Although I am nearly 30 years old and haven't taken off my bill, I have accumulated a lot of practical experience in making friends through various channels in recent years.
In addition to the traditional self-understanding, family members, relatives and elders introduced, colleagues and friends introduced. In the network age, I will introduce several new channels of making friends and some matters needing attention.
Advantages: Generally, there are hundreds of people in an activity, so you can concentrate on face-to-face communication with the boys you like, choose eye contact and exchange contact information. If you can participate in some high-end activities, the average boy's work background and qualifications are good, but how to form effective follow-up communication requires the matching of girls' own soft and hard strength.
Disadvantages:
1) Such activities are generally purposeful and utilitarian.
Family background, income, age, etc. It's all naked on the table, just like a transaction. Like the kind of rich blind date.
2) It is definitely a great test of appearance and figure.
I once took part in an 8-minute blind date activity, with each table rotating, 3-on-3, talking for about 8 minutes at a time, and then the boys got up and changed tables. The two sides have just begun to exchange greetings, and a group of people may have arrived. Then I have to cheer up and greet the next wave of people with a sweet smile. I feel very tired when I say the same thing. Some people don't want to talk about it later, either playing with their mobile phones or leaving halfway. Basically, whether a boy wants to ask you for contact information depends on his appearance, figure and age. Practically speaking, when girls participate in such activities, the impression of the outside world really ranks first.
3) The cost is high.
Generally, the cost of such activities is more than RMB 0/00 per person. Frequent attendance is also a test of some girls' economic ability, and the effect is uncontrollable. In addition, it is necessary to prevent some activities from being arranged and enliven the atmosphere.
4) The follow-up relationship is difficult to maintain.
Many boys ask girls for contact information, which is more casual or crowded. When they go back, they can't sit in the right position. They all cast a wide net, so they often chatted and left.
Personally, I suggest that girls should calm down first to participate in this kind of dating activity. The key is to give yourself more ways to know people. They can take part in some purely dating activities, such as organizing short trips for men and women, cooking, exercising, singing and board games together. What they harvest is not necessarily love, but they can also make more like-minded friends.
Girls who are interested in making friends through such channels can pay attention to making friends in the same city, Douban City, Weibo, some local singles clubs in WeChat official accounts, Shanghai, making friends by fate, I era, friends born after 1980s in Shanghai and so on. The subway times often publishes some circle of friends, which can be paid attention to. In addition, you can join some clubs according to your own interests. For example, because I like outdoor hiking, I joined an outdoor sports club group, and several boys came to meet and eat. So, the key is that if you go out and let people know about you, maybe fate will come unexpectedly.
Advantages: there are many resources and wide distribution, and you can search and send letters according to your preferences.
The annual fee is generally 200-300 yuan, and you can send and receive letters indefinitely. The result is faster. If the chat feels good, you can make an appointment. If you feel inappropriate, politely refuse.
Disadvantages: low security, beware of scammers.
? In fact, this is the most critical point, how to identify whether the other party is reliable.
1) Judging from the information registered on the website,
Such as whether the other party's real name is verified: ID card, mobile phone, sesame credit, etc.
? Did you buy a member? Those who have bought members are generally sincere and want to find someone seriously.
? Whether there are photos: If there are no photos, send them directly. If there are photos, whether to wear sunglasses, or deliberately cover your face, or be funny. This is to prevent some men from having families or girlfriends and thieves from coming out to chat; But thieves are not brave enough to be found, so their faces are often blurred in photos.
Whether the information is complete and whether you have written a personal monologue seriously can be focused on. If the information is exaggerated or contradictory, you need to be vigilant.
For example, I am young, with high income, a house, a car and no loan, and my photos are handsome. Such people have long been robbed in reality, and they still need to go online, even if they are really looking for a one-night stand. Of course, it does not rule out that some of them may really broaden the channels and look online. Let's add a QQ chat first to see if the conversation is reliable. Another way is for Baidu to check the contact information, name and other information to see if there is any bad record left.
Before, a boy from Baidu told me that he was engaged in finance and earned millions a year, but the message Du Niang gave me was that he posted some information on major websites as an intermediary or sold some low-priced products. There are also some boys who register for one-night stand websites or leave their contact information YP on some forums.
2) Matters needing attention when making an appointment
When making an appointment, the key is to pay attention to the details, such as whether the speech and manners conform to the relevant information he filled in, which can be guided by some topics to see if what he said contradicts what he explained before.
When making an appointment, it is best to make an appointment during the day or at dinner time, and it must be in a shopping mall or a place with a lot of people.
In addition, go to a more formal restaurant and don't leave your seat casually. If you go to the bathroom, try not to drink the rest of the drinks when you come back.
Go home by yourself after dinner, and don't get a ride with boys, lest the other person have ulterior motives or expose his home address.
3) Matters needing attention in daily life
If you feel good, you can strengthen communication and understanding, verify his work and family information through some topics or participate in his friends' activities, and understand his lifestyle and friends circle through getting along.
Finally, don't have sex easily. It is not excluded that some boys have a higher level and know how to get along with girls, but the most unbearable thing for such people is the cost of time. His gentleness and thoughtfulness is the ultimate goal of trying to trick some girls into going to bed. If you find it hard to get it, such people will give up soon.
As a dating website under the banner of marriage and love, dating websites are also a major channel for many housewives with small social circles to make friends.
Don't be afraid of girls. There may be liars above, but there are also many reliable technical engineering men who are not good at getting along with girls in reality. The key is how to identify them. As long as you uphold the vanity idea that boys will never change, the probability of being cheated is really not high.
Many girls who have been cheated by news reports are actually confused by the glamorous aura of boys, losing their minds and not verifying them. They simply think that they have found a rich husband and will be carefree for the rest of their lives, resulting in the psychology of pleasing and fearing loss.
Some large IT companies have BBS communication forums.
You can sort out your friends' needs and mate selection conditions and send them to friends who work in companies such as BAT, Huawei and JD.COM, so that they can help publish them.
I once asked a friend who works in Huawei to post it for me, and I received hundreds of WeChat friends in one night.
Advantages: well-known big companies, know the root of the matter, and have channels to understand the character of boys.
The income is high, and IT men are mostly technical houses, and they don't pay much attention to it, so they are suitable candidates to be husbands.
Disadvantages:
1) Too busy to take care of the other half;
I once came into contact with a Huawei boy who often fought all night when the project was busy. It was already three days of overtime when I sent the message. In order to meet the peak of communication on Christmas and New Year's Day, I worked overtime to test the data.
I also contacted Ali Nan, and they all worked overtime until at least 9 o'clock.
2) Technical men, who generally don't pay much attention to the outside world, may be rustic or have a low face value. In addition, the trend of baldness is obvious, which is a bit difficult for some girls with appearance control.
I used to wait for people at the rush hour of a well-known internet company and count the people coming and going at the gate. There are nearly 20,000 people working here in this company. 10 minutes, there are only a handful of handsome guys I see.
The method of linking these IT men through friends is quite recommended. The boys in these companies are all steamed buns now, but they have no chance to communicate with the outside world.
Personally, I have come into contact with several boys and feel that they are all sincere people. Maybe they don't know much about romance and fun, but if you are patient and tolerant and willing to cultivate each other, I believe such boys will be very good candidates.
As the end of the year approaches, single girls people have made an unusual attempt. The key is positive action.
At home, fate will not come.
If you don't do it, it will happen ~ ~! !