Social interaction, as the name suggests, refers to various interactions in society, and is one of the most essential activities in people's lives.
The people you meet through social interaction are likely to become the most important partners in your life. A new friend you meet may one day become the one who pulls you up when you are down. A noble man.
Human beings are social animals. Except for the occasional need to be alone when they feel lost, they spend most of their time among people.
There are so many people in the world, and you can meet new faces every moment. Some of these new faces will eventually stay and become familiar faces in your social circle. Being a member opens up another new possibility.
So, we need to socialize and constantly update our circle of friends to meet new people.
However, you also need to know that not everyone you know is worthy of sincerity. There are many people who are only suitable for passers-by to meet by chance, meet briefly, and then pass by.
As the saying goes, rely on your parents at home and rely on your friends when going out.
If a person wants to walk in society, he cannot do without the extension and update of his circle of friends.
Social networking is like an invisible arm on the human body. It can not only help solve many things, but also continuously expand and extend, allowing you to see many worlds you have never seen before.
Because of this, improving social skills is crucial for everyone.
But everyone is born different, with their own personality traits and background conditions, both of which determine your future development direction.
So, different people must have different ways of socializing.
People are divided into good and bad, and social methods can naturally be divided into good and bad, but there is no necessary connection between the two.
A person with a bad moral character may be a social butterfly, while a kind and upright person may be a social phobic.
The way you want to get to know and get along with others depends entirely on your own choice, but in general, the smarter the person, the more he knows how to adopt good social methods and abandon this Three types of bad “social ineffectiveness”.
01 Money-oriented social interaction
It is said that the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, while the friendship between villains is as sweet as sweet wine.
People who always tie money and friendship together, no matter how many friends they make, they are just fair-weather friends.
Everyone compliments each other on weekdays, and what they say is better than what they sing. Those who don’t know better think they are life-and-death friends. But once you are in trouble, it’s like a tree falling and the hozens scattering. All of them disappear.
When you make a comeback, they will appear from all over the place again, talking affectionately and flatteringly, as if nothing happened.
This kind of friendship built with money is the most flashy and cannot be called a true friend at all.
Really smart people can clearly distinguish which friends are truly worth getting to know, and which friends are people who have ulterior motives and only care about money. No matter how good those people are, they will stay away from this circle.
02 Social without scale
There is always a gap between people. No matter how close friends are, they will leave room for each other.
If you stretch your hands too long and put your ears too close, it will inevitably make others feel uncomfortable.
Even if the other party doesn't say anything out of concern for face, they will silently distance themselves from you and gradually alienate you.
You should grasp the scale of social interaction. After crossing that line, no matter how long the friendship is, cracks may occur.
Only by controlling the scale well can friendship be grasped. Only by being intimate and timely can friendship always exist in a just and delicious position.
Smart people have long given up on this kind of unscaled social interaction. For those who have no bottom line and pry into privacy, staying away is the best choice. Otherwise, one day, your family chores will become Other people's after-dinner conversation.
03 Socializing with a lot of talk
Everyone has met such people in reality. At first glance, they appear to be talented and eloquent, and they can talk about anything. He is eloquent and can almost make everyone admire him if they are not familiar with him.
When I found out the details, I realized that he was just talking nonsense, and hardly one of the ten sentences was true.
People who open their mouths and are full of lies are destined to have few true friends, and there are not many fools among adults. Everyone is clear-minded in their hearts.
No matter how nice you say it, no matter how boastful you are, no one will take it seriously as time goes by.
Smart people have long distanced themselves from such hypocritical social interactions, and at the same time will keep a distance from people who use this method to make friends.
In fact, when getting along with others, no matter in love or friendship, it is important to exchange sincerity for sincerity. People who talk all the time are undoubtedly not sincere, and smart people can see through it at a glance.
Time and Emotion Classroom:
Communicating with people is an art, and the truth behind it is something that people can’t summarize in a lifetime, but the core of it is just eight words: respect Others are as close as they come.
No one can live without friends. No matter you are rich or poor, a genius or a mortal, you all need the blessing of friendship.
If you don’t have any friends, you will be swallowed up by loneliness and loneliness; however, if you have too many friends, you will consume a lot of time and energy.
Interpersonal communication is one of people's needs, so like other needs, it has a limit. It is best to keep it moderate. Nothing is absolutely necessary, and too much is harmful and useless.
Human energy is limited after all, and the most precious time and energy must be spent on the most effective social interactions.
It doesn’t matter how many friends you have, what matters is quality. A large group of fair-weather friends are not as meaningful as a close friend.
Some people only have a few close friends in their lives, and they probably don’t spend much time on friendship, but this kind of true friendship can bring more than any other relationship. Irreplaceable.
So, if you give up those ineffective social interactions, your life will be better, your interpersonal circle will be clearer, and you will gain more "wealth".