This is the basis of almost all successful theories.
However, a book that made Mr Fan Deng break out in a cold sweat subverted this theory.
This book is called the Ability Trap, which tells us that if we only do what we are good at and proficient in, we will fall into the ability trap and even limit the direction and pace of our life development.
As Charles Munger said, "If your tool is just a hammer, you will think that any problem is a nail."
The teacher said that whenever someone asked him, "Teacher Fan, what is the main responsibility of studying?"
He will be very happy to say, "I'm in charge of telling books, and I don't have to worry about anything else." Even he rejects other things that make him grow and progress.
For example, docking with the capital market, meeting people from investment banks, and planning to go public. ...
He refused righteously because he thought I was a storyteller.
After reading the book "Capability Trap", he found that as the founder of the company, he always had to think about the development direction of the company, improve his leadership and find ways to activate the team. ...
I believe many people have the same consciousness as him, to break through their own ability trap and expand their ability range.
But how?
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The promotion strategy worth 20 million is given to you for free.
First, redefine your job and avoid the ability trap.
The most important method mentioned in the book is to do it first and then think.
If you want to cultivate your abilities, first look at what people with these abilities are doing every day.
Try to do what they do, and your mind will change.
Because the problem you have to solve is different from the past, but you can define a better self.
Aristotle said, "If you do more good things, you will become a good person". That's what I said.
If you want to be a leader, you must first act like a leader. Only when your work has changes and challenges can you get opportunities.
Second, rebuild interpersonal network: avoid interpersonal traps.
Everyone has two traps when expanding their interpersonal circle.
First, the narcissistic principle. I always like to find people with similar interests. If you can identify with yourself, you feel that the other person is good. If the other side opposes itself, it will refuse not to cooperate.
The second is the principle of laziness. People always like to make friends nearby. Friends are not their classmates, alumni, neighbors, nor their own children or colleagues.
I hope my friend is no more than 20 meters away from me.
The author encourages us to know more about the cross-border people who are different from you in other aspects.
Leaders generally use interpersonal networks to accomplish the following things:
1, perceive the development trend and look for opportunities.
2. Establish contact with leaders and talents in various fields.
3. Cross-field cooperation creates more value.
4. Avoid group thinking.
Teacher Fan Deng once said that one morning when he was brushing his circle of friends, he found that the circle of friends was full of Fan Deng's reading advertisements or the reading experiences of book lovers.
He realized that he had added too many members studying in Fan Deng, the staff of Fan Deng authorized reading point and the employees of the company.
Give him a false prosperity that people all over the world are studying in Fan Deng, as if their business fields have spread all over the world, and the next step is to develop the solar system.
As an experienced and knowledgeable person, he certainly knows that this is not true.
Making different friends can not only open a new cognitive space, but also consider the problem from another angle.
It should be noted that the premise of establishing interpersonal network is that you have something to do and are working hard. We must also ensure the health of interpersonal relationships.
There are three indicators to measure the health of interpersonal relationships: extensive connectivity and dynamics.
I have a wide range of knowledge and know people from all walks of life.
Connectivity, can it play the role of connecting people and teams, and can it become the intermediary and hub of information?
Dynamic, is your circle of contacts developing slowly with your progress?
There are several skills to build a good interpersonal network to share with you.
To show yourself
First, show yourself everywhere.
Take the initiative to participate in some projects and expand yourself in the task. Organize some activities to show your interests and hobbies. Let others find you, find you and attract others' attention.
Using two-degree network relationship
Find someone to introduce you to the people you want to know. Sometimes we have to meet unfamiliar people, and others will be alert and prepared. If we can find a middleman, things will be much easier.
Maintain relationship
As China said, "People keep tea cool". If you want people to keep tea cold, you must keep it constantly.
But it is common sense to protect friends and customers now.
You can get their birthday wishes for years after staying in a hotel for one night, and you can get their New Year wishes for years after knowing a friend.
Everyone has done a good job in this respect.
Find like-minded people
Finding like-minded people will bring opportunities to start a business together, invest together, make progress together and study together.
Everyone wants a dozen such opportunities.
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The third thing to jump out of the ability trap is to change the way you do things.
Many people say "I want to be true, I want to be myself".
The author said that when she was teaching MBA at Harvard Business School when she was young, she was nervous because of her lack of experience, so she went to an old professor for advice on teaching experience.
The old professor said, "It's very simple. Just be yourself in this class. "
The author pondered, "What does it mean to be myself?"
She thought about it and felt that her characteristic was academic rigor.
Then he devoted his teaching career to Waterloo.
She stood stiffly behind the podium, looking straight at the speech in Wait a minute, talking while reading the speech, and the effect was a mess.
Many students' feedback is poor and there is no interaction at all.
She asked the old professor doubtfully, "I've always been myself. How come the effect is not good?"
The old professor said, "I just want to be myself. Come to me in class."
As a result, the old professor she saw was really not the same "self" as herself.
When the old professor is in class, he is at ease, walking around the classroom, patting students on the shoulder and interacting with classmates.
The old professor said, "Do you know? Professors not only impart knowledge in the classroom, but also define the site in the classroom. " Is to have strong field control ability.
The author realizes that everyone has a different definition of "being yourself".
Many people put forward the slogan of being themselves, but they are unwilling to change and learn.
Instead, it has become an excuse for them to stand still and fall into the trap of ability.
Real growth requires us to break old ideas, let go of so-called face and identity, learn from others with an open mind and constantly set new goals for ourselves.
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Of course I know. It's easier said than done.
The ideal growth should be that the good wind uses its power to send me to Qingyun. However, in reality, growth is a swish fall, a stumble and many horse claws, and finally bounces back into the sewer.
In the end, many, many things will have good results.
According to the book, the stage of growth is like this: First, great differences have been discovered, and their own cognition has been subverted; Then, in pain, they kept rolling and rubbing on the ground, thousands of times; In the chaos, they try their best to leave a gap to catch their breath, reposition themselves, get on the right track and get a new life.
The words "seven-year itch" and "midlife crisis" were first put forward by psychologist Daniel levinson. In fact, they first refer to:
Everyone's life has a period of stability, a period of chaotic change, stability after change, and then change after stability. His research found that it was about seven years of stability plus three years of change, and then it was reincarnated once or several times.
Is it much calmer to recognize this fact? Don't fall into the trap of your ability. What seems tortuous in life is just another form of progress.
References:
Studying in Fan Deng: Ability Trap
Book: Ability Trap