Friends are undoubtedly very important in a person's social activities. Friends are like a book, through which the whole world can be opened, but there are good and bad friends. Good friends will bring you a lot of help, but bad friends will bring you a lot of trouble and even lead you down the wrong path. Therefore, choosing friends is very important.

Leading cadres should make friends who are upright, honest, and knowledgeable. First, make honest friends. This kind of friend is sincere, magnanimous, upright, and has a bright personality without any hint of flattery. His personality can affect your personality. He can give you courage when you are timid and decisive when you are hesitant. So it's kind of a good friend. Secondly, make honest friends. This kind of friend is sincere and not hypocritical. When we associate with such friends, we feel safe and secure in our hearts. Our spirit can be purified and sublimated. Again, make friends who are well-informed. When you feel hesitant and difficult to make a decision on some issues, you might as well go to a friend. Maybe his extensive knowledge can help you make a choice. Making a knowledgeable friend is like having a thick encyclopedia dictionary. We can always get useful lessons from his experience.

Leading cadres should be careful about making friends who are flattering, double-dealing, and boastful. First of all, don’t make flattering friends. We often meet such people in life. Whatever you say, he will say "that's wonderful"; whatever you do, he will say "that's great". He will never say "no" to you. Instead, he will follow your thoughts, follow your words, praise you, and compliment you. This kind of person is particularly good at observing words and expressions, adapting to the situation, and carefully understanding your mood to avoid going against your will. Because you will feel particularly comfortable and happy when you make friends with this kind of person. However, if a person hears too many good words and feels comfortable being flattered, his mind will become dizzy, his ego will become malignantly inflated, he will be blindly arrogant, arrogant, and lose the basic ability of self-reflection, which is not far from causing disaster. . Again, don’t make two-faced friends. This kind of person will always be pleasant and cheerful in front of you, complimenting you and flattering you, but behind his back, he will spread rumors and malicious slander. They are real villains, the kind of people with dark minds. Such people tend to put on a kind face. Because he has intentions in his heart, his enthusiasm for people may be several times higher than those who have no intentions. Therefore, if you are accidentally taken advantage of by such a person, you will put shackles on yourself. This friend will not let you go if you don't pay a heavy price. This is a test of our own vision and our ability to understand people and the world. Again, don’t make friends who talk too much. There is a clear difference between this kind of person and the "extensive knowledge" mentioned above, that is, he has no real talent and practical learning. A sycophantic person is a person who is eloquent but has an empty belly.

However, good people and bad people are not written on their faces. How can we find good friends and stay away from bad friends? If you want to make good friends and not make bad friends, you need two prerequisites: one is willingness, and the other is ability. If we want to make good friends, we must first have a loving heart, be willing to get close to others, and be willing to make friends; secondly, we must have the ability to discern - only in this way can we make friends of good quality. With these two items, there is a bottom line to ensure the quality of making friends. In a sense, making a good friend is actually creating a wonderful life. Our friends are like a mirror, and we can see our own differences in them.