No matter how good you are with your girlfriends, you should keep your distance: as mentioned above, fire prevention, theft prevention and girlfriends prevention. This sentence is absolutely true. In love life, countless women have been stolen by their girlfriends. It is a lesson of blood to make a woman sad and miserable, and even have a lifelong psychological shadow. If a woman wants this ending, she is too close to her best friend. I will tell my best friend any secrets and shortcomings, and even my boyfriend's every move and even hobbies. Then your best friend will teach you to be a man, rob your boyfriend and beat you completely. Don't think that this kind of thing won't happen. In reality, it can be said to be everywhere. Taboos to pay attention to with girlfriends and taboos to pay attention to with girlfriends: it is true that girlfriends should keep their distance no matter how good they are. If you don't keep your distance, you will regret it in the future, but you will be miserable and sad all your life. After all, being betrayed by two people I love most is not something everyone can bear. Therefore, in order to avoid this tragic ending, women should pay attention to the taboo of being with their girlfriends. For example, don't say anything about Dachuan's boyfriend. Many women will tell their girlfriends a lot about their boyfriends, who they are and how they are gentle and considerate. Finally, I will ask how to get along with my boyfriend, which is silly and naive. Make it clear that many women and girlfriends don't care about money. But often this kind of thing is prone to contradictions and estrangement. Finally, something unexpected happened. How should girlfriends get along? We must understand that everyone has shortcomings, that is, shortcomings, and your girlfriends are no exception. After all, no one is perfect. So you can kindly remind her. You can rely on your girlfriends, but you can't rely on the so-called girlfriends, that is, those female friends who can stand the test of these mundane things, confide in each other, trust each other and rely on each other. Best friends are the most familiar and intimate friends. However, with the different living and learning environments of two people, everyone will have their own new circle of friends. But as girlfriends, no matter how they develop, they will still sincerely hope that the other party is good. Although they are girlfriends, they still have their own life circle and living environment. We can rely on them when we are sad and share them when we are happy. Remember, we shouldn't be blindly attached to your girlfriend. Sharing life with girlfriends in this fast food world, especially in a city like a cement forest, all kinds of pressures often force people to be in a busy state, so we need more warmth to comfort each other and share laughter and sadness with girlfriends, which can make us feel the kindness and strength we haven't seen for a long time. Of course, maybe we really can't meet Rachel and Joey on the sofa in the cafe as in Friends, talking and laughing, talking and cursing. Then, call and send a message to your dear girlfriends every once in a while. No matter what your parents have learned or what you have seen in the workplace, your girlfriends will know that you are thinking about them, and they will feel valued and happy because they have their own important position in your heart, which is far more than in Xin Kai. Change is inevitable, and invariance is accidental. There will always be promotions, but certainly not everyone. Friends, classmates and even former subordinates who work in the same unit have become bosses. This kind of thing has happened and will continue to happen. Everyone will encounter a role change in the workplace, but not only the role of the promoted person has changed. As the other half's best friend who has not been promoted, her role has also changed, from the original colleague friend to the subordinate friend. And from the perspective of work, it is mainly the role of subordinates. If this role change cannot be handled properly, the relationship between friends will also be affected. Always support her (him). Even if the whole world doesn't believe her (him), neither will you. You should stand beside him (her) silently, make room for your shoulders when necessary, and accompany her silently. There is a kind of girlfriend who is very tired. 2. Getting along with girlfriends requires appropriate restrictions. Without these three kinds of help, their relationship can last a lifetime. 0 1. Personal feelings, without help, John and Gray said in "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus": "When Venusians are depressed or stressed, she is more inclined to talk to her girlfriends. She will tell all kinds of worries and unhappiness to people she trusts, and her heart will be much better. " Women pay attention to emotional communication and interpersonal relationships, so they will talk to people they trust and ask for help, which is also a unique way for women to relieve stress. So whether girlfriends can live in harmony depends on personal feelings to help. Smart girlfriend knows the importance of listening, be your faithful listener, feel your pain and difficulties, give comfort and care, help you adjust your mentality and restore your normal thinking mode. If you don't know proper limit's best friend, you will mainly give advice and help you with all kinds of advice so that you can listen to her. What should you do? In the end, two things will happen. First: the advice given is correct, the problem is solved, and everyone is happy. Second: because of your suggestion, the relationship with your boyfriend or husband broke down, and the responsibility was put on you, which affected each other's feelings and caused serious direct trouble. Many women always mistakenly think that I should give them advice when my girlfriends talk to them and help them, otherwise they will lose their meaning of existence. In fact, she had already made a decision on this matter before asking you for help. She just wants you to be her confidante, speak out her troubles and relieve her pressure, instead of really making suggestions. So, if you want to keep each other's feelings for life, don't get involved in each other's personal feelings. If you haven't experienced her, you have no right to advise her. Once her personal feelings are not harmonious because of your decision, you are also to blame. 02, personal grievances, not helping my cousin once had a very good girlfriend. It is no exaggeration to say that the two are so good that they can't tell you from me. They exchange clothes and enjoy a lot of things. Such deep feelings have come to an end because of repeated stab in the back. Once, my best friend had an argument with a colleague in the company, gnashing his teeth with anger, and asked my cousin for help. My cousin said that if you get along with others, you may not get along well. If she cares too much, she will not be happy. But her best friend was angry, and she didn't help when she was bullied. She sarcastically said that cousin, as a sincere expression, found several people to beat that person up. Although it is only some skin injuries, it is now a society ruled by law. If anything happens, it makes sense. You really don't go through legal procedures, and you can't hit people. The other party called the police and stayed in the hospital. Cousin was locked up for seven days and compensated the other party for 10 thousand yuan. The matter was finally solved, but her best friend's behavior completely hurt her cousin's heart. It stands to reason that such a big thing happened, my best friend should apologize to her, say sorry and thank you, but she has a irrelevant attitude. It's none of my business if you hit me. At that time, my cousin realized that no matter how good the feelings of girlfriends are, they can't help solve personal grievances. The other party not only didn't appreciate it, but also pushed their feelings to the end and certified what a real plastic sister flower is. The meaning of girlfriends' existence is to be each other's emotional confidants and help each other on the premise of obeying the law. If girlfriends are so upset and incomprehensible, it is not a pity to lose such girlfriends. Therefore, if you want to maintain a lifelong relationship, you must help as much as possible, and you must stick to your position when you should not help. Although the other party was unhappy at that time, you will understand your pains and intentions after you calm down. When you establish appropriate boundaries and know each other's bottom line and principles, you will not touch and trample easily, and your feelings will continue to develop. 03, personal entrepreneurship, don't help cooperation investment Tingting and girlfriends are college classmates. They are married and have children separately. Tingting has a good relationship with her husband, and her work income is very high. Her best friend and her husband have been married for five years. Because of their incompatible personalities, they work while taking care of their children, and their lives are quite tight. However, the girlfriend has a strong personality. Although they don't have much money to start a business, I believe they can find investment partners with their own brains and confidence. In fact, except Tingting, she can't find anyone else to invest in her. Tingting saw that her best friend was not doing well and wanted to really help her, so she generously invested 300 thousand. She promised Tingting that she would find a way to pay back half of her money if she lost money, but these promises were not in black and white, and as a result, she lost completely because of her lack of experience. Not only did she not mention money, but she also deliberately avoided Tingting. Tingting is a little angry. When she invests in you, she doesn't care about the money, because she knows the situation of her best friend, and even if the money is not returned, she is ready not to return it. But not a word. Just like disappearing into the air, no one can stand it. One day, when I was shopping in the supermarket, I met my best friend. Before Tingting could speak, her best friend said that cooperation and investment are all your wishes. Besides, there is no contract. Don't ask me for money. Tingting only said that years of girlfriends are not worth 300 thousand. Thank you for letting me understand this truth and never see you again. As the saying goes, friends are easy to do, but partners are hard to do, especially girlfriends with particularly good relationships. Once money interests are involved, feelings are difficult to maintain. Most women have empathy. When they see their girlfriends encounter difficulties in life or work, they all want to lend a helping hand to each other. This idea is correct. Feelings are not just lip service, but different ways of helping determine the direction of girlfriends' feelings. You can help her find a job, or you can help her solve her financial difficulties appropriately, provided that you give money, borrow money and invest money. If you give it, you can show your mind according to your own ability. After all, you have to live. If you borrow it, you should be psychologically prepared, and it is best not to help with cooperative investment, because if the amount is too large, once you lose all your money, economic disputes will occur, and your girlfriend who involves interests will be torn. It's best not to involve money when getting along with your girlfriend. Some people can't stand the test of money, and their feelings are worthless before money. When you suddenly wake up, you lose money and feelings. Appropriate restrictions, people who know how to get along, don't cross the line, don't step on the line, and don't help the above three things, the relationship can last a lifetime. There is a kind of girlfriend who is very tired to get along with. How should a girlfriend get along when she becomes a boss? Two incompatible relationship models When girlfriends become their own bosses, various maladjustments arise. The reason is that two different relationship models are confused: the best friend is the friendly relationship model, and the boss and subordinates are the working relationship model. In the female friendship model, the best friend is the one who can tell her the deepest secret, even if her husband or boyfriend refuses to tell them. In life, you can go shopping in strange bedfellows; At work, we can talk about office gossip together, complain about the boss together, "gossip" the boss together, and even shield each other from skipping work. The unique sympathy, pity and care of women are fully reflected in this model. In the working relationship model of women, no matter at the same level or between superiors and subordinates, everyone takes their own standards as the center and looks at their work with a' duty' mentality. In the absence of competition and contradiction, there are few interests disputes between them, but the open space between them is relatively narrow, which is completely inconsistent with the interoperability of girlfriends. When there is contradiction or grade difference, self-centered attack and defense becomes the principle of mutual relationship. This reflects women's strong sense of self-protection against infringement. Therefore, if the girlfriends who work in the same unit are in a peer-to-peer relationship, the two relationship models seem to be able to merge together, but when the peer-to-peer relationship becomes a superior-subordinate relationship, the incompatibility of the two relationship models is reflected, and the trust between two people is no longer as good as before, and the intimacy is less and less, and the friendship is prone to cracks. Girlfriends have become the boss's coping skills. Accept the reality, avoid jealousy, and don't show your emotions. If a friend's promotion day turns into a broken relationship, you will definitely suffer in the future. At present, the best friends of female white-collar workers in the workplace are mostly young ladies with similar age and qualifications. Others turned out to be college or middle school classmates. After working together for a period of time, the other party was promoted to his boss. At this time, the most sad thing is the psychological level. I can't figure it out. She was introduced by me. Why is she my boss now? Even if your best friend has a thousand reasons why he shouldn't be promoted, you have a thousand reasons why he should be promoted, so don't delve into anything at this time. Accepting reality is the best choice. If the inner conflict, externalization will show all kinds of disharmony and produce contradictions. Put yourself in the other's shoes: Suppose you are promoted, how can you become a competent leader? So give more understanding to your friends and prepare yourself for change. "If you are not in your position, you will not seek your own government." If you go to that position to simulate, you may realize that you are a little "easy to say." Active communication. Since you are a good friend with nothing to say, you can take the initiative to say: I will be your subordinate in the future, so treat me as your subordinate. People's hearts are all meat. If you are such a good friend, she will never forget your friendship. Get along with your best friend's boss. Your best result is that you are the boss at work and your best friend in life. If you believe that details determine success or failure, then these details are very important in getting along with the girlfriend who becomes the boss. Just kidding. Jokes between girlfriends are generally not measured, but jokes with bosses are different. When my best friend becomes the boss, of course, private jokes are ok, but in the workplace, I have to be very careful. On the one hand, I have to take care of her image in front of my subordinates, on the other hand, I have to avoid joking too much, which leads to the boss of my best friend losing face and being unhappy. Address. We used to just make a phone call. Name, nickname, nickname will do. If everyone calls her "official name" now, at least you should be consistent with everyone in public. This may not matter between you two, but it will have a subtle influence on the relationship between the "boss" and other subordinates. Therefore, you use the same address as everyone else, not alienating her, but helping her establish a leadership image. Intimate behavior. In the past, I didn't shy away from intimacy in front of other colleagues, and occasionally I could do some intimate actions. Now be serious. This does not mean that your relationship has changed, but that she can work normally. Only by letting everyone see that you have no special relationship at work can she give you some special care when needed.