The first step to improve interpersonal communication and master successful interpersonal skills is.

Understanding people and human nature can be simply summarized as "people-oriented" and "people-oriented", instead of looking at others with your own eyes, let alone imposing your will on others. People are interested in themselves first, not you! In other words, a person pays ten thousand times more attention to himself than to you. Realizing that "people care about themselves first, not you" is the key to life.

Second, how to talk with others skillfully.

When you talk to people, please choose the topic they are most interested in. What are their most interesting topics? It's themselves! Take these words out of your dictionary "I, myself, mine". Switch to another word, the most powerful word in human language. It doesn't matter whether you are interested in the dialogue, what matters is whether your audience is interested in the dialogue. When you talk to people, please talk about them and guide them to talk about themselves. In this way, you can become the most popular conversation partner.

Third, how to subtly make others feel important.

One of the most common characteristics of human beings is the desire to be recognized and understood. Do you want to feel at home in interpersonal relationships? Then, please try to make others realize their importance. Remember, the more you make others feel important, the more they will repay you.

1. Listen to them.

Praise and praise them.

3. Use their names and photos as much as possible

Please pause before answering.

Step 5 use the words "you" and "yours"

6. Be sure of those who are waiting to see you.

7. Pay attention to everyone in the group

Fourth, how to identify with others skillfully.

Never forget that any fool can oppose others, and only wise men and great men will agree, especially when the other party makes mistakes! "Identity art" can be summarized as the following six points:

1. Learn to agree and recognize.

When you agree with others, please say so.

When you disagree, don't tell them unless you have to.

When you make a mistake, be brave enough to admit it.

Avoid quarreling with others

6. Correctly handle contradictions

The root of identity art lies in:

1. People like people who agree with them.

People don't like people who are against them.

People don't like being opposed

Five, how to listen to others skillfully

The more you listen, the smarter you will become, the more people will like you, and you will become a better conversation partner. Of course, being a good listener is not an easy task. Here are five suggestions for your reference:

1. Look at the speaker

2. Stay close to the speaker and listen carefully.

ask questions

Don't interrupt the speaker's topic

5. Use the speaker's names "You" and "Yours"

Six, how to influence others imperceptibly

The first step in getting people to do what you want is to find out what motivates them to do it (that is, what they want). Say what others want to hear, and others will be moved. You just need to simply explain to them that they can get what they want by doing what you ask them to do. The way to "know what others think" is to watch and listen more, plus your unremitting efforts.