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Why is it said that your circle determines your life?

Life is composed of "circles".

We have our own "circle" since we were born. This "circle" consists of our parents' lives, the people we interact with, and the environment. The people in this "circle", their thoughts, behavior patterns and understanding of the world will have a huge impact on us.

When we go to school, we will come into contact with students from different family situations. The parents of some classmates have power and status, and they belong to different "circles". The people in that "circle" have different food, clothing, housing, transportation, speech and behavior, and even their views on things are different from us. During college, classmates came from all over the world, and people from the same province formed "circles" such as "hometown associations"; and due to different interests and hobbies, "Music Troupes", "Literary Clubs", "English Clubs", etc. Various "circles".

Generally speaking, the more "circles" a person joins, the richer the information resources he or she is exposed to, the higher the chance of a breakthrough in one's knowledge, the opportunities available to choose from in the future and even the ability to do things. The success rate will also be higher. For example, when graduating from college, those who have participated in various social "circles" will be more likely to find job opportunities than those who do not have these "circles" because they have connections with other "circles."

I have to admit that many people throughout their lives, although their social status does not seem to be low, their experience or the "circle" they belong to is extremely narrow. Some full-time mothers, who have high academic qualifications, quit their jobs after having children and take care of the children full-time. As a result, their "circles" are only "mother circles", "parent-child circles" and "children's education circles" with similar situations. "etc. Their frequent topics rarely break through the same topics in these "circles". The "circle" is very small, and they will be very distressed when they encounter problems that can be solved beyond the "circle", and they don't have many ideas and solutions. There are also some friends who are experts in a certain field with high qualifications. They are busy all year round and attend various professional conferences, academic seminars, and teaching and research activities. They fly frequently at home and abroad, but the "circle" they belong to is relatively simple, and they have little communication and interaction with other circles. This relatively single and closed "circle" will limit people's thinking and knowledge. When encountering bottlenecks in life or career, the possibility of difficulty in breaking through will be greatly increased.

Flowing water does not rot, and door hinges do not suffer from beetles. The reason why water has vitality lies in its "flow", rather than being limited to one or a few specific "circles". Its circle is infinitely large and everywhere, so the energy of water is huge, it can embrace all rivers, and it can nourish all things. The "hub" is also engaged in communication and transformation between "circles" during its opening and closing. It can be seen that different "circles" have different energies. Only by moving from a circle with low energy to a "circle" with high energy can you gain higher energy.

Many of the students who studied Chinese medicine together had been ill for many years, and even after visiting famous doctors, they could not be cured. Later, I studied Chinese medicine and entered different "circles". In this "circle" there were hospital doctors, psychologists, business managers, traditional culture enthusiasts... In less than a year , many people not only cured their own diseases, but also cured many difficult and complicated diseases of their family and friends; they also inadvertently made many friends in different industries and fields, learned more about the "circle", and broadened their horizons . It can be seen that entering a "circle" with higher energy will allow you to gain higher energy---increase in ability and wisdom.

I have a friend who majors in law. He has a doctorate in law from a well-known university and his professional level is excellent. Most of the "circles" he usually associates with are business contacts. He is too busy with work and has no time to interact with others. Everyone felt uncomfortable getting along with him because everything about this old man involved legal aspects. For example, if we were talking about a light topic, he would immediately be able to keenly find loopholes in the law and refute it, making everyone lose interest. It is said that when the eldest brother was in love, he came to meet the girl's parents for the first time, and he talked with the prospective father-in-law about the necessity of notarization of property before marriage, but... there was no result.

No matter how high-end the "circle" is, it should not trap people. Being trapped in a "circle" means that a person is "circled to death". The "circle" is controlled by people. Only people can break through the "circle" and be used by me.

That doctor of law was trapped by the "circle" of "law", and he thought he had a "universal golden circle" and wanted to use it to trap everything. He called it "everything should be governed by law." , but as a result, he was trapped and unable to escape, which turned into a joke.

If people want to make progress, they need to understand more "circles". The so-called being well-informed is nothing more than this. Different "circles" actually bring us different ways of living, different modes of thinking and perspectives on the world. If you want to make yourself higher, you must continue to contact and experience different "circles". To get in touch with and understand different "circles", you must put aside your own prejudices and treat others with an inclusive, humble, and sincere heart.

I majored in economics, and I pay attention to input-output and cost-benefit in everything. When I just graduated from college, I felt that I could do anything. When I saw the company's shortcomings, I often went to the boss to make various "rational suggestions." Years later, after experiencing some things, I realized that I was ridiculously naive at the time: I always wanted to use the professional knowledge I had learned to measure all the problems I encountered. I couldn't see that the world is so big and there are thousands of "circles". I have only stayed in a smaller "circle" called "international trade" within the "circle" of "economics" for four years, and I am so arrogant that I think that the key in my hand can open everything. Lock. Isn't it funny!

There are some basic common sense in economics, such as consumer needs need to be discovered, stimulated, constantly satisfied, and even "created", which is an important guarantee for enterprise development and wealth growth. Nowadays, there are many friends in my "circle" who are vegetarians, abstinent, don't have much desire for material wealth, and don't want to make a lot of money. They have sold their houses and cars, left the city, and lived a pastoral life in the countryside, living a simple life every day. Immerse yourself in the simple and carefree slow life, be happy and fulfilled. For their "circle", many premises of economics have been completely overturned: they have few material desires and do not want to have too much wealth, so there is no way to "increase profits", "reduce costs", "expand reproduction" and other issues. Troubled.

If I had not come into contact with this "circle", I would not be able to understand that there are so many people in the world who do not understand economics and can live happily. Later, I understood that economics is just a very small "circle" in the world. The world is very big. More than 90% of people have never touched economics in their lives, and they can still live a happy life. It is extremely ridiculous to measure the world and others by one's own "circle".

Knowing your own insignificance is the beginning of progress. The size of a person's energy does not depend on which "circle" he belongs to, but on how many "circles" he has transcended. The "circle" you belong to is horizontal and flat. How many "circles" you transcend are three-dimensional and can sublimate yourself.

Among the friends who study together, some have science and engineering backgrounds and are returnees. After being rigorously influenced by modern Western scientific concepts and experienced in modern enterprises, they have returned to the training and study of traditional culture and have specialized in studying. I Ching Bagua, Confucius, Mencius and Zhuangzi, Buddhism, Chinese medicine. These people have crossed enough "circles" that I am very optimistic about them. There are also some children who are still in college and have entered such a "circle" through taking classes. This undoubtedly opens up a vertical upward path for their lives, which is equivalent to taking the stairs instead of taking the elevator. kind. I also think highly of them and wish them well.

In recent years, I have successively participated in activities in various circles such as photography circle, badminton circle, Chinese medicine circle, literature circle, vegetarian circle, food circle, traveling circle, music circle, Feng Shui fortune telling circle, etc., and made friends. Got many mentors and helpful friends. With more "circles", the way of thinking about problems becomes much broader, and people become more tolerant, less likely to get angry, and less likely to criticize others. For example, friends in the badminton circle, the traditional Chinese medicine circle, and the vegetarian circle have completely different concepts about diet, nutrition, exercise, and health. Friends from traditional Chinese medicine and Western medicine also have many contradictory opinions, and even about the value of a photo or a piece of music. Everyone has their own opinions on whether it is good or bad. At first, I tried to explain and discuss in order to achieve *** consciousness, but later I found that everything was in vain. The "circle" is different, the perspective is just different. For many issues, if we can transcend the limitations of the "circle" and look at it from a higher perspective, everything will suddenly become clear without the need for more explanations in words.

Everything in the world is just a "circle". As long as you are "selfless" and as sincere as a child, you can join a circle and understand a "circle". If you see more, you will be able to understand everything, which can be said to be "omnipotent".

In fact, this world is just a "big circle". Many of our troubles are basically caused by being trapped in small "circles" and unable to escape. When our hearts can also get rid of various spiritual "circles", we will be completely free.

Of course, this is the ultimate goal of life. To achieve this goal, how much pious efforts and karma are required! The most important of them is the cause and condition of learning the way of life, and it requires great blessings - no other, just because through this kind of cause and condition, one can lead to the most special realm of life - according to Taoism, It's called "getting the way". According to Buddhism, it is called "enlightenment".

My current state: deviant and stubborn. Be anxious!