, like Van Mei Sheng, I tried to get rid of them. But I finally have a husband who is very kind to me. I also know my experience. Later, when we became rich, I decided to study abroad. At this time, both parents are old, and their favorite children are not filial at all. And still squeezing parents. Only then did my parents know to ask me for money. You will never contact me except for asking for money. My sister only borrows money from me and never talks about paying it back. I tried to forgive them generously. I gave them clothes before I brought them cosmetics from abroad. But no one said thank you. They don't like me buying less. They don't want me to go abroad because I have a bright future. My mother also wants me to solve the problem of her eccentric children going abroad. They must have forgotten what they did wrong. Parents like children who are bossy, stingy and vicious, and can't tolerate their classmates living better than them. And they are very philistine. One of them is my parents' favorite child. She bullied me from childhood and almost killed my sister. Now my husband beats her. I think the world is beautiful. My mother's children are very confident, really as confident as Xifeng. They think they are small and beautiful, and it is right to benefit from men. You don't have to be a beautiful fool. And one of the sisters, as long as it is a girl who looks better than her in her class, she will spread rumors behind her back, saying that others are sleeping everywhere and slandering others. They don't think the mayor will marry them at that level. These are their exact words. It can be seen what kind of mother educates what kind of daughter. Rong and her mother. At this time, I am glad that I am not loved.
I laid my cards on the table with my dad and told him the truth. They were partial to me and hurt me. My dad actually said that your parents gave you life, you have to forgive me! What ridiculous logic, my arrival is just your son's failure. If I had known before I was born that living in this family was like this, I would rather die. You don't want to abort the baby, just to have a baby.
I closed myself up for more than 60 days and figured it out at noon. I can't live like this all my life. I decided to leave them completely. It took half a year to change the number, move and move out of the account. Find a way to solve the problem of continuing to study abroad. In the whole process of growing up, I learned to forbear and keep secrets. I learned to cherish my friends around me. Learned to learn the advantages of others. Learned to stick to yourself in suffering. I learned to concentrate on my studies in a violent family environment. I learned not to bow my head in the face of difficulties, and I learned to get out of the predicament as long as I don't commit suicide. Learned to gain fairness and justice from society. Learn to let yourself face the pressure of study tasks and exams and burn your bridges.
However, I didn't learn how not to cry in my dreams. I want to have parents like other children. But I was born with all my parents' sufferings and grievances, insults and beatings, ridicule and satire. Seeing that mom's favorite child has only passed the fourth grade, parents can't wait to set up a banquet. And I took the full-time postgraduate exam, and I got a monthly subsidy. When I told them that they didn't even respond, I found out that they didn't like me because I was not good enough. Because they don't like me, no matter how good I am. My flattering personality made me lose my last dignity. I decided to live for myself once in my life six months ago. I think this is strength. I assume they're all dead.
If one day you see a social news that "women are enjoying themselves abroad and don't support their parents", maybe that so-called unfilial girl is me. Even if they sue me, I will live well. Will also open Weibo to disclose the facts. In fact, my parents have so many children that none of the children she likes will be filial. My parents are dishonest, lying, greedy and cheap, especially my mother, who can't tolerate others' kindness. I am used to seeing her in the street because of a little thing. Besides, my mother is so snobbish and utilitarian about her own flesh and blood, how can she educate her children well? She's always great. How great and kind she is. Call me a baiwenhang, narrow-minded and bear grudges. I still remember my mother taking her eccentric child to speak ill of me and laughing at my mental illness together. Now his children are almost the same as her in essence.
I was hurt, but it became my fault. If I dare to bear hardships, they will call me unlucky. If I dare to defend myself, they will say that I hold a grudge. If I say they are unfair, they will say I am narrow-minded. If I tell others about my experience and feelings, others will know, and I will be beaten and called a baiwenhang. Whenever they see me unhappy, they say in chicken soup that I can't live and have a narrow mind. How can I make friends? They make irresponsible remarks. If they don't respect me, they will also hurt my friends. I don't know how my excellent classmates became what they call rotten people. During those days, I was afraid to make friends, get distracted from my studies, go home after school, sleep and tell the truth to my teacher. In those terrible days, I couldn't talk to anyone (except my only good friend), I couldn't show sadness, and I had to face my daily fears. You can't cry when you are beaten. If you cry, my mother will hit you harder. Try to tell yourself to live. I'm glad I survived. It's really the Truman Show. No matter how recognized by the leaders in the society and how trusted by my colleagues, I immediately became a clown who was fooled and deceived by the so-called closest relatives.
Sometimes, I can imagine how miserable my elderly parents are now. Taking them to an expensive meal will make them feel happy. I couldn't wait to feel sorry for them and gave them everything I had. But I will be sad when I find that once they mention other children, they will throw me away like dirt. Even if their children are not filial at all!
I am not afraid of anything, I am brave and strong. Execution is particularly strong, and there is no timidity in doing things. In fact, such people are easy to succeed.
Strong perseverance (determination, endurance, charm, persistence and resourcefulness, etc.). ) should be an important symbol of a strong mind. This is an ability that only people with lofty goals or lofty beliefs can have! Ancient, modern and modern, there really are such "strong men"! Saints, monks, national heroes, founding fathers, people who plead for their lives, people who sacrifice their lives for the law, people who spend their lives in general, and so on. All those who put themselves far away and seek a happy place for all beings should be strong in their hearts.