A letter written by Mrs. Fu Leiji to Fu Cong, Fu Min and others. On the evening of August 16, 1954? You have always had two habits. One is to go to other people's homes, enter the house, take off your clothes, etc. She wore a coat but kept a silk scarf; secondly, she often put her hands in her coat pockets or trouser pockets. Both of these are inconsistent with Western politeness. The scarf must be taken off together with the coat in the cloakroom. When not wearing the coat, the scarf must also be removed. Putting your hands in your coat pockets is more rude than putting your hands in your trouser pockets and should be avoided. Not to mention making the clothes look out of shape. The circle you interact with, especially the educated circle, must be special in every move you make. Stop the maidservant's lawsuit and filthy sex? Huaicang servant plus diarrhea? ΑT诜蜜婸婸综合 蛘妦ジQiaoxi D阒ash?粜目鬬欬狠撒AT? Na嘄昃Tushao?Feed 5昫嬗around洳ash?综谂谂道合?65Barium barium G?/FONT> ?Come on the stage to salute or take a curtain call, face Keep your expression gentle and don't be too serious like in the past. This has a lot to do with the mood of the masses and should be paid attention to in time. As long as you are not in a hurry and feel calmer, your expression will naturally soften. ?In short, you have to learn not only music, but also absorb the strengths of others in terms of behavior, attitude, and politeness. I paid great attention to these things when I was studying abroad, otherwise I wouldn't have cared about you since you were young, and would have been annoying you in all kinds of MANNER (etiquette, manners). But I hope you don’t find me cumbersome, but think that everything is to make you more complete and more popular. 1955 1 The requirements for a lifelong partner, just like the requirements for everything in life, should not be too harsh. There are always pros and cons to everything: I chase you too eagerly, and you feel a heavy burden; I chase you too hard, and you feel that I am not passionate enough. A gentle person can sometimes appear cowardly, and a strong person can appear almost authoritarian. Too much fantasy would be unrealistic, and the capable housekeeper wife would find it tacky. Where are the people who have only strengths and no weaknesses? Are there any perfect people or things in the world? Ask yourself, how perfect are you? You must have considered this type of question more than once. I think the most important thing is your intrinsic kindness, gentle nature, and open mind. With these three things, everything else can be gradually cultivated, and with these three things, even big or small storms will not turn into tragedies in the future. Being an artist’s wife is more difficult than being anyone else’s wife. If you don’t understand this in advance, even if you know that you are too harsh on others and too lenient on yourself, it will not be easy to learn to be wise, considerate and tolerant. As long as it can solve your life for you As long as you are interested in your career, you don't have to expect too much about academic studies. It depends on your married life. The two of you must first learn to respect each other, understand and tolerate each other. Although the whole world is dangerous, it is also very precious! Now that you have realized it, you will surely wake her up slowly. It is best to make subtle remarks rather than mention it directly. You should also make her feel that it is to maintain her independent personality and expand her confidence. Worldview. If you have already thought of Olivier's story, you might as well ask her to read it carefully once or twice, especially asking her to pay attention to that episode like Jacqueline who only knows love, love, love! : Love, love. ——Extractor's note) The person is just a character in a fairy tale. Not only can she not get love in the real world, she will not even be able to survive because she knows nothing but love, has nothing, and loves nothing. How can such a narrow world be like a world! How can one be happy with such a one-sided outlook on life! Only by focusing on career, learning, and art, and trying to put aside your small ego, can you be happy. Only then can life feel meaningful. Unexperienced girls often have the absurd dream that the emotional climax during love can be maintained after marriage. This is a delusion that goes against the laws of nature. "A gentleman." "The conversation is like water"; there is another saying, "The couple respects each other as if they were guests." It can be seen that only calm, reserved, and gentle feelings can last. The meaning of the other sentence is that the relationship between the couple is completely a close friend, that is, What we call a lifelong partner. If both parties can understand this deeply before getting married, it will lay the most reliable foundation for the future and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and pain. 2. First, the attitude and mood must be as calm as possible. Observation will not be accurate. In the early stages of dating, it is easy to be emotional and rely solely on impressions. You will only see the advantages of the other party, not the shortcomings, and even exaggerate the advantages and embellish the shortcomings.

This is not unavoidable even when interacting with friends of the same sex, and it is even more common with people of the opposite sex. This is often the reason why many young men and women are very good before marriage, but gradually become estranged or even turn against each other after marriage. During periods of emotional excitement, not only will one become deaf, blind, and unable to see the other person clearly, but oneself will also unconsciously only show the good aspects and hide the shortcomings. Another advantage of staying calm is that you won't waste your work just to fall in love, affect your homework, waste time, harm your health, or disturb your mood when encountering setbacks, big or small. I have never had a "love first" view in my life. "Truth is supreme," "morality is supreme," and "justice is supreme" should be the principles on which we stand. No matter how fanatical the climax of love, it cannot violate these principles. Whether it is a friend, a wife, or a lover, everything is the same. When encountering major junctures, never give in on issues related to truth, morality, justice, etc. Secondly, humans are the most complex animals. Observation must not be simplistic, but must be patient, detailed, and thorough over a considerable period of time. , various accidents and occasions. Always combine the spirit of scientific objectivity with compassionate sympathy, and recognize whether the other party's advantages are real and reliable, or whether they are imagined or exaggerated. . The shortcomings of the other party must be determined whether they are related to the essence. The shortcomings related to the essence cannot be ignored because of other secondary advantages. It is also necessary to determine whether the secondary shortcomings can be corrected and whether they will affect their character or daily life. Life. Everyone has shortcomings, and this is true for both men and women in love. The problem is not to find a partner who has no shortcomings, but to find someone who can recognize their shortcomings, admit them, and be willing to gradually change them, while also being able to respect each other. A tolerant partner. (This point is very important. Some shortcomings can be tolerated by both parties, and some cannot be tolerated, which will cause rifts over time.) It is best for both parties to be as natural as possible, not to be pretentious, and to show their true colors and let go of their strengths and weaknesses. The other party sees it. Only when each other sees the advantages and disadvantages, and feels that they can tolerate each other without affecting the overall situation, can we talk about further understanding; otherwise, we can only be ordinary friends. It takes a lot of time to figure out each other's strengths and weaknesses, and it also needs to be tested by various large and small incidents; there is absolutely no rush! Let's not draw conclusions easily (whether it is a good conclusion or a bad conclusion). Only by being extremely honest can we do it! Expose yourself; and the sooner you expose your shortcomings, the better, and the later, the worse! People who try to hide their shortcomings in order to succeed in love are actually stupid. Of course, they unknowingly show their brightness in love. Unconsciously hiding one's shortcomings is not an example of this, because this is human instinct, and it also proves that love can make us progress and develop in the direction of goodness and beauty. This is the greatness of love and has been praised by poets throughout the ages. The main reason for love. Novelists often mention that we have experienced it again and again in life: men and women in love are often smarter than usual; they can also understand books quickly; they are often extraordinarily kind-hearted and want to make things happen for their own happiness. The happiness of others may reduce the suffering of others; the expansion of sympathy is a precious concrete manifestation of love. In addition to the advantages and disadvantages, it is also an important factor that the differences in hardness, softness, hardness, and priorities of the two people can be adjusted to each other. There are countless indescribable little habits that are manifested in actions, attitudes, words, smiles, sounds, etc., which also play a big role between men and women. To understand these, you have to stand by and watch slowly. It refers to the many tangible and intangible criticisms and self-criticisms (the reactions to others' every move are invisible criticisms). Poets often say that love is blind, but love that is not blind is healthier and more reliable after all. Although appearance and figure are not the main consideration, a person who loves beauty cannot ignore it too much. When making friends, give as few gifts as possible and spend as little money as possible; on the one hand, it shows that your concept of love and material relationships are rarely involved. Answered by: Weiwei Feier - Magician Level 4 2-11 22:12-------- -------------------------------------------------- ---------------------------- October 2, 1954, dear child. I am very happy to receive the sixth letter sent late on September 22. We are not troubled or disturbed by your previous letter. I also warned you in my eighth letter that this kind of depression will still happen in the future. I've been through this before, so I won't make a fuss. You don’t have to worry about it, let alone keep it in your belly and not tell us.

If you don’t vent your anguish in your heart in letters home, where can you vent it? If a child doesn't complain to his parents, who can he complain to? If we don’t come to comfort you, who will? People are always ups and downs throughout their lives. Only mediocre people can live like stagnant water; or they must have extremely high cultivation to be free from fatigue and truly liberated. As long as the highs don't make you nervous and the lows don't make you decadent, that's fine. If the sun is too strong, it will scorch the grains; if the rain is too strong, it will drown the crops. We just want to be mentally balanced so as not to get hurt. You are not someone who can't get up after a somersault. I predict that the past few years abroad will be of great help to you as a whole. I understand the pain mentioned in this letter; I sympathize with it and am willing to try my best to comfort and encourage you. Didn't Christophe go through this situation many times? Isn't he the epitome and crystallization of all artists? Gradually, you will develop a different mood to deal with the past: you can think about it without being shocked, you can analyze the causes and consequences from an objective standpoint, and draw lessons from the future to avoid repeating the same mistakes. Only when a person dares to face reality and mistakes, use rational analysis, and thoroughly comprehend, can he avoid being eroded by memories. I believe you will gradually learn this trick and become stronger and stronger. I have mentioned emotional ruin (trauma, destruction) to you before in my letter. I want you to look at these things as the ashes of your soul. Of course, you will feel a lot of emotions when you look at them, but you should not hurt yourself unforgettablely, but as if you are facing them. There is a feeling of condolences like an ancient battlefield. If you think these words are right and have some inspiration for you, then in the future when you encounter pain caused by memories (which will inevitably happen again), take out this letter and reread it several times. January 26, 1955 Dear child: On New Year's Day, I held a cane in one hand and put it on my mother's shoulder with the other. I tried half a step, but I could barely walk. For the past two days, I could only half sit and half lie down. But just like being disabled, you need someone to help you with everything, and you still can’t walk alone. It will probably take another week to rest before you can return to normal. I estimate early that I will receive your letter in the new year. We are all waiting for it as if we are waiting for some gift. Sure enough, I received a letter from you (wave 10) yesterday morning, and it was quite gratifying news. Child! If we were at the venue, we would burst into tears. The highest and purest joy in the world is to appreciate art, let alone the art conveyed by the hands and hearts of your own children! Secondly, we are also happy because you have brought glory to the motherland! And even more because you can use music to make our country happy. How many people are laughing and happy! Thinking that you will have greater achievements in the future, make endless progress, serve more people and the masses, inspire their mood, and soothe their pain, our hearts are really going to jump out. ! It is such a sacred and glorious mission to carry forward the immortal works of the immortal master and spread them to every corner of the earth! My child, you are so happy, and God has been so kind to you. What I am even more happy and comforted about is: no amount of excessive flattery and praise has made you lose your self-awareness, and the applause, hugs, and praises from celebrities have not diminished your humility towards art! At last, my education was not in vain. Your twenty years of torture have not been in vain! You can be strong (not getting carried away by victory is the best evidence of being strong). As long as you can be strong, I will rest assured for the rest of my life! The size and level of your achievements are not the same. What we have within our control depends partly on manpower and partly on talent, but as long as we are strong, we are not afraid of failure, setbacks, or blows - whether they are personnel, life, technology, or learning - blows; From now on you can fight alone. What's more, there are actually so many good teachers and friends around to help you and support you. In addition, ancient and modern classics will give you spiritual nourishment at all times! My child, from now on, you will never be lonely, and you will not be afraid of loneliness! I will always remember this sentence of innocence. of. A child does not know loneliness. When an innocent child is lonely, he will create a world and create many spiritual friends! Always keep the innocent heart, and he will not be left behind when he grows old. He will always be able to connect with and embrace the innocent hearts in the world! Your friend said it right Yes, the moving expression of art must come from the purity of the soul! If it is not as pure as a mirror, how can we understand the souls of our predecessors? How can we move the hearts of the audience? What Smanzianka said about Chopin's concerto, It reminds me of what you said in the first two letters about Richter playing Tchaikovsky's concerto. All real achievements must be truly appreciated by someone. The music dean said that your performance is like flowing water, like a river; it reminds me of the symbol of Christophe.

Uncle Tian said that you often thought of yourself as Christophe when you were a child; but your personality is actually somewhat similar to Romain Rolland's ideal. River, Rhine, the sound of the river is mighty... The bells are ringing again, it is already dawn... China is reaching the dawn of "Fudan". I hope you will be China's - New China's - bells, ringing all over the world, ringing Permeate everyone's heart! The endless flow of water flows into everyone's heart, taking everyone with you to the boundless ocean of sound! The world-famous Yangtze River and Yellow River, It's even more powerful than the Rhine!...The water of the Yellow River comes up from the sky and rushes to the sea and never returns!...The endless falling trees rustle under the sky, and the endless Yangtze River rolls in!...A traditional nation with such a poetic soul should It's better to have a show of arrogance and arrogance. You say that you are always surrounded by contradictions and happiness, but I believe that without contradictions, artists will not progress, evolve, or deepen. Contradictions are evidence of vitality. What you feel at the moment is just the contradiction between skills and ideals. In the future, you will have recurring and even greater contradictions: the contradiction between form and content, and many unpredictable contradictions in your own heart, all waiting for you in the future. Don't worry, resolving a contradiction is a step forward! Contradictions can never be solved, so art has no limits. There is no perfect day, and there is no perfect day in life! That's the only way, It requires us to pursue and practice hard day and night throughout our lives; otherwise, if we become Emperor Xi and rule the world with our hands, we will be too tired of being a human being!