Chinese people have a habit of eating. We often receive this kind of treatment in social situations. The elderly show respect to the guests. He will give the younger generation a dish, and the host will give the younger one a dish to show their respect. That kind of humility and friendliness, I am afraid that all the comrades here have encountered this kind of treatment, especially parents and seniors who give us chopsticks to pick up food and give it to you, but international etiquette is never allowed. International etiquette says Leave the food without the food. Why? The reason is simple. Put it from another perspective, you don’t know who I am, and you don’t know what I like to eat, so why should you give it to me? Isn’t that respect? Respecting others means respecting other people's choices. If you pick up the dish with chopsticks for me, what if I don't want to eat it? Because politely, I must eat it. I was unlucky once. My gastrointestinal condition was not good and I didn’t like to eat cold food. I was invited to eat hairy crabs by a comrade that day. I’ll give you one later. I had to make one after you brought it over. Then I made another one. I made another one. , he asked me to make three of them in a row. I made him have a stomachache for a week. He gave you the chopsticks and you couldn't help but eat them. This was good, but there was also a bad thing. He gave you his own chopsticks and disposed of them. It's like giving you a mouthful of spit. You say it's disgusting or not. This thing has different aspects and different requirements. But on the other hand, ordinary people don't talk about this. For example, the audience in front of the TV and the audience at the scene. Young people, two boys and girls, a young man and a woman are in love. After dusk, the two of them went out to talk and have a quiet meal together this weekend. The girl picked up a chopstick of food and expressed her affection. , I brought it to my boyfriend. How does that handsome guy feel? I’ve had that feeling too. I want to eat all the chopsticks, right? You won’t ask the other party to show the hepatitis B immunity certificate. It doesn’t make sense, so I want to follow Let me tell you, this etiquette has its scope of application and its applicable objects. You can't mess with it. So what do I actually want to tell you? When should we practice etiquette? Generally speaking, etiquette should be observed in the following three situations.

First time dating. The first time you interact with others, you have to leave a good impression on them. It is your first time to interact with others, and they don’t know your name. For example, I am dating you now, and we assume that we will be dating here for ten or eight days. You You know that I am an etiquette expert and a professor in various universities. Sometimes I do things casually, which is not obvious. For example, if you are my child, or if I, a junior, give you a dish with chopsticks, to be honest, I think highly of you, and you will be very happy about this. , but what if you don’t know someone? If you don’t know someone, it wouldn’t be a bit bad to come up to pick up food for you, so you should be polite when you first interact with someone.

On the second occasion, etiquette must be observed. When communicating on official business, each country has its own master of war. Doing official business helps to distance yourself, so when dealing with people from other units and other industries, even if Acquaintances should also be polite and have official interactions.

So when should we talk about etiquette and foreign exchanges on the third occasion? In international exchanges, there are different styles and customs. When dealing with foreign guests, sometimes it will be troublesome if you don’t follow international etiquette. For example, many of the TV viewers at the scene are from Beijing. The city flowers of Beijing are roses and chrysanthemums. There are two kinds of flowers. Chrysanthemums are especially popular during holidays. Beijing, which is decorated for the National Day before and after the National Day, is full of chrysanthemums and displays of chrysanthemums. However, those of us with experience in international communication know that foreign guests are more taboo about chrysanthemums, especially Western guests. In Western culture, chrysanthemums are reserved only for dead people. They Call it a demon flower or a funeral flower. If you say you are going to have foreign guests, and you give them a pot of chrysanthemums, you are like a living ghost. Chrysanthemums are placed in the cemetery. You gave him a pot of chrysanthemums and put them in his home, so sometimes you have to follow international etiquette when communicating internationally. So the concept we are talking about in general is when should we talk about etiquette and international exchanges.

Then the next point I want to talk to you about is why do we need to talk about etiquette?

Learning etiquette, in short, has the following three functions. The first function is to strengthen the quality. As a modern person, whether you have to deal with others or you have to do your job well, it is just right. It is very important to demonstrate one's own qualities, so education is reflected in details, and details show qualities, such as speech, behavior, and behavior. In fact, it is a matter of literacy. For example, some of our Chinese people are a bit slovenly in international interactions and formal occasions, so sometimes they are It affects your image. Some comrades sit across from you and pull up their trouser legs to reveal a pair of scuds. This at most shows that your development is normal. There are also comrades who press their nostrils and shoot out. I have seen the highest level. , he doesn’t launch, he digests it by himself, and then he gets it down. There are not many people like him, but to be honest, if you were to meet one, what would you say his quality is? Well, in international exchanges, we often encounter such comrades, which sometimes affect the image of the country, the image of the nation, and the image of our local area. Because any of you Chinese are from a certain province, a certain city, a certain district, a certain county, or a certain unit. If you go to a foreign country and blow your nose in public, people may say that you are a foreigner. When Chinese people blow their noses, they say you Chinese spit, say you Beijingers are loud, or even say you are a certain district or county in Haidian District or Xuanwu District. Therefore, the personal image of our employees actually represents the image of the organization, and the personal image of the employees represents National image, product image, and service image.

So the second role of etiquette is to shape the external image, whether in international communication or domestic communication, the personal image of employees represents the image of the organization, and the personal image of employees represents the image of products and services. So in view of this we have to pay attention to the image. I told a gay man the other day that you don't even look in the mirror. He asked me why I look in the mirror. I said look at your nostrils. You can't see them from a distance. When we got closer, we suddenly found that your nose hairs were swaying in the wind outside your nostrils. , we all suffered a stroke. This is actually an image problem. In our domestic and international interactions, our image is more important.

The third function is to learn etiquette and enhance communication. Modern people all have this desire to make more friends and build good relationships. No matter whether you like it or not, you must deal with others. Ancient people Aristotle said that a person who does not deal with others is either a god or a beast. Marx, the revolutionary teacher, said that people are the sum of social relations. You can do anything, whether you are a farmer, a worker, or an entrepreneur. Whether you are an official, a scholar, or a student teacher, you must interact with others. Since you want to interact with others, you must have the art of interaction, so learning etiquette will help you interact. You have to be able to talk about what you can and cannot say. There are rules for the game. Of course, in short, the three functions of learning communicative etiquette we just talked about are to strengthen your qualities internally, shape your image externally, and enhance communication. I can sum it up in one sentence, problem minimization. In fact, you will have fewer and no problems. To put it bluntly, you will lose less face and offend less people. In this sense, minimizing problems is actually maximizing benefits. For example, you say we need to engage in foreign affairs work, engage in foreign affairs work. Can it directly contribute to the gross national product, make more steel, and produce more grain? Impossible, but our country has a good international environment and has made good contributions to foreign affairs work. China's international image has been improved, and China's international status has been improved. In this sense, it is the greatest contribution to the country and the nation. Question Minimize, as for the issue we just talked about, it is the role of learning etiquette.