After watching "Thirty Only" and then watching "Twenty Not Confused"

I had an indescribable feeling.

We are between twenty and thirty,

caught in the middle, in a dilemma.

Just after adolescence, the midlife crisis ushered in.

Just as netizens said: "I dare not look at twenty without confusion, because it is a youth that I can't get back."

I dare not look at thirty, because that is the time when we are about to go "The life we ??are facing."

The four girls who have just entered society in "Twenty Not Confused" have different personalities:

Duan Jiabao, a girl from a wealthy family, is passionate about food and star chasing, and has a very different personality. She was innocent, she met a big bear who really treated her well, but when she figured out her feelings and found that she didn't really like him, she chose to end this relationship that everyone envied.

Luo Yan, a "home girl" who was once addicted to games, had no worries about food and clothing, and met Lu Ran by chance. The two fell in love at first sight, but they always bumped into each other because their love was mixed with too many family factors. Touch, finally understand that no one can rely on anyone else, after all, you have to rely on yourself to solve the problem.

Liang Shuang, a beautiful girl who wants to be an Internet celebrity blogger, is cold on the outside and hot on the inside. She thought she was about to realize her dream of becoming a princess. However, she was slapped hard after seeing through the scumbag, and she became down-to-earth and polished. In his career, he got together with Zhao Youwei, a humanistic photographer who was an enemy of Huanxi.

Jiang Xiaoguo, an ordinary girl with an ordinary background and average appearance, is smart and motivated, enthusiastic and righteous. In the workplace, she meets Zhou Xun, a tsundere boss with extraordinary ability, maturity and indifference. Slowly approach your heart and express yourself bravely.

Exchanging sincerity for sincerity, Zhou Xun also became softer in getting along with him, and finally the iron tree blossomed, and finally he no longer concealed his love for Xiaoguo and shared his feelings.

After waiting for a long time, finally today, the story of Cinderella and the prince came into reality, and it was a bit unreal.

Unexpectedly, at this moment, Xiaoguo rationally refused.

Some people think it’s a pity, but I admire Xiaoguo’s courage and rationality. If it takes courage to accept, it also takes courage to let go. After all, it is not easy to fall in love with someone who is so agreeable if you don’t want to give in.

And Xiao Guo knew very well that when Zhou Xun said that love accounts for at most 10% of the drama, when the company faced difficulties, he had to let Xiao Guo be the "scapegoat" for the sake of the overall situation and made the decision to fire Xiao Guo. At that moment, the difference between the two became clear.

At the critical moment of the company's life and death, Zhou Xun, as the helmsman of the company, shoulders responsibilities in addition to the love between his children. He has been accustomed to being the pride of others since he was a child, and his self-motivation to pursue challenges under high demands occupies his energy. Leaving 10% for feelings is already the highest value he blurted out at this time.

Xiaoguo, who grew up with her mother, became more cautious about relationships when she was cheated on by her ex-boyfriend. But as long as she recognizes someone, she will love her wholeheartedly, and she is even more afraid of getting hurt easily. Probably only those who have really dedicated themselves to it can understand this 10%. She longs for love, but she is never blind. Otherwise, Xiaoguo would not flatly reject Duan Zhenyu, the second-generation rich young lady, who is pursuing her.

At this time, Xiao Guo and Zhou Xun were at odds with their views on love. If a relationship has too different views on love in general, it will probably put pressure on both parties. Yes, Zhou Xun is a good beacon, mature, rational and sensible, but Xiaoguo's pursuit of love is romantic and down-to-earth. Work is important and love is also important.

At this moment, I also need your wholehearted love. I know that my idea is immature. If I can't give it, then we can each be perfect and let ourselves be our own light first.

No one has taught us how to love, maybe we are learning to love in this life. We don’t know what the future will bring, but we must understand love better than before because of these experiences.

Social animal seems to have become a common word in the workplace that both you and I know.

Most of us just sigh: we are busy and have no choice but to live our lives.

Whether it is "Twenty Not Confused" when we first enter the workplace, or "Thirty" when we enter our thirties. "That's all",

The workplace is a large chapter that blends emotions and life, but in fact it also explores the balance between them.

Working overtime for too long may cause physical imbalance; working too hard at work may cause family imbalance; being completely dependent on family and losing the ability to be financially independent may cause self-imbalance; even if it seems to be perfectly balanced on the outside, it may just feel good about oneself and there is imbalance in the intimate relationship. .....

"The Courage to Be Disliked" mentioned a concept about the coordination of life: "Workaholics" defend themselves because they are too busy at work to take care of their families. This is the lie of life. , I just use work as an excuse to avoid other responsibilities. Life should be concerned about family affairs, raising children, friends and interests, rather than focusing on one part in particular.

Work does not specifically refer to working in a company. Work at home, raising children, contribution to society in the region, hobbies, etc. are all considered work, but they are only a small part of it. The work in the company is a lifestyle that lacks the coordination of life.”

I still remember the little easter egg at the end of each episode of “Only Thirty” that impressed me deeply:

About. The daily life of a 30-year-old couple and their young son who sell pancakes and fruits on the roadside. They get up early and stay late at night, and have a busy life. They rush to close the stall on the roadside during heavy rain and get wet. In the hot summer, the young son gives his mother a small fan to keep cool, and they go home together. Playing electronic games is a small blessing.

At the end of the story, the couple opened their own shop. They no longer had to cover their son’s ears to secretly drink soy milk, which saved a lot of time running around and left the three of them with more time to spend together. This is the life coordination of ordinary people becoming better step by step, ordinary and real.

Well, there is still a lifetime to practice balance, calmly accept the things that cannot be changed, be brave enough to change the things that can be changed, and have the wisdom to distinguish the difference between the two.

Gu Jia in "Only Thirty" is probably what most girls want to be, a leader at home and abroad, resolute and prudent in doing things, and her EQ and IQ are always online.

Zhong Xiaoqin, a girl from Shanghai who seems to have no ambition, married her husband who is a guaranteed rice bowl in a public institution. She keeps an ordinary job and later discovered her writing potential. Her life has twists and turns but is also stable.

Wang Manni, a luxury goods store girl who came to Shanghai to work alone, has great looks and passable business skills. She has potential but always falls short of success. There is a fierceness that is not satisfied with the status quo, and firmly believes that one always deserves better.

Among the characterizations of the three characters, Wang Manni is probably the most controversial. Some people say she worships money, while others say she admires strength:

She thought she would be fine as long as she became a deputy store owner. Suddenly, a new assistant store with wide eyes and jingle bells popped up;

I thought it would be good to catch the rich and handsome Liang Zhengxian, but unexpectedly, I was slapped by my real girlfriend and woke up my dream. ;

She thought it would be good to live a life of peace and quiet in her hometown. Unexpectedly, it inspired her stubbornness to brave the wind and waves.

In the end, Wang Manni rejected the opportunity to be a store manager that she had longed for, as promised by Mr. Wei, and chose to study abroad to further herself. It seemed unrealistic, but it was also true enough: We always have the opportunity to choose. Why do people have to be trapped by one city, one career, and one possibility? Respect your own feelings at this moment, don't live under various standards, and gather enough ability to pursue it bravely.

Share a passage that I like very much, as follows:

Life is a series of moments, the past and the future do not exist. You want to review the past, foresee the future, and give yourself An excuse to absolve yourself of responsibility.

What happened in the past has nothing to do with the present; and what will happen in the future is not a question to be considered now. When you live seriously in the "here and now," you won't even think about these things.

It is indeed interesting to look at life as a story. But the subsequent development of the story always feels a little "as expected", and it makes people want to just follow the story. Because your life is like this, this is the only way to go, and it becomes a gold medal to avoid death. This is a complete lie in life.

When you stand on the stage of a theater, if the lights of the venue hit you, you might not even be able to see the first row. Putting the spotlight on the "here and now" is about focusing carefully and carefully on what can be done in the present moment.

May we continue to focus on living at this moment, make choices that are true to our hearts, maintain our courage, and rely on our own strength to stand firmly on the ground, solid and indestructible.

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