Because children are mentally immature, it is very easy for them to be handed over to "foolish friends" on campus, which is something that many parents feel helpless about. Moreover, children's "views on making friends" are usually all kinds of weird. It is often the case that yesterday many people were close and inseparable, but now they are despairing and have vowed never to interact with each other after graduation. Therefore, many parents have no preventive measures against the fickleness of their children and their friends. And today's children, even if they are the second or third child, are not raised by your family, the elderly and the family, under the doting and pampering of all kinds of things, working hard to raise them.

When it comes to communication between friends, children will basically think that they are the central figure in their circle of friends. It's just one or two kids who think this way, but it doesn't matter. The key is that the self-centered, self-centered, "view on making friends" that only considers themselves has become the normalized emotion of children born after 10 years in the current Internet age. . Therefore, we often see countless situations where children get into quarrels due to the lack of snacks, drinks, toys, cartoons, and grades and honors. It seems that it is becoming more and more difficult for children to be tolerant, courteous and understanding

With such a more selfish philosophy and mentality in making friends, children are struggling in the learning process Of course, you cannot make good friends who get along with you sincerely. On the contrary, it is easier to make friends who are naughty and domineering, refuse to correct their mistakes, and are sensitive and paranoid. In this case, should parents immediately "take action" to correct their children's wrong "view on making friends"?

First of all, selfish children can be very frustrated. The cultivation of a selfish child comes from the care and humility of parents and family in every detail. This can make children feel that they are the center of care in the family, and that their own smiles and all the joys and sorrows are like the courage of parents and family to live again.

It is difficult for children who grow up with this kind of mentality to have a true friendship. Even if they are temporarily partners because of their classmates, fellow travellers, or hobbies, the two only know how to think about themselves and cannot adapt to others. After all, the children who have sacrificed so much are just "frenemies" in each other's eyes.

Once this happens, parents need to take action immediately and teach their children to think more about others when speaking and doing things. They should also get in touch with other children who have a positive, open-minded attitude, integrity, confidence and optimism. I wouldn't have made a lot of friends in primary and secondary schools, only to find myself in a difficult situation without a close friend.

Secondly, children who spend money like water should be taught more. In fact, many problems in babies are caused by the influence of "foolish friends" in schools and classes, that is, parents and the elderly themselves. For example, when it comes to pocket money and shopping, the school rules, discipline and class system of every primary and secondary school will repeatedly emphasize that parents cannot give their children pocket money to prevent children from gathering at the school gate to "buy limited time" snacks, drinks and snacks. Toy.

But unfortunately, basically every snack stall at the entrance of a school is always surrounded by excited children on three floors inside and three floors outside. . Later, in the blind comparison with classmates and "husbands and dogs" in the same class, my children's daily pocket money for "impulse shopping" was sometimes more than the salary income of their parents for their hard work in a day. Such a "consciousness to make friends" that is left unchecked will certainly be harmful to children.

Ultimately, children who are left with "foolish friends" should be cared for by their parents. The emotional characteristics of people are essentially mutual attraction. As the saying goes, "Those who are close to ink are black, and those who are close to vermilion are red." Children who love to study are often surrounded by children who also like to read; children who are good at playing games are basically surrounded by "hardcore players"; children who like to play football want to make friends with children with excellent athletic ability.

Especially children’s “awareness of making friends” will obviously impress and disturb more classmates and friends who have similar personal hobbies. If parents find out that their children have made friends with some naughty, domineering, and bad-character “bad friends.” The most important point is that parents must examine and reflect on themselves: Are there any omissions and confusions in the process of educating their children? In fact, there is also a small social development among the children.

But what determines the "level" among children is not reputation or money, but physical health, personality and test scores.

Children with strong bodies are particularly strong in recess activities; children with weak personalities are often easily bullied on the way to school; and children with poor academic performance are always bullied by their teachers and classmates. look down. The above seems to be the most common "knowledge of making friends" among children in primary and secondary schools. Unfortunately, many parents fail to notice such problems.

In short, when a child is handed over to a "foolish friend", parents should naturally "take action" immediately. Parents should correct and investigate the reasons for their children's self-centeredness, wasteful spending and parent-child education, and use a waiting and caring teaching method to teach their children's physical health to enter the "normal" state.

Only in this way can children who are more proactive and confident be able to communicate, learn and train with children who are more kind-hearted and friendly, and live up to the ardent hopes of their parents.