What should parents do if children fall in love with the Internet and surf the Internet? In fact, online dating and puppy love have great similarities. The biggest difference is that online dating is illusory and more harmful than real puppy love. Puppy love hurts more easily. Teenagers are unstable in attitude, prone to contradictions in love, immature and fragile in psychology, and prone to emotional twists and turns. Some teenagers are frustrated by puppy love and doubt life and whether there is true love, which casts a shadow over their emotional life and affects their married life after adulthood. The charm of online dating lies in the illusion of the network, and the harm of online dating lies in the illusion of the network. If you naively think that the network is a paradise and linger, it will endanger normal real life. The influence of online dating is not limited to netizens. Surfing the Internet for a long time will undoubtedly reduce the time of communication with people, friends and colleagues whose relatives have been hurt by online dating, and will naturally bring inconvenience to family, life and work.
3. Parents should encourage their children to actively participate in activities beneficial to physical and mental health, divert their attention and vent their abundant energy. Colorful campus group activities, off-campus travel, making friends, public welfare work, etc. Not only can you exercise, but you can also improve your intelligence and health. At the same time, children are encouraged to develop their hobbies according to their personal interests, such as collecting stamps, reading world famous works, practicing writing and submitting articles, etc., so that their spare time is full of interest and happiness. Perhaps, the emotion of "puppy love" will be weakened and transferred appropriately. I want to say a few more words about the "puppy love" of middle school students. Because in recent years, with the general improvement of people's living standards, children's nutrition supply is sufficient, and the tangible and intangible "sexual" stimulation of social environment has obviously advanced the age of children's sexual maturity, which has also led to the general advance of middle school students' age of falling in love, and even it has been reported that the phenomenon of falling in love has appeared in senior primary schools. In this regard, parents should be psychologically prepared. They should not regard puppy love among primary and secondary school students as a scourge, nor should it develop into "natural education" as mentioned in some articles. On this issue, parents should learn some knowledge about children's psychology, especially adolescent psychology and pedagogy, so as to improve children's literacy. Usually, we should pay more attention to our children and have more heart-to-heart talks with them to prevent the occurrence of puppy love among teenagers.
Symptoms of puppy love: Usually, students with weak personality, strong vanity, poor academic performance and lack of family warmth are more likely to fall in love. Puppy love is generally characterized by abnormal study, labor and extracurricular activities, sudden decline in academic performance, frequent absenteeism, being late and leaving early, absent-minded, absent-minded, emotionally fluctuating, sometimes full of worries, fidgeting and inattention in class; They are disgusted with teachers and parents, so they stay away from them. They like to dress up, pay attention to hair style and clothes, read romance novels and extract sexual descriptions from them.
Second, if the child is found to be in puppy love and the child is emotional about the object he loves, parents should not sneer, scold or even punish the child, let alone rush to school, the other party's home or complain to the neighbors, which will cause a storm in the city. The best way is to understand children, be considerate of children and use the method of "cold treatment". Because when children have the feeling of love, they will be excited about giving birth and be troubled by sadness, social pressure and even sexual entanglement. Parents should not only have an insight into their children's inner feelings, but also guide them from the side, patiently listen to their children's voices and give them warm and serious advice. It is necessary to teach children self-respect and self-love, distinguish the relationship between friendship and love, and appropriately tell them the social morality and power responsibility of love, so that children can have a further understanding of love and marriage. It is necessary to tell children that less than 3% of junior and senior high school students fall in love, and the possibility of success is very small. Puppy love has an influence on middle school students' study. If you can't continue your studies because of falling in love, even if you get married, life will be full of ups and downs and conflicts, because the era of knowledge economy has arrived. Parents should educate their children about puppy love, but they should also have a serious attitude. It takes some time to help children get out of the confusion of puppy love.
Fourth, parents should understand their children's unique "mood" at this time. Children's communication with the opposite sex should not be rudely characterized as "puppy love" and severely stopped, or they should follow and monitor children like "spies" or completely deny the object of children's communication. Parents often get twice the result with half the effort, and sometimes even backfire. Many things in real life have proved this point. For example, a girl often helps a boy with his lessons, and his parents decide that the child is "puppy love" and rudely stop it. As a result, two children who didn't "talk" at all simply ran away from home and really talked about "love" under the great pressure of their parents. Some parents find that their children are in love and immediately reprimand them and severely punish them. However, both sides committed suicide by throwing themselves into the lake ... such examples are endless. Therefore, parents should trust their children, talk to them as friends and in an equal position, and help them deal with emotional fluctuations, which can cultivate children to consciously restrain their behavior and life.
Once upon a time, when it came to students and Internet addiction, Internet cafes became the target of public criticism. In the media, it is often seen that "black-hearted" Internet cafes allow minors to surf the Internet, and fathers are looking for their missing sons in Internet cafes. Before the start of school in spring and autumn, the Education Bureau will check the Internet cafes near the school in conjunction with relevant departments to see if there are any minors. Is it wrong to set the battlefield in Internet cafes now to prevent minors from indulging in surfing the Internet? According to the survey, only 60% students still surf the Internet in Internet cafes, while 90% students surf the Internet at home. Surfing the Internet is actually a kind of ability. Nowadays, few children don't surf the Internet. Teenagers are prone to internet addiction because of their poor self-control ability. To help children prevent and quit Internet addiction, we should adopt persuasion to understand the causes of children's Internet addiction and give targeted guidance.
To provide you with information about how parents of middle school students love Weifang and how to treat middle school students love Weifang correctly. Puppy love is a common problem among young students. As the body matures, puppy love naturally appears around teenagers. Their strong curiosity promoted their further communication and understanding with the opposite sex, which led to their love for each other and developed into puppy love. Because they are still in adolescence, their bodies and minds are not mature enough, and they are still students. Therefore, the emergence of puppy love is invisibly opposed by teachers and parents. Due to the opposition of parents and teachers, young people who are puppy love are more disgusted with the teaching of teachers and parents. I feel that they don't know themselves at all, which leads to deeper and deeper. On the contrary, some parents and teachers think that puppy love among teenagers is a common thing. As long as it doesn't affect your studies and hurt yourself, why not? Teenagers are very sensitive to puppy love, but their interest in the opposite sex and their need to communicate with the opposite sex naturally arise with the development and maturity of their bodies.
When more and more students are "puppy love", parents should never punch, kick and exert heavy pressure, which can only be counterproductive. So what should parents do when their children show signs of puppy love, or when they have puppy love?
What is adolescent Internet Addiction Disorder? Teenagers' Internet addiction refers to a mental illness caused by teenagers' excessive use of the Internet. The main reasons that make teenagers become high-risk groups of Internet addiction include personality psychological factors and social factors, which are manifested in a series of psychological symptoms, physiological symptoms and other bad social behaviors, which not only seriously endanger the physical and mental health of teenagers, but also affect the normal development of social, school and family education.
Once upon a time, when it came to students and Internet addiction, Internet cafes became the target of public criticism. In the media, it is often seen that "black-hearted" Internet cafes allow minors to surf the Internet, and fathers are looking for their missing sons in Internet cafes. Before the school starts in spring and autumn every year, the Education Bureau will check the Internet cafes near the school in conjunction with relevant departments to see if there are any minors. Is it wrong to set the battlefield in Internet cafes now to prevent minors from indulging in surfing the Internet? According to the survey, only 60% students still surf the Internet in Internet cafes, while 90% students surf the Internet at home. Surfing the Internet is actually a kind of ability. Nowadays, few children don't surf the Internet. Teenagers are prone to internet addiction because of their poor self-control ability. To help children prevent and quit Internet addiction, we should adopt persuasion to understand the causes of children's Internet addiction and give targeted guidance.
Reasons for puppy love: 1. Puppy love students often don't get enough love and care at home, so they hope to make up for it in the opposite sex. 2. Some students think that the other person is "interesting" to themselves, or that they are "interesting" to each other, so they gradually enter the emotional whirlpool and even fall into unrequited love. Some students don't devote themselves to study because of spiritual emptiness and loneliness.