First of all, college students are students first. As students, the most important thing is to study. Although learning also includes many aspects, the most basic thing is the accumulation of classroom knowledge. The cultivation and improvement of various abilities are also based on knowledge accumulation. If we overemphasize the cultivation of ability by extensive social interaction and neglect the accumulation of basic knowledge, we will break the foundation of various abilities and knowledge. Without foundation, ability training and all kinds of affairs, water without a source and wood without a root will not achieve the expected results.
Secondly, human energy is limited. If they spend too much on socializing, it will definitely affect their study and make their knowledge unstable, which is not worth the loss. People's energy is like a cake, the total amount is fixed and limited. People spend a certain amount of energy on everything, because the total amount is fixed, so once people spend too much energy on one thing, they will inevitably reduce the energy invested in other things. To achieve extensive social interaction, a lot of energy and time must be invested, which will inevitably reduce the energy invested in knowledge learning. Without the guarantee of time and energy, the effect of learning will inevitably be affected, making knowledge not firmly mastered, thus shaking the foundation of everything, not worth the candle.
Thirdly, without excellent knowledge accumulation, even the best social skills can make up for the lack of social skills. Excellent knowledge is the foundation and prerequisite for human development, and social skills are the auxiliary conditions. On the basis of excellent knowledge, if you have good social skills, it is really good for the development of college students. But if the two cannot exist, the first thing to master is knowledge. Because knowledge is the foundation of college students' future development and success, and it is the most essential and powerful weapon to solve problems. The lack of social skills can be made up by excellent knowledge, which is reflected in many scientists, but without the support of knowledge, it is impossible to achieve the goal simply by relying on good social skills.
To sum up, we believe that the foundation and premise of college students' development is the accumulation of knowledge, and extensive social activities will affect the mastery of knowledge, which will shake the foundation of college students' development. Therefore, we believe that college students' extensive social activities do more harm than good.
I support the affirmation: the advantages of college students' extensive social interaction outweigh the disadvantages! First of all, what we call extensive socialization is not promiscuity, but based on certain choices; Secondly, college students have gradually acquired a strong book learning ability before going to college. When they go to college, they should not only learn the knowledge from books, but also combine the knowledge from books with practice. That's not enough. We should take the initiative to contact the society outside school and learn what books can't learn in the protective environment of school and family. Moreover, the knowledge we are talking about now includes not only book knowledge, but also various abilities. If you want to exercise your abilities in all aspects, you should obviously base yourself on extensive social contacts. Also, although we will encounter some bad things in extensive social interaction, just like choking when eating, we can't stop extensive social interaction because of these bad things!
I think the advantages outweigh the disadvantages! We have been learning knowledge at school before, but what we have learned is very rigid rules and regulations! But times are different now. We have been studying for more than ten years, and maybe everything has been eliminated by society since we left school! I support students to actively participate in social interaction while studying! This is not only to strengthen their communication skills, but also to integrate into society step by step! After all, we are all social people, and no one can be a good person without group communication!
Advantages and disadvantages of pan-communication, I think what we college students pursue is meaningful and selective moderate socialization:
First of all, only by recognizing the disadvantages of extensive social communication can we face up to the social life of college students. Take off your rose glasses, and now on campus, "you have your own way of dressing and wearing a hat." It's good for you to smoke and drink. You eat high-end, wear fashionable clothes, play well and use famous brands. This kind of scene is everywhere. Some college students go to restaurants, catch up with the dance floor, visit places of interest, have a spring outing, have an autumn outing, celebrate birthdays and meet friends. Many and varied names, truly "extensive"! It can be described as "eating and drinking in Qi Fei, having fun and spending the same color", regardless of their own time and economic foundation, just struggling to maintain a social network. I feel very sad in my heart. It can be said that the significance and purpose of college students' socialization are not clear, their thoughts are not mature enough, and they do not have the conditions for extensive socialization. We all eat bite by bite, and so do social activities. If college students don't control social interaction, they will "eat" and swallow it down their throats. Even if they are lucky enough to swallow their stomachs, it may be indigestion, which will leave us with a loud noise of the toilet sooner or later. Everything must be measured, and things will go to extremes. It is too early for college students to socialize widely, which can only bring unimaginable consequences.
Secondly, only by recognizing the disadvantages of extensive social communication can college students choose a more suitable road to success, especially as freshmen, who are inexperienced and unfamiliar. We need to combine our own abilities, personalities and characteristics, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and work out a development plan that suits us, so that our development can be based on a more practical basis. Our life is like a tree, knowledge is the root, and a solid foundation ensures that it stands between heaven and earth without falling down; Socialization is like branches and leaves, stretching upward and outward. If the tree keeps spreading its branches and leaves in the process of growth, it looks really lush and thriving (so-called "extensive"), but in fact it has buried a hidden danger for itself, that is, it will be blown down by the strong wind one day. Learning knowledge and cultivating learning ability are the most favorable weapons for college students' future development. Only when we leave the campus, not afraid of big waves and show our talents, can we turn the tide, help the building tilt and make our branches and leaves "wide and wide".
University is a place with abundant talents, exciting competition and nervous study. Of course, it is also a place where you can get in touch with a corner of society and learn to socialize. College students' social communication also presents a situation of diversified purposes, gradual changes in methods and many difficult factors. In a noisy environment, we should calmly analyze it. In order not to bring ourselves unnecessary troubles and irreparable regrets in the future, students should remember to socialize widely and embark on a road of no return. Today, we are moving towards 2 1 century. Times have given us opportunities and challenges. We should cherish every minute and don't spend it on meaningless extensive social activities.
The night gave me black eyes, but I want to use them to find light. The disadvantages of extensive social communication make us fully realize the primary task of our college students and improve our understanding of social communication.
Diversified purposes: it is conducive to future career development and exercise social skills.
Model gradual change: dormitory as the center, social workers and online socialization as the leading factor.
There are still many difficulties: lack of time and energy, unable to find a suitable partner.
With the rapid development of new communication methods and increasingly close interpersonal communication, what are the changes, needs and problems faced by college students as members of society? The Youth League Committee of Fudan University in Shanghai recently conducted a survey combining questionnaires and interviews, and the results showed some new changes in the social and interpersonal communication of contemporary college students.
Diversified social purposes-
"Make more friends and enrich college life." More than half of college students chose this traditional answer when answering social purposes. However, the researchers found that with the changes of society, college students are becoming more and more "rational" in social goals. 18% students regard "being beneficial to their future career development" as the primary purpose of social interaction, and 30% students think that communication is "training their social skills".
In addition, by comparing grades and departments, the researchers found that the main purpose of junior students is to enrich college life, while senior students are more inclined to seek social resources conducive to future career development.
Social ways are gradually changing-
About 50% of the respondents believe that the most effective and realistic way to socialize is dormitory-centered socialization. Among the other half of the students, "social work" and "emerging social networks such as BBS and QQ" account for 26% and 18% respectively, which is much higher than the traditional "small circle based on good friends" of 6%.
The researchers believe that this result reflects the change of college students' communication concept. Most students no longer have a narrow concept of making friends, but instead pursue the establishment of more extensive and diverse interpersonal relationships.
Although emerging social ways such as BBS and QQ are gradually accepted by college students and infiltrated into their lives, the role played by emerging social ways is not valued by students. In this survey, only 8% of students regard BBS and QQ as the first choice for social interaction, and 52% of the respondents think that online social interaction is just a pastime and will not become the mainstream. Researchers have learned that the emerging social network is mainly for students to relieve the pressure of real life, seek relief or satisfy curiosity, and seek a role change. However, due to the virtuality and low reliability of online social interaction, students lack real emotional communication in the process of communication, and the level of communication is too superficial. In the survey, many students said: "Online communication is not as intimate and true as face-to-face communication." Therefore, although social networks are booming, most people still think that their entertainment function is greater than practical significance.
Social difficulties include lack of time and energy, inability to find a suitable partner, introversion and financial difficulties ... The survey shows that there are many factors for college students' social difficulties. 4 1% students think that lack of time and energy is the main reason for college students' social difficulties. What attracts researchers' attention is that another 28% students think that the main reason is "unable to find a suitable partner".
It is understood that "broad but not deep" and "enhanced awareness of prevention" have become a phenomenon in students' social interaction. There are many college students' social circles, but many interviewed students think that this kind of communication is often only breadth but not depth. There are more "nodding acquaintances" and "friends", but it is difficult to find sincere friends. At the same time, because college students are mostly only children and have a strong sense of self-protection, students are usually more cautious in communication. In addition, the survey also found that many students have a low evaluation of their social skills. Some students said that they like to make friends, but they just don't know how to make good friends.
The Youth League Committee of Fudan University believes that college students have a wide range of sources, significant differences in living habits, cultural background and regions, and the strengthening of students' self-awareness and private space awareness, which makes college students face many difficulties in social communication. How to enrich students' social knowledge and improve social art needs guidance.