When we know the people around us, only through the first contact with him can we make a first impression, and then through further communication, we can gradually discover his true face. However, if you want to survive in society, you must know how to hide and disguise your truest self, so that you can better show a positive image to others. When we make friends, it is difficult to find out the true side of each other. However, in the bar, we can judge his character by his behavior. After all, the bar is the most relaxing moment, and people's true temperament can be revealed.
When you find that the people around you have the following three behaviors in the restaurant, please be vigilant and don't come too close, because he is not worthy of your deep friendship.
One is a person who keeps persuading but never drinks.
China is a hospitable country, and it is a great pleasure to have friends coming from afar. At banquets, we always provide wine and food for our friends, and we will warmly and politely let them taste our wine. Therefore, in ancient times, "persuading wine" was synonymous with enthusiasm and courtesy.
Nowadays, the wine industry has changed the taste of persuading people to drink, and the people who persuade people to drink have become shameful.
There is a colleague in the department who has a good relationship with me. She tells me everything, just like her sister. However, when I attended a cocktail party with her, I completely changed my opinion of her.
In the department, most colleagues can't drink, especially female colleagues. However, as a Hakka, I can drink more, which is known to all. Once, in order to repay the help of our company, the customer hosted a banquet and invited colleagues from all over the company to eat. At the beginning of the dinner, the client's boss came to propose a toast with a glass and said a lot of polite thanks to us. Then we all raised our teacups in return for not drinking.
Unexpectedly, my good colleague added: "Manager Chen, she is a Hakka and can drink very much. She can drink very much. " Later, she changed the glass on the table into a teacup in my hand, and motioned for me to drink with Manager Chen. Suddenly, my face turned red. I explained that I couldn't drink it recently, but she kept echoing: "What's wrong? Drink it quickly, and don't keep Manager Chen waiting too long."
In this way, under her input, Manager Chen and I drank three glasses of wine in a row. I didn't expect that the person who kept urging me to drink in the restaurant was actually my best colleague. If a true friend will advise not to drink too much, so as not to hurt himself, then I really recognize her face.
Then, the leaders of the client company came to propose a toast. At the signal of the leader, everyone raised their glasses and took a representative sip. In the meantime, a client who worked with her offered to drink with her. Unexpectedly, she pushed me out again and introduced me to the customer: "Come on, Miss Li, you can find her after drinking. She is good at drinking. "
That night, my colleagues kept urging me to drink with my clients, but I didn't drink at all. Later, I laughed at my good capacity for drinking. I'll drink on her behalf next time.
For such colleagues, I am really speechless. When others make things difficult, they will only push me forward, while they will hide in a safe corner to spy on all this. This selfish man is unworthy of making friends.
Second, talk openly about other people's privacy.
In a restaurant, if everyone drinks too much, it will become less formal. Some people will sleep on their stomachs when they are drunk, while others will talk endlessly.
Brother Li in the department is a generous man. His only shortcoming is that he is careless and likes to tell others' privacy in public. On one occasion, the department got together and the managers, supervisors and other leaders were present. However, the drunken Li Ge began to have a sense of existence. In order to attract the attention of the leader, he said drunkenly, "I'll tell you something." Do you know that Li Ming's girlfriend is making a scene in the company? " Everyone was surprised. Li Ming at the same table looked at Brother Li in horror and tried to cover his mouth.
Then, Li Ge said drunkenly, "I said, Li Ming is a bad boy. He bullied other girls, and now he is dating other women. What do you think? "
Some colleagues who like to listen to gossip coaxed Li Ge to go on. Li Ge, flushed, explained that Li Minghe's girlfriend's private affairs were put on the table, which made Li Ming feel ashamed.
In fact, Li Minghe and Li Ge are good friends, and Li Ming will tell Li Ge about his private affairs. I didn't expect Li Ge to make his private affairs public in order to show his sense of existence in front of leaders and colleagues. Li Ming hated him and vowed never to associate with him again.
It is shameful for anyone to use other people's privacy to add words to himself. Consume other people's sincerity and trust, and finally can only be reduced to a situation without friends.
Third, people who pretend to drink.
I believe everyone has the same experience. Others take the initiative to propose a toast to you, only to find that the other person's cup is boiling water after drinking it, which gives people a feeling of disrespect.
Some people don't know how to drink, so they like to change the wine into boiled water, which means taking the initiative to toast everywhere. In the end, it's not good to be found.
Colleagues are allergic to alcohol. He can't drink, but he likes to show off. He likes to hold a glass and ask people to toast everywhere. When he drinks white wine, he changes it into boiled water in advance, and when he drinks foreign wine, he changes it into tea. He found someone else to clink glasses and drink, which was also a booing. He drank three cups together until he got others drunk.
Actually, drinking is a courtesy. Your initiative to propose a toast represents your sincerity. However, it is a little unreasonable to propose a toast to someone else's wine when you know there is tea in the cup. This kind of deceptive behavior is not worth promoting. You can show that you can't drink, but you respect each other. You can only use tea instead of wine to show your gratitude. I believe that others will feel your heart and sincerity when they hear this sincere sentence, and naturally they won't mind if you drink tea or not.
Wine is like character. When you find that people around you have the above three behaviors, you should be vigilant and don't come too close.