Hao Hao's grandmother has been with the child since he was born. In a blink of an eye, Hao Hao was six years old. Seeing that her grandson is going to primary school, grandma also decided to go back to her hometown. The son and daughter-in-law naturally stayed, and the grandmother wanted to understand that she was getting older and older, and her thoughts were not as good as those of young people. She has helped her children lay a good foundation for their grandchildren's living habits, and it is up to their parents to learn things. Participating in these ignorant things is not good for their children.
Seeing her mother-in-law's resolute attitude, her son and daughter-in-law couldn't stay any longer, and decided to respect the old man's opinion and send him back to his hometown. Hao Hao was very sad to learn that grandma was leaving. He was brought up by his grandmother and has deeper feelings than his mother. After all, her mother works and has little time to spend with him. But grandma insisted on going home, and Hao Hao cried and asked, why doesn't grandma live in my house? Don't you like Haohao?
Grandma stroked her grandson's hair and replied, grandma loves Hao Hao most, but she also misses her little friends. I've been out for six years. Do you think my little friend can recognize me? Hao Hao looked at grandma sympathetically and suddenly said, Grandma, then go home, but don't be afraid. Don't cry if they don't know you. Come back to me and I'll introduce you to new friends.
You see, this is a good way to solve children's emotional crisis with high emotional intelligence. In fact, whether adults or children, the so-called high emotional intelligence is mainly reflected in the following points:
1, stand on the other side to solve the problem:
If you want your child to agree with your ideas, when you explain, you must think from the child's current position.
Just like the grandmother in the example, she didn't reason with her children or force them. Instead, she solves the problem from the perspective that children like to make friends. Let children feel the same way about their loneliness. That's how grandma got two people to reach a tacit understanding quickly.
2. Respect children and give yourself space.
I have to say that this old woman has her own ideas. She knows that her advantage is to help her children establish early habits, and at the same time reduce the psychological burden of looking for outsiders to take care of their children when they are young. As the children enter the school season. She clearly realized that the cultivation of children's learning ability and habits depends on more knowledgeable parents, and fighting alone can only add chaos.
So grandma chose the best time to leave, but at the same time she realized the maximization of her own value. Of course, in addition to sizing up the situation, the ability of the elderly to understand their children and respect them is also worthy of our attention. In addition, knowing how to leave space for yourself and leave space is a sign of high emotional intelligence.
3. Parents set an example and let their children become "beneficiaries"
Parents use emotional intelligence to solve problems, but they are actually setting an example for their children. Through imitation, they gradually mastered the essence of lifestyle and gradually achieved their high emotional intelligence.
Of course, Hao Hao also learned to consider other people's positions and feelings under the guidance and education of his grandmother, just like in the case.